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to suggest that every single parent with a child at private school apply for a state school place asap?

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sarjd · 05/06/2024 15:12

let's see how that works.

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WindsurfingDreams · 05/06/2024 22:52

Sunhatweather · 05/06/2024 22:48

I’m not being a martyr - I’m stating my position. I’m not doing it for effect.
There’s also no point of saying what I’ve managed to achieve in my time (with others) because then I’ll get flak for that too. So I won’t. No, my choir won’t be important to anyone on mumsnet, but it’s a loss for the school.
There will be other people (like another PP) who won’t be able to volunteer because they’re trimming costs and working more hours. No it won’t cause chaos, but it will have an effect.

You’re right, I do feel burnt out. After some of the ruder responses on this thread, I’m feeling justified in stepping back.

I expect a lot of working parents only have the time and energy to volunteer due to all the efforts by successive labour governments to improve health care, and increase annual leave and other employment protections.

I pay for two children to go to private school. I work full time despite health battles. I was a single mum for some of the time I was climbing the career ladder. I will continue to volunteer and donate to causes I care about whichever government is in power, because I don't see why I should punish those causes.

But of course if you are burnt out you should stop.

Sunhatweather · 05/06/2024 22:52

Caerulea · 05/06/2024 22:43

@Sunhatweather it's been bothering me how mean I was to you in calling you 'awful' and I want to apologise. Just cos I don't agree with you & our viewpoints are different isn't good enough reason to potentially make you feel bad /stressed/whatever.

I've asked for the post to be removed & I am sorry for being so personal 🙏

Edited

I appreciate that - thank you. 🌸

WindsurfingDreams · 05/06/2024 22:54

Daisyb1080 · 05/06/2024 22:46

And this is the kind of divisive language they want. You assume private school parents think they are ‘too good’ for state school. There are hundreds of different reasons they have chosen that option so don’t assume you understand their reasons. I work in an independent school and the parents there work many extra hours and jobs to afford it. They are taxed on their earnings and they choose to spend it on education. Just like other people choose to spend their money on different things. They are entitled to choose what they spend their money on because they earnt it and didn’t just get a handout from the state! Add no they don’t all drive Tesla’s, eat avocado on toast and sit in front of their massive tvs. Many are too busy working….

Yeah and of.course all state school parents just sit on their backsides watching day time TV Hmm

NeverDropYourMooncup · 05/06/2024 22:54

Sunhatweather · 05/06/2024 21:45

It’s not batshit, it is a point of view and an opinion that doesn’t align with yours.
It’s not just annoyance with Keir Starmer, it’s actually more with the number of people who seem to think this policy will fix anything in the state system. It’s a cheap vote winner.

I can see now that as a parent with DCs in private school, I am very clearly held in some sort of weird contempt, regardless of why I chose to use private schools. I’m state educated.
I’m done with being the super-squeezed middle….done helping with Sure Start, volunteer reading in the local primary, joining big fundraising efforts for schools my children don’t even go to, providing free services to local schools, providing and collecting raffle gifts, running school choirs for free….i could go on and on. I’ve been doing this for years and years.
I’m honestly just ‘done’.
I’ll up my working hours and therefore won’t be volunteering at the local stroke charity either. And yes, I’ll be making up the extra 20% by trimming costs like subscriptions to animal charities.

Oh, wow, you're such a pillar of the community. We bow to your superior altruism.

Hang on, I did exactly the same things (plus Rainbows, Brownies and three conservation charities) when I was on benefits - except I did Adult Numeracy instead of reading. Where's my entitlement? Oh yeah - volunteering.

Clue's in the name.

GOTBrienne · 05/06/2024 22:59

The problem with this argument is parents of PE children looking for sympathy at a time when people are really struggling to make ends meet. PE is a separate world from the rest of us (which kinda seems the point) trying to get everyone else to care/get involved seems a bit pointless now.

People don’t hate you, but they aren’t going to be sympathetic when they can’t put food on the table. The idea of paying for education is so far removed from the reality of most peoples lives.
I’ve heard another PE parent on the radio going on about how hard they work, without sitting back and thinking there are millions of people working very hard in, often in not nice jobs, on shifts, for shit money which doesn’t even pay their basic bills. Being paid more doesn’t mean you work harder.

we all know it’s only a minority who will leave, there’s no way the majority of PE parents are ever going to send their kids to the comprehensive down the road with behavioural issues and Cover Supervisors taking lessons. Despite all the threads.
It is terrible for SEN children, it’s also terrible for SEN children in state schools. There should be allowances for children with complex needs, I don’t think anyone would deny this.

Personally it makes no difference to me, tax schools, don’t tax schools, it’s not going to make a voting difference to the majority as it has nothing to do with them. I think Kier is a twat, but the Tories are bigger twats, they have fucked people over long enough.
And I think that’s how most people will end up voting.

Sunhatweather · 05/06/2024 23:00

NeverDropYourMooncup · 05/06/2024 22:54

Oh, wow, you're such a pillar of the community. We bow to your superior altruism.

