To think my friend was really rude?

[Tiamaria86]

We have come for a week away in a caravan with the kids. My friend and her family booked the same week so we will spend some time with them but not all the time.

We arrived and typically its pouring down. She has just knocked on the door to ask if we want to order takeaway with them. I said oh the kids are just eating some bacon rib, potato and cabbage soup I brought with us (they love this, always request it).

She laughed her head off and asked why I've brought food like that with me. I said I've brought a big lasagne, beef stew and a chicken curry that I made as well. We will get fish and chips etc one night and maybe eat out but I thought it was just better to be prepared. She thinks I'm nuts and really made fun of me.

We've just bought a house and money is a bit tight to be honest so I did want to keep costs down and not waste money on crappy food when possible. I feel a bit embarrassed now though like I'm a tight arse!

I mean maybe she's cross because she's not brought any food and assumed you'd spend the holiday getting takeaway but no excuse to be so rude.

Yeah it’s a bit rude. It’s not what I would do but If it works for you then just ignore her🤷‍♀️

She’s very rude! You’re prepared and nothing wrong with that. You can then spend your money on activities instead of overpriced takeaways. Each to their own I guess but I’m with you 😁

Who is she to judge what you choose to do? Yes, she was rude. And an arse.

I hope you enjoy your holiday and don't see too much of her.

My DC hate takeaways me and DH always feel deprived when we go away because we love a good takeaway.

Some friend! I'd be giving her a wide berth from now on. People who mock and deride others purely for doing something different to them really piss me off. I'm sorry you have to tolerate her for a week! Try to organise some activities that get you away from her. She sounds nasty. Judgemental and rude!

Maybe she was just surprised? I wouldn’t want to eat food that was cooked 4-5 days ago, but when we go to Florida we bring some things to keep the cost down.
If your alternative is overpriced takeaways I would rather eat your food.

Just ignore her.

Some people don't want to "cater" when they are away from home (even in self catering accommodation) and that's fine.

You have come prepared with a few ready prep'd meals (I'm the same) - that way we have choices and that is an equally valid choice.

You just have different holiday styles! She could have been more tactful and just shrugged it off, but only you know if your friend was being an actual knob.

I’d much rather have home made lasagne than takeaway! Fair enough if she was surprised but I think making fun of you is horrible behaviour from a friend.

You could have just said the kids were having lunch and she’d never have known!
she was a bit rude but it’s a bit strange (to me) to go on holiday and bring most of your own food already unless you’re dealing with special dietary requirements. I do understand your reasons though, you must be saving a lot with not eating out.
Hope you have a lovely time and don’t see too much of the friend!

"She thinks I'm nuts and really made fun of me."

Well she can fuck off can't she?
Enjoy your food. None of her business.

That soup sounds great - can I have the recipe please?

Maybe she just doesn't cook on holiday and prefers to eat out, same with me really, I couldn't be arsed cooking and washing up on holiday. It's not clear what she said to you though as you've said she really made fun of you, what did she say exactly?

Did you not discuss arrangements before you agreed to go on holiday together?

Honestly I'd be a bit surprised that someone had brought all those meals but that's just because that's not what our friends/family do.

It also depends how much time you wanted to spend together, maybe she was imagining you spending most meal times together. But yeah there was no need for her to be so rude about it.

Bacon rib, potato, and cabbage.

I wouldn't fancy it myself! But each to their own.

I don't think she's rude, I think she's just surprised you've bought home cooked food on holiday. Everyone holidays differently. In a holiday like yours I wouldn't bring home cooked food as for me, a big part of the holiday is eating out. Doesn't mean you are wrong or I am wrong or she is wrong, just different styles.
I think you're being over sensitive.

Laughing in your face is rude no matter what she thinks of your catering choices.

They haven't gone together, OP booked first and the friends decided to book the same week. They are in separate caravans and weren't intending to spend all the time together

We do a food shop before we go to a caravan. We take the air fryer and cook all the dinners. We have part baked rolls at lunch. Saves money and the food is rubbish in the restaurant.

We take a week's shopping and meal plan for our caravan trip every year! Same with camping.. Ds is bringing a friend this time and younger dc told him straight what teas he will be having!!

She was very rude.

I am reminded though of when we used to go on caravan holidays as kids.

My mum used to make stews/casseroles/soups and I was SO jealous of the kids who ate in the camp restaurant!

But there were 5 of us (7 including mum and dad) and it was just too expensive to do more than once or twice.

Bacon rib, potato and cabbage soup sounds amazing! And your kids love it so forget about your friend's rude comments and leave her to her McDonald's.

I'm intrigued by what a bacon rib is? A smoked pork rib? I'd like to know too 😆
Even if you haven't been away before, I'm surprised eating arrangements hadn't come up. Have you been to this site before? I can understand if you hadn't, you wouldn't know what was on offer locally. Although I might take 'some' things along, I wouldn't personally take a weeks supply of meals- the caveat being is feeding for SEN, allergies or trying to save etc which is what you are doing. Rude of a supposed 'friend' though. Maybe she was embarrassed by NOT being so organised?

She's rude. We always take a couple of homemade frozen dinners with us when we go away camping or anywhere self catering in the UK.

I've never heard of bacon rib - is that in the soup? I think I need the recipe as it sounds tasty.

Our friends laugh ( in a friendly way) at us because we always set the table properly when we are camping while they just use their laps.