Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

[KrustyBurger]

Currently on holiday in the USA. We are staying at a Marriott so not a motel type set up.

Husband asked our daughter who is 12 to run some rubbish down to the bin next to the lift, she would have to go past about 12 room doors (6 each side).

I said no, il do it as you never know who’s in the rooms and it only takes 5 seconds for someone to open the door and yank her in and you wouldn’t even know which room it is or where she is.

Husband said ok but gave me a strange glance.

Was I being over the top? Or would other parents do the same. It’s nearly 10pm at night here.

Husband's a bit of a clean freak and our bin is full hence not just leaving it.

@Sunmoonstars9

Tbh I would imagine that if you've experienced molestation then counselling and help would help beneficial.

@Goldenbear I know a lot about teenagers, I was one and I've had two myself and a DGS (age 5!).

I'm not disclosing anything more about me or my family make up, because you're coming across very stalker like.

Can't be too careful, you know.

Creepy but also do I, please fill me in on recent worries. Worrying about your children is completely natural. You must be pretty self assured and a bit shallow if you don’t question your own abilities ever.

Read my post, I said I've NO experience of this

@Goldenbear I don't have as much time on my hands as you! If you AS yourself, you'll see.

Anyway, must go, not got hours of time to whittle away on MN!

You’ve literally advanced search me and declared it all over this thread- if that isn’t the definition of Stalker I don’t know what is.

so you are old then if grandparent so back in the good old days kind of outlook. Ok then.

Id have done what you did only cos it's not a good job for a child imo. It would have been an appropriate job for your DH though why didnt he take it?

@Goldenbear I now say you are neurotic and ageist!

You sound a dream!

@Goldenbear I'm actually loving that comment "you're a grandparent" so old then....

You've really showed your true colours!

Grandparents = old

Well I think this is a situation you have to follow your instinct. I absolutely think you are being over the top but then if in the minuscule chance something did happen and you had had this idea. Better just to do it yourself ……

No neither do I - goodbye

Last time we were abroad I let my eight year old walk round the hotel alone (not near the pool) and that wasn't in an English speaking country. I do worry about her but she's growing up and she loves the independence of being able to return to the room or get something from the restaurant or go the playroom to see if her friends were there. The chances of anyone with nefarious intent towards children staying in our hotel seemed very remote.

This.

Shes nipping along a hundred metre corridor and coming straight back! If you were letting her wander around a huge hotel all evening on her own then maybe not, but honestly, this is insanely overprotective.

"anxious" and "scared of everything" is not name calling. It's just a factual description based on your posts.

@Sunmoonstars9

It was a general you rather than a specific you 😳

Ok.

Our perspectives are interesting.

A Premier League football pitch is just over 100 m long. Do we really think the hotel corridor is the length of a top league football pitch?

I agree with you on the issue, @TonTonMacoute . A PP who thinks we are underprotective earlier thought the corridor likely 250 ft or 76 m which seems nearly as improbable to me.

I don’t think you can be “over the top” when it comes to the safety of your children

What an odd thing to say. Of course you can.

Every time you take your chld in a car, it's a risk. Every time you cross the road, it's a risk. If you let them play on a climbing frame, it's a risk. Preventing them from doing any of those things, for their safety, would be over the top. And in my opinion, so is not letting a 12 year old walk the distance of six rooms to use a bin in a hotel corridor.

Yeah, I think your reaction was way over the top.

I think the average 12yo is able to walk down a hotel corridor unsupervised just fine.

You are being over the top. Our DDs used to go to the campsite shop alone. If it helps could you stand and watch her.

Some random, extremely rare child snatcher would have to be stood for hours looking through his peephole waiting for a victim. Not bothered about cctv or hotel security.

Not saying it's totally impossible, but you can't seriously add this to your worries.

You are being ridiculous

Massive overreaction from you of course she can do it

isnt there cctv in most hotels now?
So chances something awful
happening unlikely.