To think my friend was really rude?

[Tiamaria86]

We have come for a week away in a caravan with the kids. My friend and her family booked the same week so we will spend some time with them but not all the time.

We arrived and typically its pouring down. She has just knocked on the door to ask if we want to order takeaway with them. I said oh the kids are just eating some bacon rib, potato and cabbage soup I brought with us (they love this, always request it).

She laughed her head off and asked why I've brought food like that with me. I said I've brought a big lasagne, beef stew and a chicken curry that I made as well. We will get fish and chips etc one night and maybe eat out but I thought it was just better to be prepared. She thinks I'm nuts and really made fun of me.

We've just bought a house and money is a bit tight to be honest so I did want to keep costs down and not waste money on crappy food when possible. I feel a bit embarrassed now though like I'm a tight arse!

@Willitalwaysbelikethis

how do you know OP’s food is “yummy”?

I thought on caravan holidays a lot of the food you eat is, in the caravan !
when we holidayed in caravans when our children were young we used to do a holiday shop at a local supermarket but we would buy cereals the children chose for breakfast and bacon and eggs for other breakfasts - cooked meats for sandwiches with snacks foods for in the caravan and on trips out , nice pizzas and things we classed as holiday foods for dinners and then when out the food we bought was chips at the seaside,ice creams and we would have a takeaway one night and go out to dinner another night.
you just do what works for you.

@Goodenoughmummyme

jealous of what?

and are you saying you can’t be a good mum if you are a break from cooking? Is OP’s friend a less good mum cos she wants a takeaway on holiday?

I don't agree with you here. I love cooking in our little van with the kids helping out or chatting away. If I use something due to lack of space one of them cleans it and the other dries it and puts it away. It's back to basics and it's a lovely bonding time with everyone

People are really dressing up making basic food lol. "Bonding" experience, everything in a confined space could be defined as bonding.
Look OPs friend may or may have not been rude but let's not get carried away with the love in a lasagne (that was batch cooked earlier in the week because finances are tight) and the neglect of a takeaway 🤣

“She thinks I’m nuts and really made fun of me”
you don’t think that rude? Or mean? .

can’t stand it when people are damn rude and justify it by saying you’re over sensitive!

or am I being over sensitive 🙄

We do this. We're not a family that eats takeaways, maybe twice a year. We're going to Lyon, France soon and we're staying in an apartment with a kitchen so we'll be cooking instead of eating out. My 9 year old daughter says that it'll be cosy. I think your friend could be jealous because she's not as domestic, maybe?

Listen... you've brought home cooked food that your family love and enjoy, and saved your self a fortune in the Process, they are eating rubbish processed food that probably sucks. Who's really the nutty one? You're still having a break because it's pre made. Your a genius in my eyes x

I’m in your camp, I’d bring food. Your friend did ask if you wanted to have a takeaway - maybe call it a difference of holiday expectations

I imagine this is a Haven site or similar. The food is always pretty rubbish. Just over priced fast food. Sounds like your friend is jealous. It might have been worth letting her know before hand if it was your intention to eat alone though. She does sound v rude.

I think your friend could be jealous because she's not as domestic, maybe?

I've yet to see a decent explanation of why the OP’s friend would be “jealous”. It’s unhinged.

People get jealous of wealth, expensive houses, happy relationships when they’re unhappily single… they do not get jealous because someone made soup!!

You are a forward thinking parent! I did the same as you and my kids loved it! Restaurant food and takeaways are overpriced. Save your money for your lovely new home! Well done you 💜

this.

honestly op, you sound a little bit hyacinth bouquet staying in a caravan.

Oh that’s right the friend must be soooo jealous of OPs pig rib and cabbage reheated soup… 🤢

I'd much more be eating bacon ribs ( my favourite) than a takeaway any day of the week. Myself & niece & children go caravan holidays & also make good homemade food too like yourself.
I think she is cheeky, and sounds very jealous to me. Some of us enjoy cooking the foods all our family loves, maybe her children suffer takeaway food often, if her snidey comment is anything to go by.
I'd give her a wide berth too.
Anyway, have a fab holiday, and enjoy your brilliant home cooked food

There's no need to be rude.

If I enjoy the time doing something with my children then I enjoy it.

@Poochie65

as a previous poster has said…reheated pig rib and cabbage soup doesn’t sound that “brilliant” to a lot of people…certainly nothing to be jealous of!

If you read MN, you would think the typical poster was some sort of domestic Goddess. In reality, this is not likely the case and many posters are a bit insecure about the reality.

Why would you need to stay on site. Is there a rule.

This is the equivalent of people who go on an all inclusive and never leaves the hotel grounds

Except Haven is probably more expensive 😂

People get jealous of wealth, expensive houses, happy relationships when they’re unhappily single… they do not get jealous because someone made soup

I can’t think of anyone who would be jealous of someone making a bowl of soup

“Love in a Lasagne” - it could make a great Mills and Boon 😄

Well let's just hope that she looks on in envy when you have your mortgage free party in 10 years while she's wondering why money is so tight and she can't get yet another new credit card so she can 0% balance transfer her debt around.

But surely you can understand that lots of people go on holiday to get a break from that kind of thing?

If that's your thing and you enjoy it, great, but lots of people are fed up of cooking day in, day out and don't want to do it on holidays too.

We do the same when we go to a cottage. We always get a couple of takeaways and usually have Sunday lunch out, but it adds so much extra to the cost of the holiday to have to eat out constantly. Plus, were often disappointed with food out and DD is only small so likes what she likes at the moment.

We take basic lunch stuff too, for picnics etc. on days out. It means we can do more activities, buy souvenirs, have ice creams / treats etc.

I can understand her being surprised if she's a "I'm on holiday, so I'm never cooking" kinda person. But the way she spoke to you was rude.

Does that mean you have to call someone nuts?