.. in finding Fathers’ Day a little bit naff?

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Yeah, so dads are great, loving your dad is great, giving your dad a present is great, but the whole concept of Father’s Day for me is a bit like baby showers - that’s to say a modern invention that doesn’t quite sit right with me.

I don’t do it - dad’s dead now anyway - but we even now don’t give gifts and giant chocolate bars saying DAD.

are you a Father’s Day late adopter ? Or a refusenik? A Marshall Pétain standing firm against a Father’s Day onslaught?

Well its not that modern Google suggests, we have Been celebrating fathers day since 1910
I don't go all out with it just a token present and card .

It’s no more naff than Mother’s Day.

Do you feel the same about Mother's day, Easter, birthdays, Christmas?

It's just the same as Mother's day. Why can't good dads be celebrated just as good mums are, one day a year?

I think it's lovely to show appreciation for somebody. Alot of people will say you should show that all year, but life is busy no matter how hard we try. I think just having that day outside of a birthday is a positive thing, and gives an excuse to say things that may be perceived as OTT at other times.

As for the consumerism, it is your choice obviously, whether you take part in that. You can celebrate the day in what ever way you choose, whether that is a token gift, or just a walk etc.

I've always loved spending father's day with my dear Dad, who passed a few months ago. I enjoyed baking him his favourite cake, a thoughtful gift etc. An extra day to appreciate somebody you love is always a winner in my book.

I think both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are becoming a bit over the top.

Both my partner and I have parents that split up many years ago and both sets of parents are remarried so for example for Father’s Day we bought for our dads and step dads, plus I bought a gift for my partner off my DD and a gift off her for her dad, so in total we / I bought 6 gifts and hosted a dinner - it’s becoming expensive. I only buy token gifts, nothing extravagant but it all adds up..

My dad hates any fuss and doesn't even want a card, but it's nice for my kids to show dh that they appreciate him.

It’s not modern at all , and I’ve always celebrated it and so do everyone I know. I lost my Dad in 2022 , just been for a trip to his grave to put flowers on and wish him a happy Father’s Day

I sent my dad a card and called him this morning for a chat. We went to a pub for a roast with FIL, DH and the kids, it was lovely. The children enjoyed making cards and choosing things to put in the snack hamper we put together. None of it a huge fuss and enjoyed by all.
I think it's nice 💁

Do you do anything for your mum or if you have kids expect them to do something for you? You sound a bit of a curmudgeon with a dad grudge tbh.

It's no more naff than all of the other over-commercialised things people celebrate these days. When I was a child mother's day and Father's day used to be a home made card and perhaps a bunch of daffodils for mum and chocolate for dad, that was it. These days people expect a whole experience day.

Do you feel the same about Mothers Day?

Nope. Disagree. Like Mother's Day,

I couldn't give a shite about mother's and agree with you op

Yeah I agree ,and the same for valentines day and mothers day. Its just another day , although I do still the pressure to buy a small token gift.

I like to make a big fuss over birthdays though , as that's unique to the person, whereas I feel Fathers Day etc is commercialised.

Of all the celebrations and festivals out there I think Father's Day is probably the most low key.
Mother's Day seems to be all about breakfast in bed, "a nice" meal out, flowers, a gift that was too small or to over the top, no gift (bad), too many gifts ("I don't need anything so it's all just tat"), arguing with husbands over who is more important - you, your mum, his mum and it all ending with tears at some point.
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Father's Day is buying your dad or your husband a bottle of his favourite beer and him going
"ooh what's the occasion?"
"it's Father's Day"
"oh right.. .cheers love".

I’m 35 and we made Father’s Day cards in primary school like we did Mother’s Day. It’s really not particularly modern.

Exactly this. You don't hear dads moaning that they didn't get enough fuss, or the card was worded wrongly! 😂They're usually chilled about it. It is though highly subjective, and dependent on the kind of relationship you have with a parent, what said parent likes/dislikes and many other factors. There is no right or wrong. Happy fathers day from the cat cards or a step too far for me though.

My dad is dead. He was very loved!

Yes, you are right. Men are more cool about it and less bothered by any absence of fuss, that never occurred to me.

I think I regard Mother’s Day as more traditional because of Mothering Sunday

I’m in my 60’s. I always sent my Dad a card and a gift. It might be naff, but he was a lovely dad. I still miss him.☹️

Interested people think it was commonplace in the 70a and 80s.

Maybe my mum just disapproved and so banned it! Highly likely 😁

We 'celebrate'. As someone said upthread it's nice to take a day to say thank you to a parent. We don't buy generic shit for the sake of it though and nobody throws any tantrums or makes any demands about mother or fathers day. Just a card, his favourite chocs and/or his favourite meal cooked for him. Not sure I see the harm really...

It’s the same as Mothers Day. I am neither, and I have neither, so it makes no odds to me, lol.