Hang on, I did exactly the same things (plus Rainbows, Brownies and three conservation charities) when I was on benefits - except I did Adult Numeracy instead of reading. Where's my entitlement? Oh yeah - volunteering.

Clue's in the name.

I’m off to bed now. I can’t be bothered to rise to this. At no point have I claimed to be superior.
Have a great evening being shitty to people you don’t agree with - hope it gives you joy 🌻🌸

GivePeaceAChance · 05/06/2024 23:00

Vitriolinsanity · 05/06/2024 22:50

NW Kent

Canterbury and Ashford

Not sure how Dovers been doing recently but it has been chronic.

Lots of big private schools in these areas too.

hellesbells · 05/06/2024 23:02

sarjd · 05/06/2024 15:12

let's see how that works.

What an idiot

jinglebelljinglealltheway · 05/06/2024 23:04

My DC goes to a state primary and I am 100% against taxing private schools.

Even if just a small percentage of private kids switch to state, the competition for good state places will get even worse, especially at the secondary level. Houses in catchment area will get more expensive and be snapped up by private school parents as they now have more disposable income after pulling their kids from private. Their kids should be on average smarter and better versed (thats the whole point of going private in the first place) and could take up all the spots offered through admission exam or talent stream. Even the kids arent smart, the parents have £2000 spare now to spend on tutoring and experiences.

Getting a spot in a good secondary will be more difficult. This stupid policy will not hurt private school parents in the long run. But it will hurt upward mobility of kids coming from a more humble background.

Agreed with the poster that said this has nothing to do with education. More a political stunt to get votes, with the toxic side effect of further dividing the society - evidenced by the comments here.

To the posters that said there are plenty of school places around. Of course there are, because nobody (including you and me) would want their kids in those environments. Good schools are always oversubscribed and it will only get worse.

Increasing the tax or tax rate is not always the answer to raising tax revenue. Our government needs to be thinking about ways to increase taxable income before targeting tax rate.

If Labour fails to see this, I will not trust them in running the country. Not that I will trust the other side either. But by picking a policy that affects children, they have shown their true color.

IAmNotASheep · 05/06/2024 23:04

GOTBrienne · 05/06/2024 22:59

The problem with this argument is parents of PE children looking for sympathy at a time when people are really struggling to make ends meet. PE is a separate world from the rest of us (which kinda seems the point) trying to get everyone else to care/get involved seems a bit pointless now.

People don’t hate you, but they aren’t going to be sympathetic when they can’t put food on the table. The idea of paying for education is so far removed from the reality of most peoples lives.
I’ve heard another PE parent on the radio going on about how hard they work, without sitting back and thinking there are millions of people working very hard in, often in not nice jobs, on shifts, for shit money which doesn’t even pay their basic bills. Being paid more doesn’t mean you work harder.

we all know it’s only a minority who will leave, there’s no way the majority of PE parents are ever going to send their kids to the comprehensive down the road with behavioural issues and Cover Supervisors taking lessons. Despite all the threads.
It is terrible for SEN children, it’s also terrible for SEN children in state schools. There should be allowances for children with complex needs, I don’t think anyone would deny this.

Personally it makes no difference to me, tax schools, don’t tax schools, it’s not going to make a voting difference to the majority as it has nothing to do with them. I think Kier is a twat, but the Tories are bigger twats, they have fucked people over long enough.
And I think that’s how most people will end up voting.

Nevertheless this appalling attitude stinks when you consider this is actually children we are talking about.
Or are they to blame for everyone’s problems aswell.

DeadbeatYoda · 05/06/2024 23:06

Why? That would be a stupid and futile act. Plenty if people can still afford public School even if they do add VAT.

Inyournewdress · 05/06/2024 23:07

I wonder what impact this will have on private schools who offer a significant proportion of supported or fully paid places. I know of one not far from me which has 20% intake which is means tested to provide places to some families who face real economic challenge. I do hope they can continue to offer the opportunities to those children.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 05/06/2024 23:10

EasternStandard · 05/06/2024 19:56

Do you have enough teachers?

Would it be easy to get more?

Yes. In fact we have more than we can keep due to losing classes.

We are about to lose 2 full classes of y6 and only gain one full class of nursery and numbers have been low for a few years (but not that low!)
We have 1 full and one pt posts available in Sept when temp contracts end and 4 temp members of staff who all want a job. We can't keep them all.

Next year those that get another year temp contract won't then be kept on.
And as those numbers go through, we will be looking at a redundancy every year after that unless there is natural staff turnover due to other reasons.

Most other schools in our catchment also are not maintaining numbers due to fall in intake. So all those who are looking for jobs are up against each other for the few jobs that have been advertised (only 4 for the county have come up since the resignation date). And very little supply is being given to teachers where we can cover in other ways, so a lot of supply teachers cannot rely on that for a wage so are also being pushed into looking for a contract (or a non-teaching job).

GOTBrienne · 05/06/2024 23:12

IAmNotASheep · 05/06/2024 23:04

Nevertheless this appalling attitude stinks when you consider this is actually children we are talking about.
Or are they to blame for everyone’s problems aswell.

