To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

They would surely have to change their underwear right? Who puts last nights pyjamas back on after taking them off to change undies. Just as easy to get dressed for the day once your in a state of undress anyway.

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Where do you keep it ? Do you have an actual gym in your house ?

Not quite.

My routine is to sleep in underwear and whatever tshirt I was wearing that day, throw shorts or something on when I get up and stay like that until early afternoon when I go for a run (in running kit). Then I shower and get dressed in clean clothes when I get back from running and that t-shirt & underwear takes me through the rest of the day and night. Repeat next day.

I find that quite chilled out, practical and pragmatic. If I have to go into a city or something for a work meeting then I’ll shower and dress appropriately of course beforehand, but that’s very rare.

@Neurodiversitydoctor I mean, I really don't care what you do with your free time, lol.

And yes, like the one linked. It lives in the spare room for ease but we use it downstairs.

Imagine, OP, a world where not everyone thinks and acts the same as you do, on issues that literally have no ill effects on anyone at all, and that’s ok.

Maybe you should review your personal hygiene routine if a day in pyjamas would leave you in this state.

It’s all about perspective and personality type. I loved locked down, up there with the greatest 2 months of my life and I didn’t leave my house from the date lockdown started until early May. Not even for a walk. I pottered in the garden, but didn’t leave the perimeter of my property. I didn’t wear anything but loungewear and lines were blurred between the clothes that I slept and lived in. My mental health has never been better (I did also wfh full time during this period, so my days weren’t an unstructured blur).

I rarely shower in the morning and frequently shower before bed. I wear clean pyjamas after a few nights. I rarely wake up feeling dirty or grubby or ‘minging’. Nowadays I do normally change into lounge wear or ‘day pyjamas’, but will walk the dog in them too (hi to anyone who sees me in my cartoon print fleecy bottoms!).

I only think it’s a bit minging if you go out and about in the clothes you then get into bed into as you’re tracking germs into bed that you then lie in for 8 hours. Clothes I’ve laid relatively still in on clean sheets for a few hours after I’ve had a shower don’t really strike me as minging.

I find my legs get too hot in bed if I am wearing pyjamas. On no effort days at home I wear leggings or jogging bottoms and a T-shirt, so I am dressed, but not very smartly.

I hate being in my pyjamas after breakfast at the latest - I can only not get dressed if I'm ill. However, my daughter loves her pyjamas- she stays in them all day if she can (including going in the garden) and changes into pyjamas when she gets back from school if she's not going out.

I usually shower after work and put on fresh clothes, so I just put the same t shirt and joggers on next day and only shower early if I'm going out. I do have a sink wash in the morn though. Anything more is a waste of time as I'm dirty within an hour of starting work most days anyway.

But why would you get back into your PJs after you got dressed? No reason for you to be in and out of your PJs. Also why would you feel like an idiot to your friend - either your friend must be very judgemental or you have major self esteem issues! Getting dressed literally takes a couple of minutes. If your friend was rude enough to show up at your house with no warning expecting you to leave instantly, then they can wait for a couple of minutes while your throw on some clothes..

It doesn't have to be a all or nothing approach though.

At the moment my life is really busy and I am craving a day where I can stay in and be in my PJs. I totally get the benefits of getting out of the house and enjoy going for a long walk But there is also something good about having a day where nothing needs to happen.

If I haven't got plans on my days off, I do quite often stay in my PJs - maybe not all day (sometimes all day just not all the time) but I am rarely sitting around doing nothing. Cleaning the house - why get dressed to only dirty these clothes too?

Too many posters see it as such a black and white situation. But life is rarely that cut and dried.

I agree it sounds lovely, I tend to put my running kit on first thing then shower after my un later. That isn't the same as staying in your pjs and not leaving he house which is what I though t was being discussed though is it ?

We’ve got one of those 🤷🏻‍♀️ in the conservatory, it folds up but I just keep it out. It’s next to the exercise bike. Not that radical.

lol

YANBU. This was especially true during lockdown. A colleague of mine would just roll out of bed and sit at his computer in his pyjamas all sweaty and dishevelled and it was pot luck if they washed on that day. I'm so glad cameras don't have smellovision.

A lack of self-care, preening, cleaning and washing is generally a sign of depression and other mental health issues. It's what people do when they've given up. Life is hard but there is never an excuse for not keeping a baseline standard of hygiene.

People on here seem to make life overly complicated. Unless in your mansions your bedrooms are too far away for it to take a few minutes to throw on clothes if needed. I've had a shower and put on pj's, tmi but I sleep naked. Primark pj's are a comfy fit. I'd spend more on joggers etc, they wouldn't wash as well, or fit as well. It will take all of five minutes to get dressed, when I'm going out later. No make up will be applied, only my prescription sunglasses, I love the summer months for this reason. My DDs and GC, do the same, shower and pjs/lounge wear. Nothing slobby about it. My youngest GC likes a day playing with her toys, she still into barbie/lol and craft stuff. She does have gymnastic bars and proper mats, as well as pets/sibling. They enjoy basic cookery etc. People have different personalities and different things suit them. My sister had to be told that she will be no longer welcome unless the comments over clothes stop.

In our case DS stayed in his PJs all day. So no pants. You might faint at this but I wore a dress all day - no bra, no pants, just a dress.

If I’m not leaving the house at all I might stay in my pjs or lounge wear. Who cares? Let people do what they want.

Was that reply supposed to be for someone else - I am pro wearing whatever you want at home, whether that be a dress with no knickers, PJs or nothing at all! My reply was to a poster who thinks you should be dressed in case you have to leave the house at short notice. So no fainting from me :)

A lack of self-care, preening, cleaning and washing is generally a sign of depression and other mental health issues. It's what people do when they've given up. Life is hard but there is never an excuse for not keeping a baseline standard of hygiene.

There's a massive difference between lack of hygiene due to depression and just not bothering occasionally as you're not going anywhere.

It's quite offensive that so many people keep trying to compare the two.

@Neurodiversitydoctor I'm glad I amuse you so 🙄

Yes must have been, we are of the same ilk ✊🏼 some people on this thread would deffo faint, they probably have passed out by this point tbh.

Really that's a bit of a stretch and over dramatic isn't it sitting in your home for a few days in pyjamas to depressive illnesses !

Erm no, not everyone sweats at night.

I don't spend the day in pajamas, but that's because it doesn't feel right for me, like the day hasn't begun, not because of some idea that it's dirty. I do get back into the PJs when I get home about 4pm - don't want to stay in the clothes I've worn to go somewhere, but it's too late in the day to bother with a change of day clothes.