Husbands buying flowers?!

[babymama3938475749022971111]

I want to know how often your husbands get your flowers?
me and my husband have had the conversation that he should make more effort with romantic gestures. Even buying cheap reduced flowers every now and again to me it’s the thought that counts.
Before anyone states do I buy him gifts, YES all the time when I go out I always get him something I know he likes, a chocolate bar or his favourite thing. But I never get it in return which I find quite upsetting and he knows this. So AIBU to want flowers or a chocolate every now and again?

My love language is cat memes from Instagram. DH gets bombarded if he needs a pick me up 😂

I think I’ve had 3 bunches in 40 years lol. As PP said if he got me flowers I’d wonder what he’d been up to. He’s dependable not romantic.
I had a friend who got flowers weekly and random jewellery regularly, however he had cheated on her repeatedly.
I know which sort of husband I prefer

@pietut I love that!!

Quite often. But we do that for each other all the time.
Like you, I'll get him chocolate or cheese or whatever when I'm out.
I dont like bunches of flowers but I love gardening so if hes picking up boring things like soil from the garden centre, he always comes back with an extra plant or ornament for me.

What does he say when you talk about it? Does he care/not care? Does he just say he forgets to think of you? Does he think its a waste of money?

Never, but he knows I don't want them. He's considerate about a 100 times a day though.

@babymama3938475749022971111 it really is worth having a look at love languages. Some people think it's naff but it really resonates with me and the people in my family.

I don’t like flowers unless they’re growing outside so never.

My partner does nice things for me all the time though, he’ll buy me other things I like, sometimes just something small that show he thinks of me, book tickets to something as a surprise, make me food when I’m busy, run an errand for me, does things for me that he knows I don’t want to do or that I’m stressed about, etc. He just shows me that he listens to what I like and how I’m feeling.

@Retiredearly61 oh of course! He does a lot to provide for us and I appreciate it sooooo much.

Never. I buy myself flowers. He would choose overpriced, out of season flowers and I'm really fussy. He does other things though. I wouldn't hang my relationship on receiving flowers.

Never! I think that type of 'romance' is grim personally. Flowers for flowers sake, no thought behind it, just flowers!

Every so often, I will come home to a brand new, high end, shampoo & conditioner - it's always for my hair type and it's usually from a hairdressers that he's passed by on one of his jobs. Think kerastase or redken etc. he does that because he knows I absolutely adore new, fancy haircare! But the fact he makes sure it's for my hair type I find beautiful!

@pietut thank you I definitely will!

My DH knows me well, so he tends to buy me plants I can transfer to the garden rather than cut flowers apart from daffodils in spring, he keeps me supplied with vases of those when they're in season.

It's not necessarily a sign that he doesn't love you enough not to buy you flowers, some people just aren't naturally inclined towards expressing love that way. But I think the important thing is that he now knows that you think it's important, so I would expect him to make more of an effort for you.

Yeah I think some people are getting too hung up on the specifics of flowers. The point is you’d like a nice gestures/token gifts now and again and for you that happens be him buying reduced flowers or a bar of chocolate.

He is maybe just forgetting to and needs reminds but no YANBU to want this now and again! Especially when you do the same for him.

Not flowers as such but he will get me things from the shop “just because” (like I was thrilled with a new flavour of dumplings the other week or he’ll treat me to fancy ice cream as he knows I won’t buy it myself) and similar to @pietut he will send me videos throughout the day of things he knows I’ll like/ funny so I guess I know I’m in his thoughts!

He doesn't because we have an idiot cat who A. will try to eat them B. Is likely to knock the vase over; basically she's a liability.

He will occasionally bring me chocolate or wine which is fine by me.

Mine doesn't buy me flowers as a rule, although I'd love them now and again. But as pp said, I do feel loved and appreciated in the relationship so it's not a big deal. I think it's about feeling valued and considered and that doesn't have to be via formulaic routes on pre determined days. Sounds like you'd be happy with just a bit of effort and thought from him and those are what's missing.

Never. They die and wilt and are a pain in the bum to keep topping up with water

me and my husband have had the conversation that he should make more effort with romantic gestures.
^^
You mean you told him 😂

Any day he finishes work before me with enough time to spare, he will drive an hour into the city centre just to sit in rush hour traffic with me all the way home again, so I dont have to do that on a smelly bus. I never ask.
I love him dearly for that alone 😂

Flowers never. Actually once when I expressed my dissatisfaction earlier in our relationship.
Someone wise once asked me if I knew he loved me and totally I do, so how do I know. I know because he shows me it his way and that's fair enough.
If he didn't show it at all that would be bleak.

@Jc2001 pretty much. Said he needed to make more effort he agreed and said ok, had nothing since that conversation 🤣

Can I add. I am not ungrateful for anything he does! It could be the smallest thing but the thought would be what matters. He doesn’t plan anything for us that’s something I have always done

My husband buys me flowers every week. I know it is his way of expressing love as he is otherwise very closed emotionally.

I have two vases and they are always full, either he buys them or cuts them from the garden

Every couple of weeks he gets me a bunch