To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

Not everyone sleeps in their PJs. I sleep naked and put PJs on in the morning. I get changed into normal clothes about 20 mins before I go out and get changed back as soon as I'm home.

I just find it really hard to relax in outside clothes as they feel so restrictive. My PJs are just tiny shorts and a mega baggy really thin shirt - not something I want to be seen in public with but very comfortable.

If you stink and are ‘minging’ after a night’s sleep, you don’t have to wear pyjamas. Your personal preference is irrelevant to what anyone else does in their own home.

Do you wash your jeans every time you wear them? I think a pair of jeans that have been worn all day are probably dirtier and sweatier than a pair of PJs worn in a clean bed overnight. But most people happily put on jeans in the morning that have been worn the day before.

Personally I wouldn’t wear my pyjamas all day but that’s not because I think it’s ‘minging’ and I have no problem with anyone else doing it - I just feel more like myself during the day in jeans and a t-shirt. I often change into PJs when I’m relaxing with a book or watching telly in the evening, though.

Even if it was ‘minging’ then so what? If people aren’t at their most spotless when they’re in their own home and not seeing any other people, does it really matter? It’s harming nobody. They’re not sitting next to you on a bus like that.

If I’m having a proper cleaning Saturday and not planning on going anywhere, I will usually stay in PJs to clean and then shower and put fresh PJs on to relax in my nice, clean house in the afternoon/evening. When I was having a breakdown I stayed in stinky PJs a lot for days on end so now I have the rule that I have to at least have a shower and put fresh PJs on before I go to bed. I wouldn’t judge anyone for staying in PJs, but if it was for more than a day I would worry about their mental health.

I would feel sweaty, smelly and basically minging if I sat around in last nights PJs all day!

Not everyone gets sweaty. My DC and I's pyjamas aren't sweaty or smelly.

I do prefer us to get dressed at some point but on a lazy day it can be approaching lunch time!

Exactly. Reminds me of a thread a while ago about how often to wash towels and some posters said they washed after every use. Utter madness.

I have to get dressed into day clothes but I do have comfy clothes I wear when pottering around the house and garden that I wouldn't necessarily wear out.

I think there is a big distinction between pyjamas and loungewear. For example, I sleep naked, then have a shower and if I am staying in, will change into a comfy hoodie and yoga pants with s bralette . On days when I am working from home I will wear the same sort of thing. I have two cats who believe that laps should not be unoccupied and I got sick of my good trousers, tights or leggings getting claw holes in them. I would happily pop to the shop in the village like this, but would be more dressy and wear makeup to go into town.
I guess its more about indoor clothes and outdoor clothes for me, plus whether I am wearing makeup or not.

My 16 year old does this and it drives me insane

so many intelligent people who insist on washing themselves/every item of clothing/bedding continuously and (in my opinion) obsessively, just fail to see the link all this madness has with an untenable strain on our precious (water cleansing and treatment) resources and our delicate and struggling planet/natural environment. Are you just very selfish or do you genuinely not realise that all this unnecessary washing, and subsequent gallons and gallons of grey water that then pours out of your home into the sewage system, will then require treatment? The strain this puts on an already overloaded system? How the hell did we cope in my childhood with our one bath a week and (shock horror) sharing bathwater.

This. We are far cleaner than we actually need to be, to an unhealthy degree.

Constantly washing everything wears it out too.

Personally I find those that judge others and create threads to try and get other people to also judge and speak shit about a group of people, to be far far more minging than anyone that chooses to keep their PJs on. Well done on revealing how ugly on the inside you are OP.

However early I’m up, I’m retired so it can often be 10.30 - 11 by the time I get showered and dressed. And I still feel a bit embarrassed if I have to answer the door in my dressing gown to e.g. the postman at 10.55. So unless really ill I’d never stay in PJs all day.

However more than once I’ve spoken to a Swedish friend (in Sweden) and said e.g. ‘I’m still in my dressing gown at ten to eleven!’ - and she’s replied, ‘So am I, and it’s ten to twelve here!’ 😂

None of those things suggest such short notice that you couldn’t take 5 minutes to put some clothes on though, I will regularly have a day where I get up and don’t get dressed and lounge about in PJs, but obviously if I realise part way through the day I do need to leave the house I go upstairs and get dressed. Just because you’re not dressed and ready to go out at 9am doesn’t mean it’s impossible to get dressed later in the day if the need arises!

I don't think that getting dressed up with makeup every day is setting a better example.

In my home we shower in the evening, before changing to pyjamas, so if someone decides to stay in them, it doesn't matter at all.

I have a slob day every now and again on a Sunday.
I get up, wash my hands and face, brush my teeth and hair then put on a clean pair of PJ's for a day of lounging around on the sofa eating crap and watching TV.
I work damned hard all week so taking a day off for myself every now and again is well deserved in my opinion.
I don't care what anyone thinks about it, that's your issue, not mine.

I absolutely love a pj day. I’m not minging but sometimes it is just needed and lovely (although very rare with kids and general adulting)

One slobby day every couple of weeks- fantastic. Lots of slobby days, not washing and getting dressed would make me feel down. I still get dressed for the day in jeans/top/clean hair 90% of the time I'm working from home- then I can run errands, socialize, if my dd's boyfriend comes over, I'm not stuck in the house through looking shit.

Yeah I hate this too, not because I think it's minging necessarily but it just means you don't end up doing anything with your day. I want everyone ready first thing so we can go out more quickly if we end up going anywhere.

My DP and SCs wouldn't get dressed all day though if they weren't going out.

It's not 'minging' no.. just like not showering every hour and changing sheets after your guests have touched them

I have fibromyalgia and CFS. I force myself to shower and dress each day tho sometime wonder why I’ve bothered. The effort has used up all my spoons and I can do sod all for the rest of the day. Had I stayed in pjs I might have energy to do something. 🤷‍♀️
Some days my clothes hurt ( I know, sounds mad. Imagine your nerve endings are exposed and a sadist is rubbing them with sandpaper) so I give in and go back to pjs.

@MolkosTeenageAngst I know what you mean, but I find I'm less likely to say yes to stuff if I have to shower/get clean/shove some clothes on. At the very least I have a bits and pits wash, that's the minimum I can do to put clothes on top, and I wouldn't go out with greasy hair, so really there's no incentive to not do it.

I didn't get ready in the pandemic working from home and I felt awful.

Now I dress for the day, which is wash or shower, jeans/nice top/jewellery/squirt of perfume/minimal but some make up, and then I can live any version of the day life presents itself with- including taking the bins out, mowing the lawn, chatting with the neighbour, going out with friend, someone pops in, someone in work wants a Teams meeting quickly etc

@Allthehorsesintheworld I get that and when I had Long Covid I did not shower or dress daily for this reason, I think everyone understands that.

It's the lack of possible genital washing for those staying in pjs that puts me off 😂

I wouldn't keep the kids in PJs all day but we do have doss about the house clothes. Tracksuit tops and a T-shirt for them, leggings and T-shirt for me. Fine for playing in the garden or walking the dog. Wouldn't go to the park or the shops in them.

I do feel better if I’m showered and dressed but I don’t think it’s “minging” to stay in pjs- how dirty are you getting in the 9 or so hours you wear them??

What's this madness? I've never heard that. Do I want to know?