To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

How about of you showwr and put on fresh sweat pants or pjs.
I often do early evening to relax.
A weekend day at home yes for sure.

I'm the opposite. When I get up, I want to get into some warm clothes, not stand shivering in a cold bathroom waiting for the water to heat up. More, I prefer to shower in the evening to get clean before bed. I don't get grubby in bed.

I think odd days its ok - downtime and rest. Not every day you are home.

I get up, have a shower and clean pjs on my stay at home days

I need to get washed, dressed etc every day for my mental health. Not necessarily in "going out" clothes, makeup etc but clean day clothes. I am prone to depression and stagnation and getting dressed helps. I remember the midwife coming round when I'd just got home with DS2 and being surprised that I was dressed so PJ days are clearly common (as in usual not rough). It's entirely up to others what they do but not for me personally.

No, but the word minging is.

Oh great, yet another thread judging others for how they live. Why does no one mind their own business any more?

I completely agree with you. Unless you're ill it feels unpleasant (physically and mentally) to stay in pyjamas.

It feels depressing to me but some people seem to enjoy it. But let's face it, the underlying issue is the spending the whole day indoors without taking children out even for a short walk! Unless it's deep winter and blizzard time.

You are not old and out of touch. Just a bit of an clean freak ;)

I know a lot of people have pyjama days if they're not going out. That's fine if it makes them feel more comfortable.
I always get dressed even if I'm not leaving the house.I don't like being in pjs when I'm not actually in bed.
I've had hospital stays for a few days at a time and I've always put clothes on ,even if it's leggings/ shorts and a loose t shirt and all I'm doing is sitting in a chair by my bed.
There's no right or wrong ,just personal preference

Why is staying indoors once in a while any kind of issues? And why is it suddenly acceptable in bad weather but not in sunshine?

You dont get a depression by wearing pyjamas all day.

We were using that word in the AF forty years ago, still use it today 😂

No but it really helps with most peoples depression if they take some basic pride in their appearance, and gave the routine of getting out of bed and getting ready for the day. It’s why going to work is so good for mild depression. Gives you purpose in life.

I would never not get dressed. It’s grim. Just buy clothes that you find comfortable to wear FGS.

It Is well documented that people with depression especially women can overcompensate when they are depressed they dress up put a.face on so as not to raise suspicion. So I don't think sitting in pyjamas isn't taking "pride"

I think it depends on what your pyjamas are. Whether it’s a few pairs of comfy shorts/joggers and a new t shirt every night, or if it’s very pyjama-y such as matching plaid cotton and a dressing gown that you wear each night for a week. I wear the former and to me that’s normal “house clothes” (I WFH anyway) so would just stay in the same clothes for 24 hours but not longer

I wouldn't tend to sit around in pyjamas I'd worn to bed unless I was ill or sometimes I'm having a shower a bit later so wouldn't bother putting clean clothes on beforehand.

I do wear lounge wear/pj's at home. If I'm working I'll wear a nicer top and comfy bottoms but they're always clean and fresh. I need the distinction and feel better for getting ready.

I will always wash/shower and put make-up on.

I have a few friends who will literally put on their laptop in bed and I can't do that, I need that transition into work time.

Also as soon as I get home the jeans, dress or whatever I'm wearing comes off and comfy clothes go on.

All I know is this..

My kid is 11 now. Ask her about her childhood, her memories, her fondest ones.

She won't tell you of beach days or holidays, or days exploring the woods.
She won't tell you of days with her friends or walking the dog, even though she could.

She'll tell you of days where she lay around, in her PJs and her socks.
No stresses or worries, no lessons or watching the clocks.

Relaxing with films, duvets and too many crisps, biscuits and sweets.
There's millions of kids in this world that will never know days of such treats.

So take the stick from out your anus and ease up on the gas.
You might be dead next Tuesday so relax a bit and enjoy life as it lasts.

That was a poem by me, written by me in 2 minutes... And it's shit.. but I'm chilling in yesterdays knickers so I don't care..

Best thing in the world IMO. People on MN are absolutely obsessed with cleanliness though.

We love a pj day, everyone showers daily so it’s not like we are unclean, it’s comfy and cosy!

I don't feel myself if i'm not showered and dressed by at least 10am on days i'm home. I feel like I'm being really lazy, which is nonsense but that's obviously been drilled into me at some point. I also think I associate lounging around in my Pj's with being ill, as it's the only time I do it. But, each to their own. If folk are happy, then who cares. Maybe we should all take a leaf out of their book and relax a bit more.

I love having nothing planned & can easily spend from Friday finishing work until Monday morning in my pj's laying around all weekend doing sweet fuck all (judge away) nowt better!!!

No but by getting dressed you are telling your mind the day is starting and helps boost your mind to be productive and get on with the day therefore boosting you mental health and helping with depression

One of the few things my work did when we were all sent home to WFH at beginning of Covid , was have PowerPoint presentations etc to help be productive and i remember clearly that routine of getting up and getting dressed kick starts your mind to get going. I only go into the office once a month, but i get up everyday and get dressed, not fancy clothes but jeans and a hoody or knit. I try and dress warmly as WFH is cold ( i dunno how WFH people wear pyjamas as the are designed to be worn with a duvet over you so i don't find them warm outside of bed )
I also am now trying to wear clothes that make me feel good each day instead of sitting in the wardrobe so wearing a bright yellow light knit today and jeans - the colour - which you actually don't realise- is giving me a boost on a cold June day

Agree with you, OP -minging!