.. in finding Fathers’ Day a little bit naff?

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Yeah, so dads are great, loving your dad is great, giving your dad a present is great, but the whole concept of Father’s Day for me is a bit like baby showers - that’s to say a modern invention that doesn’t quite sit right with me.

I don’t do it - dad’s dead now anyway - but we even now don’t give gifts and giant chocolate bars saying DAD.

are you a Father’s Day late adopter ? Or a refusenik? A Marshall Pétain standing firm against a Father’s Day onslaught?

Like some of the posters above, I struggle with Father's Day because a lot of, if not most, fathers are a bit crap and lazy compared to mums.

And then they get an equal day to the mums and, because it's not the crap and lazy dads organising gifts from the kids but the mums who are used to doing most stuff anyway, often they get a better celebration than the mums did on Mother's Day.

I realise this is a negative view and NAMALT and all that rubbish, but I can't help thinking that many women would be better off if both Mother's Day and Father's Day were scrapped as they wouldn't have to put up with minimal acknowledgement, if any, on Mother's Day, and then pull out all the stops for their brattish, entitled partners on Father's Day.

Mothers Day might go further back as a tradition, but it’s really great to celebrate Dads too.

Hate it! All over Fb today people missing their dads, and I know a child who’s lost his dad and a couple who lost their only child- Father’s Day (and Mother’s Day too) is heartbreaking for so many. (We celebrate it and dh milks it the same way I milk Mother’s Day though, same way we both milk our birthdays but I do hate the big picture thing

Same deal on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day here: handmade card from the kids and box of chocolates. Works for us, and the cards are nice to keep.

Father's day is 9 months before mother's day. A coincidence?

We celebrate it, did at least as far back as the 1950's, as my mum told me about cards they had made for my grandfather back then.
My DH is one of the good ones, he is an excellent father, has always been hands on, does his share of driving/clubs/homework/shopping as well as cooking and cleaning.
He is just as likely to be the one to get a call in an emergency,, as he always makes himself available as he can (when not at sea)
I celebrate him , as he does me, and that works for us, and has done for nearly 30 years now

Yep it's really annoying, along with Mother's Day.

I'll even go a step further and say Christmas is getting on my wick increasingly as I get older. Just commercialized crap that no one can afford, starting from October.

My dad thought it naff. Not needed. We don't bother. Loads of youth sport in chaos today tho as a result

@deeprealisation sorry what's youth sport got to do with Father's Day?

@Chickenuggetsticks that's lovely. I also admire you for breaking tradition. There are so that just do things the way they have always been done, and/or hide behind the word "naff." You can celebrate in a meaningful low key way. Afew thoughtful words in a card/ token gift is a great thing.

This was the first father's day without my lovely dad. I took a card, and flowers to put on his grave. Does that make me "naff?"