To be angry at sisters Eras tour present??

[Grealish]

I have two tween DDs who are Taylor obsessed atm. Was gutted when I didn’t get a code to get them tickets.

Well yesterday my sister came round, and told me she had a surprise for the girls. Three eras tour tickets for me and the girls!! The girls (and me) were so excited, youngest ran off to show her aunt what outfit she was going to wear, and oldest kept announcing that it was the best day of her life.

and then my sister said: “it’s a good thing your DH has the weekend off too, he can drive you to the airport!”. Well I felt like bingo in that one episode of bluey. Airport? I’m not going to the airport?

Turns out the tickets are in London. This Sunday. We live in Ireland. My sister bought the tickets, but now I’ll have to book flights and hotel. I have work on Monday so I’ll have to try book that off. We have a family holiday coming up as well as my best friends hen party so really do not have the money for flights and a hotel, if I can even find a hotel this late notice.

I just wish she’d come to me first before telling the girls, as now I’m either going to have to crush their dreams or somehow find a few hundred quid to get us all to London.

AIBU to be so angry at my sister (even tho I think she thought she was doing a nice thing.) and to think that a present should not put the recipient out of pocket…. Sorry I actually don’t even know what I’m expecting people to say back I’m just in need of a good rant.

Would you be able to get to Dublin for Sunday night with two kids and get the day off work on Monday?
If so, you are just lucky. Lots of people don't have flexible jobs and the spare money to arrange flights and accommodation at short notice.

Delighted for you that you have the money to do that! Any option other than getting cheap ish tickets for Dublin in the original sale was never even considered by us as we don’t have that kind of money to spend on a concert at the minute.

@Grealish just for future ref . It can be worth a look abroad I have brought my two sons to concerts in Belgium, France and Germany for half the price of Dublin tickets. I've done cheap transport and any accommodation, even camped.

I got the tip from a newspaper article years ago and have checked out alternatives and been lucky a few times. It has sort of become our family tradition now, see who can figure out the cheapest way to enjoy a concert 😜

It is sickening as I am a 20 minute Dart ride away,😭

Exactly, some posts smack of privilege.
I'd be fuming if my sis pulled that, I just wouldn't have been able to afford it
Then what, sorry kids you can't go?

But you have money for a hen do.

Yes, I was able to pay for the hen do as I was given months notice, is now fully paid from instalments over the last few months and is costing me a fraction of the price of what this trip to London is costing.

I think in your head I’m jetting off to Benidorm for a week on a hen do? We’re staying in Ireland and going on a night away. Hardly costing me millions.

She's also got money for every food shop she's done in the past....if we're highlighting irrelevant points I thought I'd join in....

Like that example, the hen do is money that's already spent so in no way comparable to magic-ing money out of thin air unless your only goal is to have a go at a stranger put in a very awkward position because you're jealous she's got something you want of course

I can't be bothered with reading all this pettiness now.

Glad it's sorted.

I am not jealous. I have been to the Eras Tour already! And had the best time ever thanks.

Amazing, spread that joy....there's no excuse to being a twat to a stranger just because you can then after her and a million other posts pointing out the very valid stressors

Orrr, to say it in words you might understand and couldn't be more appropriate than from Taylor herself:

'You are somebody that I don't know
But you're taking shots at me like it's Patrón
And I'm just like "Damn, it's 7:00 a.m."
Say it in the street, that's a knock-out
But you say it in a Tweet, that's a cop-out
And I'm just like, "Hey, are you okay?"
And I ain't trying to mess with your self-expression
But I've learned the lesson that stressin'
And obsessin' 'bout somebody else is no fun
And snakes and stones never broke my bones so
So, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh
You need to calm down
You're being too loud
And I'm just like oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh (oh)
You need to just stop
Like, can you just not step on my gown?
You need to calm down
You are somebody that we don't know
But you're coming at my friends like a missile
Why are you mad?
When you could be GLAAD? (You could be GLAAD)
Sunshine on the street at the parade
But you would rather be in the dark ages
Making that sign, must've taken all night
You just need to take several seats and then try to restore the peace
And control your urges to scream about all the people you hate
'Cause shade never made anybody less gay so
So, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh
You need to calm down
You're being too loud
And I'm just like oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh (oh)
You need to just stop
Like, can you just not step on his gown?
You need to calm down
And we see you over there on the internet
Comparing all the girls who are killing it
But we figured you out
We all know now, we all got crowns
You need to calm down
Oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh
You need to calm down (you need to calm down)
You're being too loud (you're being too loud)
And I'm just like oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh (oh)
You need to just stop (can you stop?)
Like, can you just not step on our gowns?
You need to calm down'

Have an amazing time with your girls, OP 😁😁😁😁😁

People are getting really stupid over these tickets and losing all common sense. Of course she should have run it by you.

I suspect she has talked to DH.

the tickets are like gold dust, you are very lucky, try not to look a gift horse in the mouth.

Read the thread

I don’t think you’re ungrateful whatsoever.

If your DS knew over two weeks ago, she should have run this by you first, although she was probably excited about surprising you too, so I can sort of understand her thought process.

Is she much younger than you with no kids (sorry if this has already been asked)

This sort of selfish behaviour disguised as generosity really bugs me. None of this is about you or your girls, it’s about your sister trying to look like a fabulous auntie with no thought about the predicament it’s put you in.
You are left with the cost to organise and the mess if you can’t.
I feel for you OP, there’s no way that’s an acceptable thing to do to you, you’ve been put in a terrible position.

Yes, but that money had been planned a year ago, and now 12 months in it's probably been spent elsewhere on other stuff!

I have the most miserable sister in law. If she had done this I would be ecstatic. Yes it’s not very well executed but it’s thoughtful of her to do it! It’s really hard work getting TS tickets. I’ve tried and failed!

How are your plans doing OP? Is everything sorted now?

How are you getting on? I hope you can to make it work. Or could your sister take them?

All sorted, hopefully! Got some very expensive 🫣 flights for Sunday morning. Not too sure what the plan is from there, we’re staying with a relative who will be working during the day on Sunday so can’t go to her house, so no idea what to do with bags? And when to get ready? Do we fly over in full eras glam? Stressed but excited!

Heading to hers after the concert and the a flight early Monday morning. Managed to arrange a half day in work so will hopefully be able to make it there for the afternoon.

Mum & Dad gave the girls some spending money which will put the pressure off a bit if they want merch or anything! & MIL gave me some money to treat ourselves to a meal over there! Feeling very excited now, will update on Monday!!

ah @Grealish your update has made me smile. What a lovely family you have. Have the BEST time.

So pleased for you, @Grealish, enjoy your awayday!

Great stuff OP! I managed to get last minute ticket to Saturday's show and so excited!

Just to set your expectations, we went to Cardiff this week and the merch sells out really early!

You won’t want to take large bags to the stadium (not even sure you’re allowed to), check for left luggage places like this https://stasher.com/luggage-storage/united-kingdom/london?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADCyj-Tzs141T19QrwcWcJf8sJn2B&gclid=CjwKCAjwydSzBhBOEiwAj0XN4FUMdpYegSszvHTvD0FwoloK0Juhp3M8bm9EAGdm068gqjpnoFrl2RoCy6wQAvD_BwE#luggage-storage-or-lockers-at-train-stations-in-london

If you’re flying in same day you can travel in your concert gear - there were loads of people on the train to Cardiff already all dressed up.

And get the girls to make some bracelets quickly!

you cant take big bags in not even sure about ruksaks so pack light if you can