To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

But these examples are all hardly emergencies where you couldn’t take a couple of minutes to get dressed if you were still in your PJs. Short notice would be if your house was on fire or your child had somehow escaped out the front door - both scenarios where you wouldn’t care less if the neighbours saw you in your PJs..

I don't have DC but often don't leave home for a week. I have windows and a garden for fresh air and I do spin and weights classes at home for exercise
Rather do a 60 min spin class than go out in the shitty weather to walk 10,000 steps after work with no purpose which is a made up number anyway

@Neurodiversitydoctor

You may choose to believe that “chillout” days are beneficial but that’s not what the evidence suggests.

Totally. And also one “chill out day” is fine. When it becomes a long line of “chill out days” with nothing to break it up and never venturing outside it’s not a “chill out day”. It’s a chill out life.

My “sunny morning uniform” is my jammies. I like going outside in my garden on a sunny morning, so I don’t wear slippers: I wear trainers without socks instead.

If you're going to post random shit you've googled, at least read it first.

That says 60 minutes of activity a day across the week, it doesn't say children need to go outdoors to get that activity 🙈

I don’t wear pyjamas because I sleep naked but I have a pair of jogging bottoms and a tshirt which I will will stick on after my nightly bath and wear around the house until I go to sleep. I put them on again in the morning until I shower and then get dressed properly.
If I’m ill or desperately hungover then I will stay in these clothes all day and possibly not even shower but that’s maybe 3 days a year max! and these clothes are washed and rotated every 2-3 days, I’m not that gross!
Getting dressed properly is healthy for me, and it means I’m ready to go if something crops up even if I wasn’t planning on doing anything.

There are loads of ways for children to be active indoors @Neurodiversitydoctor - you may find it easier to take your kids out but that doesn't mean it's essential.

Indoor trampolines, dancing around to music, kids exercise videos on YouTube, jumping around and playing - all ways of getting active indoors 🤷‍♀️

I only do that if I am unwell.

NHS advice is not " random shit" fgs. I have posted lots of evidence that time outdoors is beneficial. As I said people can disregard it but the evidence base is very clear.

I have long accepted I am 'old-fashioned' about some things.

We never have 'pyjama days' and I think it's minging. The least I do it shower and put clean clothes on every day- same for DH and DC. That does not mean all items are newly washed; underwear certainly is and T shirts/leggings but jeans might be worn 3 or 4 times, or a cardi/jumper/sweatshirt might be worn several. Nothing would be stained or smelly.
I pull back duvets every morning and beds are aired until tea-time.
Bedroom windows open through the night and if we are in the house during the day.

Nobody's saying that time outdoors isn't beneficial, just that it doesn't have to be every single day 🙄

And by "random shit" - I mean a bunch of links that you've just copied and pasted and clearly haven't taken the time to read.

“Chill out life” eh ?

Sounds incredible and is my goal.

YABU to care how long people you don’t know stay in pyjamas OP! And minging is a school bully word.

Why is it minging?

I shower before bed. I put in clean pjs.

Sometimes I wear then same clothes 2 days in a row (except socks and pants!)

If o get up and hang out in my pjs I shower before bed and out clean ones one.

But let's be honest. How often is it possible to actually avoid leaving the house on any day?!

I agree with this. I was out of work for about 4 months many moons ago and while I was job hunting online, making calls, following up leads etc from the comfort of my living room I was still 'not dressed' and that alone almost stops you from going out. I binged on TV the first week while barely leaving the house and my mental state definitely started to deteriorate. After that I made it point of getting out the house and doing things. I live in London, there are hundreds of things to do so I started ticking off the bucket list. I spent the morning job hunting and the afternoons sight seeing, going to museums and galleries etc. I might have been unemployed but I was culturally richer and mentally in a decent place.

I like to get outside every day and won't wear PJs for that
I tend to buy very comfortable clothes
I don't think you need to shower everyday
I sometimes put PJs on early if my clothes are muddy
If only stay in PJs all day if not feeling too welll
I don't change my PJs every day so I guess I don't think they are particularly smelly sweaty or dirty after sleeping in them
I do air the bed and have open windows

But did she say she doesn't shower and out clean pjs on every night or specifically say she stays I. Same clothes for 72 hours without washing or changing underwear?

Personally we get dressed

But no it's not "minging" how ridiculous you are

You are right that sounds like a living nightmare to me. An indoor tampoline is surely a recipe for disaster ? I am perhaps very old fashoined my DCs were not allowed to jump about on furniture, if they were becoming boisterous in the house they were taken or sent outside ( being dressed 'n all), I have a no balls in the house rule. Having an active and spirited DS and a house I wanted to keep reasonably presentable taking them out was ugely preferable to them destroying the house with as I would see it unspent energy.

What’s wrong with being lazy once in a while?

DS aged 6 didn’t get dressed at all on Sunday 😄 spent the day doing train track, playing in garden, cooking, doing Lego. Quite obviously had his usual bath and fresh PJs at bedtime. Failing to see what’s minging.

Also we have to go out every day to walk our dog

@Neurodiversitydoctor so you're even saying yourself it wasn't essential, it just made your life easier to get them out of the house.

Indoor trampolines are great fun and hardly the same as bouncing on the furniture by the way - maybe you should try it - it might help you relax

With a side order of type 2 diabetes ?
How depressing.

There’s a huge difference between ‘emergency’ meaning instant response and ‘short notice’, meaning just that. I’d have been in and out of my pjs all day. And felt a complete idiot saying to my friend’Great. Just wait there whilst I go and get dressed’!

I'll stick with my yoga and outdoor running both of which take up no space and are free if it's all the same to you....