To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

Yep absolutely minging. Why would anyone stay inside all day anyway unless ill?

All my stuff is there and it's my happy place.

Because they live in the Uk and the weather is rubbish and they don’t fancy going out to get rained on for the 4th time that week? And maybe because they work from home/ don’t work and don’t particularly need anything from outside that day ? Because they are busy decorating or spring-cleaning their house? Or doing some kind of project on their computer. They are tired?

So many reasons!

Because I pay good money for it so I may as well use it.
Because all my stuff is there.
Because going outside everyday is massively overrated (and expensive).
Because I'm autistic and suffer from sensory overload if I don't take a break.

I wasn't talking about menstruating at all, I was talking about the people who must secrete smelly stuff daily. Sweat, discharge, sweaty feet etc. None of it's shameful, the body does what it does but those people think that everyone else smells like them and NEED constant showers and stuff. I don't. I am not a smelly person. They tell others that they must shower twice a day, must stink after sleeping in pj's all night and keeping them on the next morning. I genuinely think they smell (which is normal) after a days activities and think everyone else does. That's just not the case for a lot of people.

Your post sounds familiar

I voted that YABU, even though I sort of agree with you in that I probably wouldn't do it myself. I think to call it 'minging' is a bit strong, although I do sort of think that when people go to the supermarket in pyjamas.

we all shower and put on clean pajamas before bed. We are hardly sitting around all day unwashed. We get up, brush our teeth and hair. We just happen to stay in comfortable lounge clothing.

if we reach bedtime and are still in our pajamas, we shower and put on a new fresh set.

Staying in PJs all day and then still cooking, cleaning, pottering around the garden - yes, that doesn't sound nice. But waking up late, ordering breakfast in (closer to lunch time, so brunch) and then flopping on a sofa to drift in and out of sleep while re-watching the favourite shows - that's oddly appealing. I only do this when husband is out of town and takes our dogs with him, so technically I am asleep for 24hrs straight. In same PJs.

I’m surprised at the really strong reactions by some to the odd pyjama day. It’s not something we do often but sometimes the kids (who if anything are over busy) like just pottering around and having a super chill day. These days are normally days off in winter when the weather is shit, everyone is a bit run down etc. if anything the odd day like this is good for my mental health. Now, I agree that if someone was doing it for days on end, it would be a worrying sign but some of the comments about a single day have been pretty extreme.

I've been known to get up, have a shower, then get into fresh PJs for a nominated lazy home day- especially around Christmas time. I do suffer from night sweats though. Have done for a long time ...I cant remember a time when I would have felt reasonably unsmelly in the morning.

This

and obviously clean jammies every day!

I find it a lot more depressing that people go out and about in pjs or slobby tracksuits, but it’s not my business 🤷🏻‍♀️

Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night?

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Environmentally friendlier and none of your beeswax. Dressed AND made up every day was of a time when women were kept by men and told they had to do it. No-one should want to return to those days.

I agree it’s quite normal and actually beneficial
sometimes. It’s sad that this thread might make people feel they shouldn’t.

My child benefits from days inside, in fact sometimes she asks to stay home instead of plans we already have, she has autism and can find it overwhelming especially during busy times. So there - I’ve shown you a child that benefits from having days at home.

Staying in all day sometimes isn't an issue, going out in slobby clothes isn't an issue but hey, what do I know. On rare occasions I stay in all day and frequently go out in slobby clothes when I'm on the school run/supermarket/nipping into town to get a few bits.

I'm constantly on my feet or doing something because of the house/kids/work/exercise so it's nice to just sit down, shove on my comfy clothes and not go out. If I need to leave the house and I'm wearing my comfy clothes I will do because they are clean but I would draw the line at going out in real pyjamas.

Giving this more thought I realise that my not wanting to spend all day in PJs has something to do with being prone to depression. One of the ways I get out of a depressive phase is through routine - cleaning my house, washing dishes, eating at regular times. If I stayed in my pjs I would feel as though I was going downhill. Also I have to get outside every day in fresh air for the same reason. I would never go out in PJs.

Exactly this.

I'm not a pyjama person period. I've always slept in shorts and a cotton t-shirt with cotton underwear. On the very occasional day we aren't going anywhere, I brush my teeth, wash my face and apply sunblock and deodorant. I put on running leggings and a t-shirt as I generally exercise even on days I don't leave the house (yes, @Neurodiversitydoctor, we have a home gym). DH and I always shower before bed.

Kids had a bath every night when little and daily showers when old enough to make their own decisions. Growing up they had the odd lounging around day like that. Two are now in medical school, one is finishing uni and applying for psychology phd programmes, all are physically fit, so it doesn't seem to have blighted their lives overly.

I agree. To each their own, but for me personally, I think the magic of soap, water and a change of clothes goes a long way to making you feel better about yourself! If I'm staying home, I might just put on leggings and a tee shirt/baggy jumper, but will definitely not be unwashed in my pjs!

So are they changing their pants? Or sleeping without pants and then sitting around in PJ's with discharge over them?

Sorry but I agree, a change of clothing is a must for adults (and actually much nicer for kids too)

YABVU. If you think it's minging, that's your choice, but you have NO right whatsoever to judge anyone else who doesn't live by your standards.

If I were your colleague, I would purposely wear the same pajamas on all my WFH days and video call you if I got wind of your views, just to annoy you. 🤣

YANBU. Showering in the morning and fresh clkgbes
is non negotiable unless you’re sick and even then I’ll wash and change into fresh pyjamas. It’s gross not to.

I get what you're saying but it's literally one day, blimey.

Do you walk around at home with jeans and a shirt on, or do you wear comfy indoor leggings and a top?

I really dont care what other people do in the privacy of their own homes and wouldnt judge in the slightest.

Personally, unless I’m ill, if im having a PJ day (which I LOVE to do and probably have at least two a month!), I prefer to shower and put on fresh PJs or other comfy loungewear. I dont really do it for hygeine or smell purposes, more the psychological aspect of feeling a bit slatternly if not.

But I dont imagine that most people stink after a day at home in the same PJs! And who on earth has time to care?!