to think my life is actually quite sad/pathetic?

[PatheticPup]

Don’t get me wrong, I understand things could be far worse and am grateful that, though dull, I’m surviving quite well with very little obstacles - but I do think, in the abstract, my life is quite sad.

A typical weekday for me is: 8am - 4:30pm WFH (live alone), might pop to a shop or collect my nephew or niece from school/activity 3 times a week, then back home to have dinner. In bed by 7pm, watching telly with the dog. Asleep by 10pm to do it all again the next day.

Typical weekend is similar but with zero work, more errands/chores & occasional visits to my parents/siblings’ houses for family gatherings. No friends outside of my family & work acquaintances, and no boyfriend either (PCOS has left me on the heavier side - I walk daily with the dog and the weight is falling off post treatment but I’m aware I’m not attractive to most)

Most of the time I think my life is peaceful, but I’m also 27, and have been like this since at least 23/24. Am I missing out? Or am I lucky to live such a peaceful, drama free life?

Great post

I can relate to this too.

I wonder if you are comparing yourself and that's feeding into feelings of inadequacy ref your life. I only use FBook anonymously and have zero friends on it so I can connect with others who share my multiple health problems.
Years ago I was on Facebook and being 'friends' with all these people and looking at their lives is just soul destroying. Even if we know it's all staged. I appreciate some people see it as a lifeline. It did not impact me socially one bit coming away from Facebook and I recommend more do it.

I'm now housebound but I decided to do alot on my own in recent years and loved it. Hiking/ walking in nature, going to Wales to do a small manageable hike on my own. Going for meals on my own, cinema on my own. I absolutely loved it! My best times have been these. There are so many things you can do if you're seeking a little extra fulfillment.

I'm in my 40s and at your age was out living it up, partying, getting drunk but I was really dying inside.

I could never cope with a man living in my home again. You're right in that for many, these relationships are a great deal of work and might not be for you. Maybe you want kids but you're still young enough to think about that down the line.

Your life sounds really lovely but if you don't compare only you know whether it's enough. You'll always question it when comparing to others.

Because you said you’re happy when the people around you are having relationship problems. ‘I’m 90% happy, especially when those around me are having relationship problems’……. I think you mean, a relationship may be more trouble than it’s worth. But it reads very badly.

Are you happy?
I spent most of my twenties single and it made me miserable, I did go out a lot though
Imer my dh when I was 31 andxwe quickly married and had children as that's what we both wanted
Only you can say if your happy with your life .

If you’re happy then carry on but I do think you’re wasting your life a little bit.

I personally would have to WFH as I enjoy the interaction and feeling needed/appreciated.
I also like to separate home and work.

Perhaps you start doing a hobby once or twice a week.

It doesn’t have to be anything extreme but I don’t think staying in and not socialising much is good for our MH.

I think you sound very astute.

You're aware that it is peaceful, and therefore attractive to many people who don't have a peaceful life.

You also seem to have a close, involved family, which many people don't have and would love.

If you're happy with it, it's enough. If you're not and you want more, just add little bits to it. Get a job that's not wfh, or join a club or a class or something.

Your life isn't pathetic, after all you have a job and a home which a lot of people don't. It also sounds like you have a close knit family which is a massive plus in my opinion.
If you enjoy your life as is then carry on but the fact you're questioning it suggests maybe you don't always feel happy. If I were in your shoes I would try and find a hobby and/or other social outlets, you'll be amazed at how much better and energetic you'll feel by getting out and living abit more. When I was on maternity leave (not exactly the same situation I know but it's the only way I can try and relate) I was abit of a hermit, I didn't go to any baby groups or try and meet other mums and I didn't realise how low I was feeling as a result. It's only recently when I've started to get out and socialise more that I feel so much better. Have a think about what you really enjoy and focus on that.

Are you happy? At the end of the day that is all that matters. Sounds like a lovely balance of chill time and family time to me lol.

A lot of people would like your life. It sounds like there is a lot in it that gives you joy and fulfills you.

But reading your later posts, your self esteem sounds very, very low. You sound like you don't really believe you have much to offer to others, beyond service. I would consider some therapy to work on this. You sound like a thoughtful person who probably has a lot of considered and interesting ideas about things. Why wouldn't someone want to date you or be your friend?

If you want a family of your own, there are lots of ways that can come about. But none of them will be realized in the life you currently have. Why do you think you don't deserve to pursue what you want?