To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

It's not a choice I would make, because I wouldn't feel great about it. Even if I'm ill I try to shower and get changed if I can just because it makes me feel better. But I wouldn't concern myself with what other people are doing on their days off in their own home.

We often have pyjama days, bath during the day and new pjs. I buy ‘lounge wear’ pyjamas for myself as I spend most days in them - get home from work at 7am and do school run then shower and sleep til school pick up, I wear lounge wear and a sleep bra during the day in case I need to answer the door or take in deliveries.

Unless ill we tend to get changed into comfy clothes when having a day at home. Me and DH usually gym wear style clothes and the kids trackies/leggings and t-shirt.

I just feel a bit dirty if I haven't got up, dressed and washed for the day. Sometimes it might not happen until 10am (weekend).

Please stop using words like minging and grim.

Mental hygiene is important.

I think it improves my daughter's behaviour during the week if she's kept consistent with a morning routine at the weekends. I might stay in PJs a bit later than usual at a weekend (e.g. eating breakfast in them) but then after breakfast we all wash, get dressed and get on with other things. I need the routine for myself too. I start feeling rubbish and a bit low if I'm not washed and dressed.

I do, however, often get us all into sweat pants / a comfy hoody as soon as we come home from a day out and we're not going anywhere else. I like being comfy at home, but I also like a good solid routine.

What about moist? Can we say that? 😃

Mental hygiene...?

Family life is so busy.

If we get a rare free day at home for movies and popcorn and games and generally lovely time together, I'll happily wear PJs all day and DS will do so gleefully (but then ask for clean ones at bedtime).

I would also add that I have some very nice, fairly expensive PJs and loungewear that I don't sleep in and these would absolutely be out like a shot on a blessed PJ day. DP also has PJ bottoms etc that are never worn to bed.

I see no reason to look down on people for enjoying uncomplicated, comfortable joy where they can get it!

I tend to stay in my PJ's unless I'm leaving the house, so would do housework in them/remote work/admin etc.
We don't get changed on Christmas day until we have a walk after lunch either.
I don't sleep in PJs though so all of mine are used as more of a lounge suit type affair.

If I'm doing housework on a Saturday morning I'll sometimes stay in my PJs before getting dressed later. I have to take the dog for a walk at some point though, so I do always get dressed sooner or later.

Is anybody here in Liverpool? Decades ago when I lived there, there was a phase of having daytime PJs that people would get changed into (including underwear, hair and make up) and wear out of the house on errands and going shopping and so on that they would have previously worn a tracksuit for. Would love to know if that's still a thing there!

My kids are autistic. When they were young we had at least one pyjama day every holidays and it was something they really looked forward to. It was a bit of a safety net for them, knowing that they wouldn't have any unexpected demands placed on them. We stayed at home all day and played with lego, made pillow and blanket dens, read books, did baking, craft etc. Very happy lovely days.

Im in my nightdress from last night because im home until the late afternoon. I do t smell and im not sweaty. I showered before bed at 1am and put on clean nightdress. So today im
not getting dressed until late afternoon but im working on projects in the house. I don’t feel dirty or slovenly. I do feel lucky that I have a relatively easy day though. It’s a treat for sure

Hahahahaha

Of course you can, in private.

Not using minging, grim language.

Omg, the only time I’m not in pyjamas is when I have to leave the house. Why would I be even a tiny bit uncomfortable at home?
I doubt anyone on their deathbed regretted they wore pyjamas too often

Unless those people are wearing underwear under their PJs (which no one does surely?) then yes I agree. It’s no different from waking up and staying in the same knickers for another 24 hours.

I never have a single day when I don't leave the house - I would get cabin fever. I am a minger but I don't stay in PJs all day - more like my smelly horse clothes

Secreting and smelling bad aren’t the same thing, though.
Women with a menstrual cycle usually have various different secretions throughout the month that aren’t smelly or shameful, but still necessitate a change of knickers/pyjamas from one day to the next.

I think it is good to get dressed. I have comfy clothes I wear if I am staying in, but I am still up and dressed.

It depends. Sometimes if I want a really lazy day /on my period etc I get up shower, brush my teeth then get back into clean pyjamas.

But no I wouldn’t ordinarily just stay in the same pyjamas I’d slept in for the whole day and not shower, and I stay in a lot as someone who WFH!

I usually just wear something comfortable like shorts, joggers or lounge wear etc

We're all different, OP. I'm like you. I never spend a day in my pjs, not even when I had Covid. It would affect me psychologically because it would make me feel as though I was wasting my life. One day is all we have, really and I like to feel refreshed and as though I am embracing life rather than that I am sloping around letting life pass me by. That said, I am one of those people who could afford to rest more, so I may well try staying in my PJs all day...

actually, even the thought of it brings me out in hives, so I don't think I will be trying it any day soon.

I think it's a strange thing to be so judgemental about honestly.

I do this I am 34 weeks pregnant and can't be bothered if I don't have to and don't give a shit what anyone thinks of it

Do you change your PJs daily then?