Husbands buying flowers?!

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I want to know how often your husbands get your flowers?
me and my husband have had the conversation that he should make more effort with romantic gestures. Even buying cheap reduced flowers every now and again to me it’s the thought that counts.
Before anyone states do I buy him gifts, YES all the time when I go out I always get him something I know he likes, a chocolate bar or his favourite thing. But I never get it in return which I find quite upsetting and he knows this. So AIBU to want flowers or a chocolate every now and again?

Once a month from the florist £10 bunch, special occasions get £30 budget- they usually last about 3 weeks so we usually have a bunch on the go

Recent discussion with my friend says her husband never buys her anything that's not actually for him

This is about love languages. You need to read up on them abit and have a conversation. Your language is gift giving so you give gifts to show love and expect gifts to show you love because that's your default. He may have acts of service as a love language so would clean your car for you or run you a bath to show love or maybe his language is quality time so he makes time for you when he's busy and feels loved when you do lay in bed watching tv together? Because that's not your love language you don't pick up the meaning behind the actions. There are I think 5 love languages: physical touch, acts of service, gift giving, words of affirmation and quality time. Have a think does this ring true? If you can't identify he leans towards a love language you have missed them he doesn't love you enough to be worth your time. You can of course make a relationship work if you have different love languages you just have to remember to do the thing you know makes the other one feel loved and as you have had this conversation and he's ignoring how you feel that doesn't sound positive. Like you said it's the thought that counts it's not money grabbing or spoil my to want to be surprised with a £3 bunch of flowers or your favourite chocolate bar

I definitely will have read up on it thank you.

Acts of service is my love language so I'd rather DH cleaned the kitchen then bought me flowers. If he does buy flowers he knows to trim and put them in the vase and tidy up. I don't appreciate another job to do!

This.

I'm not bothered about flowers. But DH takes my car for a jet wash or comes into my office with a Gu pot for me often.

I think if flowers make you happy and feel loved then it would be nice if your dh wanted to get you flowers. I like dh to make the dinner, plan a day out, call me or send me a text when I feel upset, book a restaurant, get me a gadget that will fix a problem - anything but flowers!

I honestly used to hate flowers. I didn’t see the point in them as they just die but it’s not about the flowers anything you mentioned I would appreciate, we’ve been together nearly 8 years so he knows what I like and what I like to do (a lot of it being free) so the effort would be nice tbh

Pretty much any time I've had a rough day or a disappointment - if he thinks I'm feeling low he buys me flowers to cheer me up.

He knows how much I love fresh flowers in the house - I grow them in a patch of the garden just to keep the house full of flowers all summer. SO when I can't just go outside and pick some, he buys them when he's out and about. (I also buy them for myself)

Dh buys flowers on special occasions.
However our garden is beautiful and that’s all his work.
So I can cut myself roses, lavender and sweet peas atm.
I can pick tomatoes and courgettes in summer.
There is an extensive herb garden.

And actually he makes my mid morning coffee every single day. Which is better than any bought flowers.

He used to buy me them all the time which I loved because it was my favourite flowers (lillies). However, I had to ask him to stop cos I have a cat. He compensated with other things though. Books in my Amazon basket, a teddy bear ( I collect beanie boos and squishmellows) or an ornament

Double take for Rafaello ice lollies! Didn't know these existed!

God, I really hate the term 'love language'.
I know, I know, I'm an old misery guts 😂

I think your ether a gift person or not
can’t see the point getting a gift because someone feels obliged to sooner not bother

Have a love languages chat with him. There maybe things he wants more of like praise /thabks (worlds of affirmation)

I will do. Thank you

Acts of service is my love language so I'd rather DH cleaned the kitchen then bought me flowers.

This 100%
For some reason, I HATE putting air in the car tyres. DH knows this, so will go and do it for me. To me, that is a million times better than him coming home with a bunch of flowers.
That is speaking as someone who does love flowers - but I'm happy to buy some myself when I'm in the supermarket. Me telling him to go and get me some flowers would mean nothing. But him putting air in my tyres, means lots.

DH often goes to Waitrose to get his lunch and he often brings me some melon slices back. And if they've got proteas in the flower section, he'll buy me them as he likes them whereas I much prefer tulips or peonies. But I pick my battles

can't remember the last time my DH bought me flowers... neither of us are particularly romantic, we show our love in other ways, cook his favourite food, he buys my morning coffee.

I also hate this and miss my ex doing it for me!

Maybe a bunch of daffodils once or twice per year, but he knows that I hate watching cut flowers die.

DH often buys me flowers if I'm feeling under the weather or having a difficult week, or sometimes for no reason.

When he notices that the flowers in the vase have died and he's going to the shops. So not super regular every 2 months or so

He rarely buys flowers. He knows I like them but he sees them as a waste of money as they don’t last long. He’s very generous in other ways though so it doesn’t really bother me any more

I once did sort of presentation, how British flowers in season are so much cheaper than generic supermarket roses in the dead of winter. He is a practical man, and it kinda stuck. This peony season I am on my third bunch.

DH probably buys me flowers once every couple of months but sometimes it is more often. There is no set pattern.

If he sees Picnic chocolate bars in a shop he will buy me one as I love them and not many places seem to sell them