I spent years researching this before getting pregnant.
I was so bad I wouldn't even get pregnant before I knew I could get a CS. I was exceptionally lucky because my GP agreed to refer me to the specialist I had tracked down at a nearby hospital.
I had looked into every conceivable alternative option.
Tokophobia is really poorly understood - there are very common features about women in each group. There is a definite pattern. And there is massive social stigma.
I've posted extensively on MN about it in the past - particularly in the run up to and after the NICE guidance was changed.
The NIcE guidance was a response to a lot of very distressed women raising the issue over the course of a number of years. There are cases where women were so distressed about the prospect of giving birth vaginally that they terminated pregnancies despite desperately wanting children.
It infuriates me that even after the NICE guidelines were changed - in response to mental health concerns that the NHS failed to change the way it recorded mental health related ELCS. This means that there's no data for it and there was not real official acknowledgement that it was valid to do so for mental health reasons. It's led to the stigma and ignorance continuing.
There are some awful stories about women not being allowed a CS. Women were travelling across the country to hospitals far away because their local one prevented them. Others were denied and were traumatised by the experience.
And here are the greens who were happy to roll back on all that because they couldn't be arsed to look into the reasons why the change happened in the first place.
It's all effectively documented on MN so it's not like it was hard to research if you could be bothered. Everything I posted years ago was referenced and linked to reputable sources.
As I say I'm pro ELCS and pro homebirth - there's no 'right way' to birth. Both options definitely have benefits to particular type of women and in a number of cases would be less risky for that particular woman than some other options. There is a most appropriate for your circumstances that's the crux of it (I don't think it's a good idea for every woman to be encouraged to have an ELCS and there are women who need additional information particularly if they want more than one child or are particularly young).