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Misbehaving student

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callingwith · 16/06/2024 08:40

Hi everyone,

I need to know if I am being unreasonable.. Long story short, I am a private violin tutor, teaching from home. A couple of months ago, I received an enquiry re some beginner lessons for a six year old. Parent seemed a bit rude from the outset but i ignored this (big mistake) but I decided to give them a chance as the child was very keen on learning.

Child and mother come to my house. It is clear DC has behavioural issues, running up and down my stairwell, going into personal bedrooms, picking the plants in my driveway etc. I put so much effort into these bloody lessons as the child would sulk and refuse to do anything, lying on the floor refusing to move etc. I would try asking him questions about our learning, the mood of the music, etc. to pique his interest.

Now I receive communication from the parent saying it is MY FAULT I can't control her child, and it is the job of the teacher to make sure they are scared of you?! Also how they do not agree with my method of "constantly questioning the child, the teacher should dictate authority to the student" They also said their child never had behavioural issues when learning piano from another teacher, which I know is completely false (who are they trying to kid?).

Am i being unreasonable to let them go? I'm a conservatoire trained violinist by the way with a class of 20. Noone has ever accused me of anything like the above!

DawnMumsnet · 16/06/2024 15:26

Hi all, we closed this thread earlier so we could take a look behind the scenes as we'd had reports about a similar/reverse thread. Now we've checked things out, we're reinstating this one as we have no reason to think the OP's not genuine. We have, however, deleted the other thread as it looks like that one was posted in bad faith.

Sorry for the disruption, OP!

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