Honestly I worked in a school in one of the poorest towns in the U.K. I am more worried about the children there who don’t eat in school holidays or have parents who could give less of a shit about them.

I don’t remember saying PE children were to blame for anything, how odd? I’m just saying this isn’t a vote swinger in anyway, it’s a minority issue.

And like I said the vast majority of children in PE will carry on with zero change to their nice education.

Redlarge · 05/06/2024 23:13

Just pay the VAT we have all had to absorb higher living costs.

YourPinkDog · 05/06/2024 23:18

If you do not want to make the sacrifices to pay on average an extra £58 a week, then sure send your children to whatever state school still has a place. You may end up being offered a place at a school that is struggling. But at least you have saved yourself an extra £58 a week.

YourPinkDog · 05/06/2024 23:19

And if you really can not afford an extra £58 a week, then a cleaning job for an hour every evening will easily cover the cost.

quintessentially166 · 05/06/2024 23:20

Ciderlout · 05/06/2024 15:52

Yes then hopefully the standard of the state schools would go up and everyone would benefit

Why would the standard in state schools go up?

IAmNotASheep · 05/06/2024 23:20

ruby1957 · 05/06/2024 22:21

Actually there is no cap on Child benefit - it is paid for all children unless household income is too high

My main point however on this topic - this is a mean-spirited move by labour driven by their stance on levelling down.

The parents affected are in a bind - on the one hand they will have to cut back to afford the VAT and secondly it would be very hard on the students being affected by this mid-way through their GCSE or A level studies who will be punished because they cannot complete the course in their chosen subjects - not as simple as move to a state school who may very well not offer the same subjects!

There goes their future university education as well as the possibility of failing to get the required GCSEs or A levels.

Given this is a parenting site - I could have expected more support for the devastating effect this may have on the children who stand to suffer most.

Well said.
👏👏👏

YourPinkDog · 05/06/2024 23:22

And if you really would pull your child out of private school so you can make a FAP request and cause extra pressure on the system to make a point, then you are a see you next Tuesday.

IAmNotASheep · 05/06/2024 23:22

YourPinkDog · 05/06/2024 23:18

If you do not want to make the sacrifices to pay on average an extra £58 a week, then sure send your children to whatever state school still has a place. You may end up being offered a place at a school that is struggling. But at least you have saved yourself an extra £58 a week.

That’s interesting another thread supporting the tax policy put it at £350 extra a month
x 2 kids = £700
x 3 kids = £1050

YourPinkDog · 05/06/2024 23:23

@IAmNotASheep so you can not afford an extra £58 a week?

Silverstarfish1 · 05/06/2024 23:25

@ Aladdinzane - perhaps if you weren’t so entrenched in your viewpoint of “all private school pupils are wealthy and therefore bad ”, you might have considered the point I was making which is that for those that have stretched to afford private school for their kids - they will be the ones negatively impacted. I never said that those who were wealthy would not be able to afford it. Your comments just highlight how much prejudice you have.

IAmNotASheep · 05/06/2024 23:27

GOTBrienne · 05/06/2024 23:12

Honestly I worked in a school in one of the poorest towns in the U.K. I am more worried about the children there who don’t eat in school holidays or have parents who could give less of a shit about them.

I don’t remember saying PE children were to blame for anything, how odd? I’m just saying this isn’t a vote swinger in anyway, it’s a minority issue.

And like I said the vast majority of children in PE will carry on with zero change to their nice education.

I prefer to consider the negative impacts on all kids. !!

As we talking about taxing education we’re looking at the negative impacts it will have on those PS kids ( as others here seem to think it’s a win win for state kids).

Caerulea · 05/06/2024 23:30

GOTBrienne · 05/06/2024 22:59

The problem with this argument is parents of PE children looking for sympathy at a time when people are really struggling to make ends meet. PE is a separate world from the rest of us (which kinda seems the point) trying to get everyone else to care/get involved seems a bit pointless now.

People don’t hate you, but they aren’t going to be sympathetic when they can’t put food on the table. The idea of paying for education is so far removed from the reality of most peoples lives.
I’ve heard another PE parent on the radio going on about how hard they work, without sitting back and thinking there are millions of people working very hard in, often in not nice jobs, on shifts, for shit money which doesn’t even pay their basic bills. Being paid more doesn’t mean you work harder.

we all know it’s only a minority who will leave, there’s no way the majority of PE parents are ever going to send their kids to the comprehensive down the road with behavioural issues and Cover Supervisors taking lessons. Despite all the threads.
It is terrible for SEN children, it’s also terrible for SEN children in state schools. There should be allowances for children with complex needs, I don’t think anyone would deny this.

Personally it makes no difference to me, tax schools, don’t tax schools, it’s not going to make a voting difference to the majority as it has nothing to do with them. I think Kier is a twat, but the Tories are bigger twats, they have fucked people over long enough.
And I think that’s how most people will end up voting.

Chef's fucking kiss

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