To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

You're not being unreasonable OP. I don't like it either. Sitting around in bed clothes you've slept in all night possibly unwashed including maybe teeth alot of the time or even sometimes is gross and not a good example. If we're having a day at home we all still have a wash and brush teeth and put our comfies on, fresh PJ's maybe but usually tracky bottoms and loose tops, bra free for me (soooooo nice), make up free (lush) , nice bed socks or leggings and t shirts with oodies. Get dressed and have a wash you Jeremy Kylers....😂🥴

I sometimes have PJ days but strangely i like to put ‘clean’ PJ’s on at bedtime! I think it’s a personal preference.

Lacking against the standards of parents who get their toddlers dressed and take them out into the fresh air each day to see the world around them. So they can build a bigger catalogue of experiences and expand their vocabulary as they find new things on their travels.

But they can do that the rest of the week though ? Maybe they just want to stay in do a bit of housework and sort out meals for the week ahead or it's pouring of rain with gales and just want to stay in.

Yeah, there will be days when weather kills play (I'm not sure that cleaning the house would leave you so spent you couldn't go outdoors though?) But getting dressed is a good habit, a way to signal a change of pace in the day and if the weather does stop chucking it down you are ready to take advantage of it and go out. Or you go to the shops, or to a playgroup, go swimming, the library if you have one - just be in the outside world for a bit.

I'm astounded that people think like this and are so anxious that 1 day at home is detrimental to a child's development.

Answering the door in PJs and dressing gown (if I'm wearing PJs it's cold weather, so the dressing gown is a must) doesn't bother me at all. I did it twice in the last few days, once to a neighbour and once to our landlord (the manager of the retirement village we live in, who had to come in to look at my broken shower head).

Why are their standards the superior ones? 🤷‍♀️

One day home, how often? One day home -now and then, or once a week each week and six days out and about, or in one of the two days they aren't in nursery that week?

But kids are out every weekday anyway, at kinder or school. I know I was more than happy to stay home and mostly indoors as a child, and I didn't have the endless round of activities kids now (at least in Britain) seem to take part in. Being taken for walks is the only time most dogs are off the property.

Well, you all do what you want with your kids. It's no skin off your nose or mine if I think it's a poor effort.

Personally I like to get changed first thing, because I know visitors will come, i want to work out or I have errands to do. But I don't mind my kids being in pyjamas until lunch time at the weekend, they get changed after lunch. I wouldn't like them being in their pyjamas all day and night, unless they were poorly.

Once a week staying once week do you think that is detrimental to a child's development what do you think will happen?

I don’t personally do it, I have a chronic debilitating illness and I still wake up and get dressed for the day as it makes me feel prepared for the day - even when I’m at home 90% of the time. My son on the other hand, he’s often in comfy lounge clothes at home but occasionally I let him be comfortable in his pyjamas all day. That’s what being a kid is all about.

But that’s my CHOICE. Unlike you, I’m not judging other people for what they do with themselves and their own children. Personally, I think as long as they bath and get into fresh pyjamas before they get into bed - there’s no issue.

I often wear pyjamas around the house - not ones I've worn to bed though. I don't really like wearing outside clothes in the house as with cats they get covered in cat fur, get threads pulled etc.

And DS is autistic and wears the same clothes day and night, only gets changed after weekly swimming sessions, so I can't get stressed that some people sometimes do that at weekends.

It must be exhausting being this judgmental 😂

Excellent points. I suspect some posters would have conniptions if I mentioned my once weekly PJ washes and once fortnightly sheet washes! 😱

Well l do..
But l sleep naked.
Get my morning shower and then put clean pj's on.
They are just like people wearing comfies or tracksuits etc.
Did she definitely say ones she had slept in?

Not sure on hygiene level but I just feel mentally sleepy if I'm in my pyjamas, it feels like I should be ill. Prefer a shower and dressed fresh even if it's comfy leggings and a baggy tee

When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I want to do is jump into a nice warm shower, then put on some clean clothes. I find it hard to understand people who don't want to do this.

What's so difficult to understand? There are billions of people on the planet, we're not a monolith.

I’d feel like I was off sick. I don’t think it’s great for kids to see this - getting up and the rituals of being washed and dressed is a fairly essential part of starting your day in the right frame of mind, by to mention the hygiene .
Odd not to leave the house - don’t people go for walks with their kids (if they’re having a can’t be arsed day)?

Each to their own, but it's not something I like to do personally. Even if I'm off work due to illness, I'll still get up and change out of my PJs - likely into a pair of comfy joggers, a t-shirt and cardigan. Completing the look by sitting on my favourite chair in the living room, a blanket over my legs and a cup of tea.

I also very rarely have days when I don't leave the house as I get very stir crazy and bored (with the exception of sick days - often when I've got a tummy bug and need to have a toilet close by at all times!)

Neither do I normally but it doesn't mean I just consistently wear the same set of pyjamas the whole time. I don't sleep in pyjamas so I put them on in the morning and take them off before bed and then put a new set on the next day. I put a proper top on if I've got a Teams meeting. And how sweaty are you getting from sitting at home tapping on a keyboard for 7 hours?

Don't see an issue with it. I work hard all week so I choose to chill in pyjamas . I know I'm not doing anything on said day off, so why get dressed . I also answer the door in pyjamas it doesn't bother Me.