Husband to not attend nursery graduation?

[AleenaM]

Nursery graduation at the end of the month and summer party right after, but husband says he has a sports/hobby competition that day. Don't know if he's joking but even the suggestion annoys me.

AIBU to expect him to attend party? Child won't graduate again but I'm sure they'll be competitions again. He is just getting back into this sport and it's a regional competition, it's not like a once in a lifetime olympics or something ...

Hmm child won't graduate again? Very high aspirations you have for your 4 year old OP!

Graduating from nursery is ridiculous. Do they tick the 'yes' box to the question 'are you a graduate'?

Child won't graduate again

Oh they will at Primary school & high school too before possibly an actual real proper earned graduation at uni. The one you'll really want to celebrate

They haven't done anything to warrant 'graduation' they've just got too old for nursery. It's hardly an achievement. You're going, your child will have a parent there your husband doesn't need to go to as well. Let him do his competition

Graduation! From a nursery. Never heard anything so ridiculous. If I were your DH I wouldn't waste a day's A/H on this and certainly not give up a sporting fixture.

I remember various things from my Reception years and I'm 70!

I didn't go to nursery

It's quite a new thing and, as a retired School Nursery teacher, I think it's ridiculous.

Ditto Year 6 Proms.

Why not do something nice with/for your kid?

that’s all it is, really. A party for closure of a phase and beginning of a new one and you doing something nice with your kid.

It's really not new. My oldest has just left school and he had a 'graduation'. It is nonsense but it marks the end of a stage so I went. Don't think DH did though but I seem to remember I was on mat leave so was able to.

Oh yes a sporting fixture that comes round once a month is really a big big thing, unlike doing something nice with your kid and their friends

“Graduation” from nursery is such a nonsense.

I'd expect the kids to do "something nice" often enough that a parent can miss the "graduation" without a second thought 😂

Why does this bother you so much?
Is it a part of a pattern of similar behaviour from your DH?
I'd be wary of making DS the focus of all your attention, it's good to have hobbies as well. So long as one of you is there, that's the important thing. However there were odd times when neither DH (teacher) or myself (NHS) were able to be there at "important" events and our DC survived.
They don't even remember their nursery graduations.

They have heard of them they just love to pretend they haven't to feel superior or something..I don't know..once one of you can go op inwouldnt worry about it.

your child is leaving nursery... nothing else. yabu.

How about a nursery prom?
Sort of joking...

He's been at the last 3 end of year events. So I'm guessing he doesn't regularly skip out leaving OP to attend all alone.

I really couldn’t get het up about this. Dh didn’t attend dd’s nursery ‘graduation’ and he didn’t attend her last day of secondary recently either… or prize giving last year and so forth. He was at work. Your dh has attended the last few years. This year, he has something on he’d like to do.

if that doesn't exist just yet, give it a few months 😂

They existed in 2019! Leavers disco. But was thankfully in setting hours and nonoarental involvement bar send in a baked good and dress your kid up of you dared.

Can't be bothered reading 200 posts along the lines of "nursery graduation, how ridiculous, you mean she's just gotten older?".

What the snarky posters miss is that this will be important to your DC. If he was missing it because he couldn't get off work, then I'd be saying "Don't worry, as long as she has one parent there she'll be fine, there will be loads of school events and you won't both make them all." But that's not it, is it. He's choosing to prioritise a hobby and yes I would be hurt at that.

That would be "pushy parent" heaven!

Threads on here would be worth a read for comedy value.

Honestly don't mean this in a rude way but why wouldn't you expect him to? Why shouldn't he make effort for his child ?wouldn't it be nice for the kids regardless to how insignificant you view this I'm sure the kids even at that age feel special and want their parents to see them.

@Helllooosweetie just because we'd both have rolled our eyes at such a ridiculous idea but would have gone along with it to give the child the chance to go.

Just as likely he would have gone but we wouldn't have made a big thing of it.

All of my 3 children are under 18. All went to different nurseries.
None. Graduated.
We did have an end of nursery do for one of them though.

It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal out of it, OP.

If you make it some big, gigantic thing to your 4 year old that all family should be there, you are of course priming them to be disappointed.

Don't do this.

Just go and enjoy the little ceremony celebrating the fact that they're ready to go off to Reception next year.

Sorry - but this is nuts. It’s a lovely rite of passage ceremony done by some nurseries to support kids in their transition. That’s all. Dad does not have to take time off work for this. It’s lovely if he’s working from home that day and can pop out for an hour if he’s free (same for sports day, nativities, school plays and assemblies… the list goes on and on and on), but no. Your LO will have no memory of this event even by the time they are seven.

Save your angst for if he won’t drop everything to meet you at A&E when there’s a sports accident. That’s worthy a rant.