To feel like life is more hassle than it's worth

[OptimismvsRealism]

Up until now I suppose there have been adventures and new things to try to distract from the fundamental fact that being alive is a great big chore. Endless hoovering and bills.

Don't get me wrong, I'm here now and I'll just see where things go but if you asked me if I'd like to do it all again that would be a big fat non merci from me.

With all my heart I hope we're not reborn. Once was bad enough. The thought of going through this again, in any form, sends a shiver down my spine.

@OptimismvsRealism I think I would be diagnosed as depressed but I'm not.

If you feel life is hopeless and pointless then I think you are. Why not talk to a dr? They give you something to make you feel better, you find life easier, its a no brainer. Maybe it is masking this deeper concept about the meaning of life but so what, there is nothing gained in feeling miserable. You've made a very good point about male philosophers, I doubt they were told to stop moaning and just get on with it. I guess I'm saying you can be both, troubled by the futility of life in general but content in a personal way (medically if necessary) going about your daily routine and making little plans to make it easier

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I’m sk sorry it went shit for you. I’m that irritating person that says ‘maybe try something else?’ but tbh if you can find your own being content with yourself go for it. (And hugs x)

I feel the same. I really wish I enjoyed parenthood more too

Art and creativity is definitely the way forward.

Years ago I worked at a famous cathedral and I used to think of all the skilled artisans and funders who dedicated their lives and skills to something beautiful they would most likely never see.

The point for them was creating something amazing that would outlive them and benefit future generations.

I think we are missing a sense of wonder and curiosity from our lives. This could come through the Arts, connection to nature, or connection with others. We are too busy and overstretched trying to make money and raise kids etc., but if we don't make time for wonder and awe and being fully absorbed in activities that make us feel alive, we become depressed. Especially creative souls.

For me, a good book on Audible while hoovering helps.

Also moving your body. There is pure unalloyed joy in a good communal dance.

I get you op. No way do I want another life, after life, immortality etc. I mean I am knackered NOW and i'm 46!

Thanks. I do like being in my garden. It's stuffed full of the plants that I love and the birds visit. I even like seeing the crazy magpies. Small things innit?

Some time ago I read about, and listened to, people discussing the afterlife (and wished I hadn’t). There were all kinds of permutations, some not so good such as avoiding the light as that was a sure fire way of coming back here. Suggestions on how to fight the inevitable and invariable demons that would block your way, or even loved ones (in many forms) coming to guide you - another trap to back here….on and on it went and I was just ‘hasn’t life been fucking hard enough without having to fight some more’?

And, of course, the suicides, my God , the trauma awaiting you! Everlasting pain and punishment. Here’s my question, why won’t they make it easier to leave this place, painlessly?

Get a robot hoover!

Are you spiritual OP? I ask because I'm not religious but I've had lots of random spiritual experiences and it fills me with wonder and makes me feel more connected to life (if that makes any sense whatsoever).

I read somewhere that people with "belief" in religion or spirituality are way happier than those without it, which kinda makes sense.

Am 41 and feel the exact same.

Yeah I agree it’s dull. Why people want to live until they are 90 I don’t know. 95% of the time it’s boring as fuck and very repetitive.

I agree with all this. I always try to find time for art (have made my career partly in this) and when I do, I'm the happiest ever

OP, sounds depressing.

Do you have little things that you look forward to like a nice meal out or going on holiday, engrossed in a book or an activity, especially with people whose company you enjoy.

That is what I live for in between grafting.

Also think about helping others, be less inward focused.

I think life was a lot better years ago when it was simple and we didn't have all these phones apps social media etc
I am as guilty as next person as on this now!
I remember life felt carefree and exciting but now it just feels different and not the same world I used to live in.
I feel sad and my life changed a few years ago. Someone broke me and I just can't get back that person I was. I am gone. I pretend to be the same but inside the happy me is not there anymore. I am a shadow of myself. My life has changed so much. Two people who were really important let me down incredibly and life is a front now but inside I feel very bad but hide it from everyone including those two people. I have no respect for them anymore but they will never know this. I plod along but it is not the same happy carefree me. I left this world a few years ago.....

I completely agree.am very very grumpy today

This is me too. Lots of trauma and heartbreak. I think the lack of love leeches the colour from life.

I get you and feel the same...but...

...there isn't anything else.

We can't swipe onto another option. It's either live this life or nothing.

I've been preoccupied with suicide since I was a kid. Not in a tragic way (though there have been a few incidents) but more in a way that it's there if I need it.

Some things might be worse than nothing (dependent on the person) but I haven't got there so far. I think I know what mine will be, but who knows unless it happens.

Absolutely not invested in extending my life at all costs, though. If I can't do the things that get me through...eat and drink well, make my own decisions, be mobile etc. then I'm out.

It's actually really comforting to know there are others who feel the same.

I get it op. I have things in life which are lovely, but these days I often wonder what is the point of it all, I’m 46 and feel I’ve done it all. Obviously if I had tons of money I’d travel the world completely and see lots more places (have travelled lots already) but even after that 🤷🏻‍♀️Meh..what..? If it wasn’t for my young Dd I think I’d feel this even more. I can only see her as my real purpose, oh and my Ddog

You are lacking a purpose. You need to find something you are passionate about. Then you will start to feel like there is a point to life again.

It's hard when the purposes different things let's you down as you feel what's the point as you did your best but it wasn't good enough in relationship someone always better.
Bringing up children who go bad.
Devalued at work.
Nothing matters anymore.
No one interested in what I've got to say.
I could listen all day to others and then when I speak on phones, sign after ten minutes as if boring or don't ask me anything.
I am nothing now.

I really sympathise with you op as I get you but try to find something as there is good out there I'm just on a bad mindset presently but there is good and purpose you've just got to find it.
You will be ok and find something.
Go to gp and have a chat.
You sound low.
I don't want to make you feel lower as my input in depressing but I am going to ask for help.