I posted here a couple of weeks ago about a male friend from work who had become distant and would never contact me first/started ignoring a few messages etc. And I was assured I hadn't acted out of line.
I did speak to him about how I felt but I wasn't rude, nasty or aggressive. It wasn't just this in itself it was a combination of hot and cold from him going back to the start of the year, and it had all just built up. He had gone very cold at one point.
Even though we used to talk all the time there is zero point in continuing this. When we were talking he said he'll 'try to get better at replying '. I told him it was no problem and I understood, not to worry about it etc.
We used to hang out but haven't in 4 months and he said during our last chat, 'If you want to go for another coffee next time I'm at work then I'm up for that '. There was a vague discussion of next week.
Anyway then we didn't speak for about a week, I sent a message saying 'Hey if you're still up for that coffee I'm free on X dates if those are any good?'
I sent a short message about a film I'd seen after that.
He read the message and sent a short courteous reply about the film and completely ignored the coffee part.
I guess he didn't actually want to go. I felt a bit embarrassed, I only said it because he'd suggested it.
He's sort of proven my point but I'm not sure why suggest the coffee if you don't actually want to? It's not the end of the world anyway.
Anyway after this there is zero point of talking to him anymore. I'd never be rude or anything, I'm not taking this personally anymore and it's not my issue. But honestly I feel like a complete idiot.