Knickers and child maintenance

[Icantremembermyusername]

My daughter’s father and I split up 10 years ago. I send him a reminder at Christmas, Easter and at the start of the Summer holidays to check her underwear drawer ( I used to do it more often when she was smaller) so that she has the same size in both houses. She came home tonight in too small knickers and told me daddy won’t buy her knickers, that’s why he pays mummy money. She asked him to buy her knickers from Tesco and he refused. Am I unreasonable to think he should buy her knickers? I realise people might have big feelings but I’ve used knickers all through because they are the least offensive term for me.

Reasonable - he shouldn’t have to buy knickers
Unreadonable - he pays you maintenance

Your dd is probably old enough to wise up soon, she won’t want to go to see him and then the maintenance will increase for him more than a pack of pants costs.

While he should buy them and this is a horrible situation he put your DD in, as a mother I'd never want my daughter in this position so I'd send 2-3 packs of 5/7 to ensure she's not in this position again and I'd do the same anytime she went up a size. Awful behaviour on his part.