Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

[KrustyBurger]

Currently on holiday in the USA. We are staying at a Marriott so not a motel type set up.

Husband asked our daughter who is 12 to run some rubbish down to the bin next to the lift, she would have to go past about 12 room doors (6 each side).

I said no, il do it as you never know who’s in the rooms and it only takes 5 seconds for someone to open the door and yank her in and you wouldn’t even know which room it is or where she is.

Husband said ok but gave me a strange glance.

Was I being over the top? Or would other parents do the same. It’s nearly 10pm at night here.

Husband's a bit of a clean freak and our bin is full hence not just leaving it.

I totally agree with you - not laughing.

😂😂😂😂😂

Sounds like my kind of person! 😂

Yes, precisely because people keep referencing my posts including you, you’re obsessed!

Ooooh I missed the fight! Is it worth grabbing the popcorn and trawling all the pages?

No - very dull!

In my book, a 12 year old is not a 'small child' that should be under constant supervision, not allowed to leave the hotel room or go to toilet alone.

And yes great that in some cases, the children of overprotective anxious parents are doing fine as adults. A plethora of studies show that they are rather an exception than rule.

Unless you can post one statistics on child abductions of UK nationals in US chain hotels?

They didn't even quote you!

You just decided it was about you

And being as about 80% of the recent posts are by you I'm not sure I'm the obsessed one

What about studies on normal parents with the appropriate level of concern for a variety of risks and the outcomes for those children, is there no spectrum for these studies?

But the original poster was worried about child abduction. The entire thread is about the risk of this child being abducted if she walked down a hotel corridor to take a bin out.

I don't recall ever telling you to suck eggs. But I am frankly amazed that you seem to find it so hard to understand that a key factor in any risk assessment needs to start with how likely the risk is.

I’m responding to inaccurate posts about me, just like you are doing from those who can’t accept a difference of opinion. Just because a majority of posts on here say one thing it doesn’t mean the majority are correct. There are all sorts of reasons why people are attracted to a thread but one with such a title will attract those who are very carefree with this kind of thing.

I haven’t RTFT but aren’t the crime rates in hotel down to domestics, trafficking, drug use etc rathe than attacks on random strangers?

You will never let them do anything with that attitude

Fair enough.

I imagine statistically it’s far more likely that her DD would be involved in a car accident but I’ll hazard a guess she’s allowed to travel in a car.

Yabvvu
Quite a way to instill irrational fear in your DD as well.

I had to re-read a few times to make sure I got that right. She would have to walk past 6 (times 2) doors to reach the bin on the same corridor? Is that it?

OP, you sound a tad over the top to be polite.

I didn't see the post replying to that, apologies if I missed them, but couldn't you ... just leave your own door open or something?

I am not getting the drama. Good luck if your kid decides to go backpacking in 5 years, if you haven't scared her for life.

Yeah I would have let my DD go unless it was very late at night.
Last summer we stayed at a hotel and my DDs were bored after dinner and asked if they could go back to the room, they were 12 & 8 then, 12 yo has a mobile so messaged us when they were back in the room. They went back to the room and we stayed for an after dinner drink for half an hour- they were fine and thought they'd had the best adventure ever!

Completely over the top!

If my 12 year old wants to run to the bin 6 doors down at midnight, I just keep an eye on them from my door, but I wouldn't even stop them!

I think it’s over the top. Someone would have to be hanging around their door peeping through the spy hole just in case someone they want to snatch walks past?

No i wouldn't let her either. In our country or abroad

Theres opportunists..everyone is different but i wouldn't let her

Thats unreasonable. I wouldn't let my daughter do it when younger, she has grown up absolutely fine, travelled well alone and in groups but has good sensible head on her shoulders.