To think my friend was really rude?

[Tiamaria86]

We have come for a week away in a caravan with the kids. My friend and her family booked the same week so we will spend some time with them but not all the time.

We arrived and typically its pouring down. She has just knocked on the door to ask if we want to order takeaway with them. I said oh the kids are just eating some bacon rib, potato and cabbage soup I brought with us (they love this, always request it).

She laughed her head off and asked why I've brought food like that with me. I said I've brought a big lasagne, beef stew and a chicken curry that I made as well. We will get fish and chips etc one night and maybe eat out but I thought it was just better to be prepared. She thinks I'm nuts and really made fun of me.

We've just bought a house and money is a bit tight to be honest so I did want to keep costs down and not waste money on crappy food when possible. I feel a bit embarrassed now though like I'm a tight arse!

Still no need to laugh at OP.

I don't think it sounds miserable at all. It means you get to eat nice food you all like and save money to spend on fun things. Win win.

Actually I love takeouts but a week worth is too much, and I would be craving something home cooked too! Very rude of her to laugh at you.

Very rude of her.
That meal sounds delicious. Have never heard of it.
I tire of meals out very quickly and don't like take out food. I am very fussy.
When my children were small we would often go self catering at good hotels and bringing good food for them made life much easier when they ate earlier than us.

Oh yes! You’re right. I got the wrong end of the stick somehow. That does change things somewhat.

I can remember my late mum standing at a caravan sink peeling potatoes when we were on various caravan holidays in Gt Yarmouth etc...I was also jealous of families who ate in the restaurant...my parents never bought food out and we never had takeaways.
They just saw it as a waste of money.

Your homemade food sounds yummy have a lovely time x

@myfavouritemutant I thought that too.

I'd find it odd if my friend said 'we're eating bacon rib, potato and cabbage soup' (unless i asked specifically, what are you eating) and honestly, I'd probably have laughed too - but my friends wouldn't mind! I know my SIl and my MIL would though so id probably keep a straight face and polite answer with them.

We're on a strict budget (can't afford a holiday at all) but I find the idea of eating prepared food on a holiday quite depressing. I think I'd rather prepare fresh dishes each day even if it was just baguette/cheese etc. But each to our own!

Yes my Mum was the same. I do think we have balance as we definitely will go the restaurant and eat out as well.

My mum used to bake her own cakes and treats to bring with us!

She’s being an idiot. Ignore her and enjoy all your tasty food!

Yes, sorry, I got the wrong end of the stick!

Maybe you are being sensitive.
Holidays are a break and lots of people like to have a break from cooking.
In your intro you said she was "really made fun of me" - what specifically did she say?
Maybe she felt left out?

Also a general comment: takeaways can be healthier than home cooked. Depends what you're buying.

Perhaps she assumed you would all be eating together to be sociable in the evenings.

We did a self catering cottage not long ago and I took a few bags of dry mix I'd made up for pancakes and pizza dough and things like that so I just had to add the wet stuff/toppings that we would have taken or bought anyway. It made life much easier as I had portions ready to go and didn't have to think about them. I like your precooked meals though. That's such a clever idea.

If you’re hurt by it then obviously you don’t have a relationship where you slag each other off (I have friends where we’d joke about someone being prepared or disorganised or something, I love take away so I’d more likely get slagged in a ‘no way was I turning down the chance of a chipper!’ but since you are not that person yanbu. Also: can you come and cook for us please?!

My husband makes me bacon ribs, cabbage and potatoes sometimes (not in a soup) and it is lovely. We are Irish so had it growing up too.

PS Your friend was rude!

You sound like you’ve got delicious food and your kids are lucky. Of course it’s very sensible not to eat UHP and pay over the odds when you don’t need to but I voted YABU because I would’ve mocked you too.

She’s not being rude. It’s a mindset. Whilst pragmatic, there is something very unromantic and joyless about taking pre-cooked food on holiday. Why even bother to leave your house if you’re going to sit in a caravan eating food from home?

love the sound of your food

Yeah she's rude but probably a bit put out that you've come organised while she hasn't!

Everyone is entitled to make their own food choices on holiday, and no one should make fun of someone else’s- she was very rude! We take food to caravan sites, the odd fish and chips but eating out daily is very expensive!

I've a craving for ribs and soup. Good old style food, your kids are so lucky to have you cook for them.

Your friend is an eejit.

I think she was rude, although I’m not sure I’d bring soup with me to be honest. And then say anything so descriptive. I think if you’re feeling the pinch it’s absolutely great to bring your own soup and other meals, not everyone can afford to eat out all the time, it really adds up

What on earth are you talking about? I love eating nice home made food in a caravan , I don't agree at all it is joyless
What a strange thing to say

She's not a friend she's an absolute dick. You've just bought a house so it's not like your rolling in extra cash. Making food to bring to save you money so you could still have a break away is sensible id say