To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

It’s lazy and I judge it.

Do you change your nightwear every day?

Maybe they shower and put new PJ's on to laze about. It doesn't necessarily mean they stay in the ones they had on the night before.

We never stay at home all day unless the dcs are very unwell, they tend to sleep a lot then so they stay in PJs. I always get dressed in case I need to go out for meds or take them to see a doctor, or in case they feel better and want to go out.

I get dressed when I work from home but apart from sweaty gym clothes always wear everything at least twice before washing and often have clothes on for three days when WFH. Longer for jeans, certainly.

Changing into pjs is part of my bedtimes routine and winding down, telling my body it's ready to sleep. And getting out of them is the opposite. I don't mind what others do though.

I can't lounge around with pjs that I sleep in! I have lounge wear that is specifically for lounging around the house, never would stay in pjs that I sleep in. Same for kids.

Personally I can't be laying around in pyjamas all day, I need to be dressed for the day (unless I'm ill). MY kids however will lounge about in pyjamas in preference to clothes and it drives me demented. Their argument is 'well we aren't going anywhere' and my argument is 'well you might be, you don't know yet and if you do need to then you have to do the whole rigmarole of getting ready'. Falls on deaf ears however.

Not to upset the purists but I do housework in my nightie so nightwear clearly doesn't mean you just slob about.
I also can easily laze about in proper clothes although I don't because that might involve ironing.

I don't actually wear pj's to bed as I sleep naked or in a nighty, I wear them to lounge around the house in as I don't find my regular clothes comfortable...so they are pretty clean.
I don't see the point in getting dressed if I am not going anywhere..the only people who see me in the house are my dh, child and the postmen so no one is judging me.
I also get into comfy clothes as soon as I am done going anywhere for the day,
why would I dress to impress people who won't see me.
If you do it for your mental health that's fine.. I only dress for the school run but as soon as I pick my ds up.. Bra off comfy gown on.

I sit on the fence.

I like a PJ day, but i can't do it in the ones i slept in, i will get up, wash, put clean undies/soft bra on and a set of pjs that are more loungewear-ish.

I have to be SICK to stay in my PJs, and that being said, i currently have covid and am sick as a dog, and still did the above.

My teens like a pj day, but i try to enforce the thing about washing/underwear and deoderant at least.

The point earlier in the thread about it being bad and encouraging them to stay in.. it takes 5 mins to put outside clothes on, and they're more of a PITA to wash.. i'd rather they slobbed in pjs i can stick in the tumble dryer, not wear stuff that needs the airer.

I enjoy being a bit minging and I don’t care.

Me too! Makes perfect sense.

I think people are talking at cross purposes a little in this thread.

Some are talking about being in PJs as part of a ‘duvet’ day - a chill out relaxing day just doing anything or nothing - watching TV, reading books, napping occasionally etc.

Others are talking about wearing PJs or loungewear things - not going out that day but still having a full day of regular life activities - working, cleaning, laundry, cooking, maybe even gardening etc. My PJs look just like yoga/exercise clothes so being in the garden wouldn’t raise any eyebrows from the neighbours.

I don’t understand the people saying their normal clothes are uncomfortable. Why do you wear them then? It’s not as though we’re all being laced into corsets and wearing whale bone stays and hairy tweed. I’m wearing jeans and a tee shirt and don’t think I’d be any more comfortable in pjs. Obviously I’m not including people with illnesses and disabilities who absolutely should wear whatever is most comfortable for them.

Obviously yes it’s minging as pyjamas are essentially underwear, you wouldn’t keep the same underwear on for days (I hope).

But for me the bigger problem is not leaving the house all day, no wonder so many of us have fucked hormones. We aren’t designed to stay indoors all day, we need to get natural light in our eyes first thing and then as much as possible throughout the day. Even on our families laziest days if we don’t go for a good walk in the fresh air, we would feel like shite. The people who spend full days in pyjamas aren’t getting any fresh air or exercise, so even hygiene aside it’s just wrong from a heath point of view.

Of course it’s up to people what they do, but they aren’t doing themselves or their DC’s health any favours living like that.

Maybe she showers in the morning and not before bed. I much prefer to slide into clean sheets after a shower and fresh pjs and only freshen up if I’m feel I need to in the morning. Otherwise you are sleeping in your day’s filth.
OP my dad is like this; it may be a generational thing. He won’t even wear slippers inside because he’s “ not an invalid.”

@Bunchesofhyacinths

Because I don't find bras and jeans comfortable.. That's all there is to it.
Pj's are designed to be loose and elasticated.. I wear more flattering clothes that suck my flabby tummy in that make my figure look good for social occasions but aren't as nice to slob about in.

you would put on fresh ones before bed then shower and change them at the end of lazy day.

Well it's all about perspective , if it's gonna be the hardest thing you can imagine you are gonna have to face day to day all it's not 'minging' . It's a shocking thing you are lucky you do not have to face and should count your lucky stars every day .

I do wonder if the people that go on about the hygiene side of it just erm, secrete more? It's the same as people who go on about showering twice a day and whatnot. When other posters point out that they've never had complaints about the way they smell, it's always 'oh other people smell you, they are just too polite to say'. Well no, I don't smell if I don't shower twice a day. My underwear never smells, my feet don't smell and neither do my armpits 🤷‍♀️. I don't smell when I wake up on a morning. So I do wonder if some people just 'secrete' less than others? Our bodies are all different after all.

Anyhoo, I don't like being in pj's all day and I dont like the kids being in them all day but we do all have our comfies so its the same thing really. Shorts, joggers, legging with tshirts, vests and hoodies. We can be in them all day if we are just pottering around the house and garden. If we have to nip out anywhere we can go out in them. I certainly don't put make up on everyday or style my hair. I just put it up. Me and OH sleep naked. Kids sleep in old (clean) shorts and tshirts mainly. They wear them more than once as we all shower on an evening so they don't get mucky or smell.

For me it kind of affects my quality of sleep if I don't put some clothes on, like I've not really woken up all day. Plus I can't do anything apart from sleep and bathe without a bra on, and once I've put a bra on I might as well get dressed. PLUS I always get the child dressed and it would be a bit confusing if I then didn't dress myself.

Nobody in our house wears pyjamas at night. We put them on if we're walking around, or having breakfast before showers.

My ex suffered with depression and wouldn’t get dressed or leave the house even on a beautiful day. He missed so much of life. Doctors tried to get him to leave the house every day . Don’t set yourself up for this

You're got it back to front, though. Staying in doesn't cause depression, depression causes staying in. You're right that forcing oneself outside can be therapeutic, I suffer from periods of depression and I try to get out as many days as possible and it does help, but sadly sometimes it's just not within the ability of a person who is stuck deep in depression to go through even the most basic motions of everyday life.

Yeah - I can't have PJ days because it makes me feel like I'm off school ill. I just can't do it! I'm in my 30s and that's still how it makes me feel. I have to be very, very ill to not bother getting dressed.

But on the other hand, if you're the kind of person who's fine with staying in PJs, nobody's going to die, are they.

Assuming you're all clean people, wearing PJs for shock horror ONE day isn't going to harm.

I don't know how some of you would have coped growing up in the 40s/50s/60s with one bath a week shared between a family of 10.

EDIT: Also, for people going on about being in "your own filth", what the bloody hell do you do to be that filthy?!

I think those carrying a bit of extra weight tend to get a bit clammier from what I've noticed. I've got a colleague who's on the larger side and she's always the first to complain when it gets a bit warm.

Not saying that nastily - said colleague is very well turned out and looks like a plump size model. She just noticeably feels the heat more than the rest of us.