To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

I sometimes stay in PJ's as I sort of view them as work wear.
They are soft, comfortable and easily washed if I'm going to do dirty housework jobs like carpet cleaning, cleaning plug holes/drainy bits or if I'm doing a load of batch cooking like curries where I will end up smelling of food. Then they are washed.

I used to keep old pyjamas to paint in.

Days ! If I wasn't depressed before I'd certainly be depressed after that.

Thanks all for an informative and interesting thread have to go earn a living now.

How compassionate of you to notice signs of your colleague’s mental health issues and depression, and judge them on their hygiene standards anyway.

I usually have a morning shower and then get into nice fresh PJ's for the day. Bliss.

It is unnatural not to leave the house all day. Different if you have a lovely garden in which you spend lots of time then that is obviously different, literally being confined to the house like we all were in Covid- horrible, why would you do that ?

The odd day not leaving the house is NOT comparable to lockdown.

We didn't leave the house on Sunday. We'd arrived back from holiday late Saturday night and we were all tired. We had a lie in, a lovely late breakfast and takeaway for tea.
It was just what we needed before a busy week of school and work.

It's okay to take a break and completely rest every now and then.

Absolutely 💯 agree.

Im not depressed lazy or ‘minging’ in the slightest. In fact I’ve been told on MN I must have OCD because I shower or bath at least once a day and more if I’m going out for the evening.

But after 35 years of commuting and being fully scrubbed up by 7am I’m now enjoying the fact that 3 days a week I can roll out of bed at 8.50put the kettle on and be at my laptop in my pjs ready to work by 8.59.

The data I’m in office I’m up showered hair washed dried and straightened with face on ready to face the world. I like the contrast and the best of both worlds.

And when I WFH in my pjs I’ll either have a shower in my lunch break or as soon as I finish work. And I only wear each pair of pjs once before changing into fresh ones and sticking the worn ones in the washing basket.

The days I don’t leave the house are not miserable days full of depression, they’re my taking it easy days which are balanced with my busy office days and my very full social weekends.

I do this on the odd occasion in winter, it makes me lazy though so it is only if the weather is horrid and I snuggle up with a box set all day.

But why would you get back into your PJs after you got dressed?

Feels a bit weird lying in bed fully dressed.

It's fine staying in, my kids do it probably once a week. They might play in the park or the garden but I don't make them unless they are charging around the house. We walk to school and back as good as everyday (a mile each way) so I'm not worried about them not getting enough exercise and they need downtime. They sleep naked so they often just wear a onesie around the house.

I go out everyday because weekdays I take the kids to school, on their lazy days I'm up early to go for a run and then the next day I'm at the gym with the kids. I don't wear pyjamas, I wear tracksuit bottoms and a hoody round the house/to school/the supermarket. I also sleep naked so my clothes are just for "awake" wear.

There is nothing virtuous about going out everyday or wearing your finest attitre just incase you are called upon. If you want to go out everyday because you feel cooped up then fine, nobody is stopping you but others doing stuff differently really isn't an issue. It's not child neglect if they stay in sometimes. Nobody will have a mental breakdown because on Saturdays they stay in and lounge even if they stay in the pyjamas they wore to bed.

Some of the posts on this thread are a bit hysterical. Staying in your PJs and staying at home for the day occasionally or even for a day every weekend is totally fine. It does not mean you are slovenly, minging, lacking in purpose, depressed, unhealthy etc. Life is about balance. Sometimes a day of nothing IS the healthy choice and besides OP wasn't talking about people who spend each and every day doing this, or even the majority of their time - that is an issue - it was about the occasional time, usually at the weekend. Life can busy, it's ok to stop sometimes. Of course some people are happier if they don't stop. That's Ok too, we're all different.

Yes! Hate that word. YABU for that and for caring. She's in her home.

You need to get yourself over to the thread about wearing underwear in bed!
Some would say you need to be freshly showered before you get into bed (pristine sheets obv) and then jump in the shower first thing. Anything else is disgusting (according to some)

I first heard the word ''Minging'' used in Big Brother by Jade Goody.
Thankfully I haven't heard it used since.

The verb ''Ming''

She is minging.
He mings
That's minging.

You never hear it in the past tense: ''He minged''

It is very rare to know you aren't leaving the house so I expect it will be a one off for the person who said they do it.

It's important for me to get changed even if I'm not up to much.
I WFH and like to balance my work and leisure time. I think this has influenced what I do on my days off - I don't feel ready for the day (even if it's one of pottering around) unless I'm dressed.

I have had a period of clinical depression so I think that has also influenced me. I never had days and days in bed, but definitely felt more able to cope with the day if I had gone through the process of properly getting up and dressed. Maybe it's comfort in routine.

That said, we rarely have days when we don't leave the house.

I just couldn’t do this as I love a shower every morning to wake me up and then wouldn’t feel right putting pjs back on, also I need to wear a bra. I’m fine with my kids having pj days though until we go out somewhere.

Objectively, I don't think it's minging. I wear clothes a few days before washing them so can't really object to staying in PJs on those grounds.

My habit is always to shower and dress as soon as I get out of bed, before breakfast, no matter what I'm doing. Occasionally if I am going to do something sporty first thing I will wait and shower after, but it feels weird. It's incredibly rare for me not to be dressed properly for breakfast (but I sleep naked, so obviously have to put something on!).

I wouldn't have imposed that on my kids. I think they were always dressed before lunch. Until they were later teens and really did their own thing.

I always associate it with being ill and off work.

It never fails to amaze me (or maybe depression me would be a better turn of phrase), how so many intelligent people who insist on washing themselves/every item of clothing/bedding continuously and (in my opinion) obsessively, just fail to see the link all this madness has with an untenable strain on our precious (water cleansing and treatment) resources and our delicate and struggling planet/natural environment. Are you just very selfish or do you genuinely not realise that all this unnecessary washing, and subsequent gallons and gallons of grey water that then pours out of your home into the sewage system, will then require treatment? The strain this puts on an already overloaded system? How the hell did we cope in my childhood with our one bath a week and (shock horror) sharing bathwater.

I've said it before and I've said it again ... Please spare a thought for our one and only planet earth. Humans are generally a terrible scourge on it, I feel really sorry for those people who wake up and feel instantly "dirty" in their worn-once pyjamas. What the heck is wrong with you?

I despair.

Just wait until you hear the word “GOPPING”

ew that’s GOPPING

Only when I'm ill and there's someone else to answer the door if it rings.

That's your call. I'll be sat here, very comfortable in my pyjamas. I work weird hours and have a chronic pain condition which can often leave my skin feeling very sore, almost a bruised, so you can bet as soon as I'm home or if I'm doing nothing on a day off, I'm going to be dossing about in my sweatpants and hoodie. Both of which are clean (I have a couple of sets, imagine that novelty!). Not sure what you're doing to your PJs to make them so rotten that you can't relax in them on a lazy day, but you do you.

do you have clean jim jams every single night regardless?

Oh PS you are old and out of touch.

That’s me too. Most days I’m up early so get showered and changed but on the odd day I leave it later that’s ok.

Children need the odd lazy day to just relax and do as they please, playing in the house in their comfy clothes (or pyjamas if they wish) and unwinding after a busy week at school. That's not "really bad parenting" it's quite the opposite.