Why do people think parents who pay for private education are enormously wealthy?

[SheineOn]

Is this just the stereotype?

I went to a school that cost 18k a year (15 years ago). It’s now 24k a year.

There were wealthy people there. But also many ‘normal’ people. At least 40% fell into that category. People who lived on estates, drove modest cars, skipped holidays and ate cheaply.

They made a choice to spend their money on private education. For context, two of my closest friends have dc in private. They live off 450 a month after paying fees. They are not high earners.

Not everyone has endless wealth. Some are just happy to make the sacrifice. I find it strange people don’t seem to get that and makes me wonder how lacking in knowledge you must be to have that view of the private sector.

I'd be more interested in the household IQ tbh....

1 What is your household income OP?

2 Where did your deposit for your house come from?

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@uniq we saved for our deposit. My parents paid the legal fees. Our household income is 75k

You have no idea of the ways people live to ensure their dc go to these schools. So, as I said in my OP, most families paying fees are not wealthy. It obviously makes you feel better to label them as such.

Well what data do you have?

““The data shows it’s overwhelmingly parents in the top 10 per cent earning bracket who send their kids to private schools.”

And many have family wealth.

So true.

One can grow up on the worst council estate and still carry yourself with dignity through life.

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What’s your household income, OP?

I'd be more interested in the household IQ tbh....

@DanielGault

🤣🤣 It's a blessing really that OP would rather other people educate and do extra curricular activities with her child as opposed to her doing them herself. Child will fair better.

@SheineOn How much was your childcare for the first 5 years?

You are so unbelievably out of touch.

@PeonyAndBlushSuede but we’ve established it’s 34k? So I was 3k out.

Our household income is 75k @SheineOn Was it the same for the last 5 years?

3 k is nothing to OP

This is double the median UK household income and top 10%.

@SheineOn how old are you?

😂😂How you must struggle by.

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Do you actually shop in Shein?

Get off your arse and bring your own lunch. That's not difficult. And great prep for work life. The rest of it is half teaching and half effort. And a huge dollop of parental effort and not just expecting it to be 'taken care of' by throwing money at the problem. You have to put the work in here. Teachers have way too many kids to take care of. It's your job.

Some will be loaded. Some not but value their kids future to the extent where they will cut back on other stuff. Not everyone who has kids thinks they have a part to play in what their life chances will be into the future.

This is so wrong!
Two parents earning £40k pa each and paying 5% into pension will bring home net £61.5k total. This does cover your average £30k pa cost of living + £24k PS + a bit extra.
UK average salary in 2023 was £35.5k pa - is this your top 20% ?

we saved for our deposit

whilst renting?

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so, so out of touch! To be able to save £150k, even with your sacrifices, is incredibly privileged. How much did you pay for your house op? How much deposit did you have and where did it come from? How much do you earn!

I assume bil is a single parent then? I suspect not.
And most people don’t have a sizeable deposit to allow them to have a small mortgage payment. In fact, many people struggle to save for a deposit at all.

You’re going to get slated but also, that’s the cost of full time nursery where I live.

@DanielGault again, missing the point. You don’t have to agree that private education is better. But perhaps actually know your stuff before taking part in the discussion.

Where does the 150k of saving come from? I thought it was 1.5k a month for 5 yrs?

And anyway how many people only have one child?