To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

Fair enough, I don’t need to wash my hair every day and would tend to wash it in the evening anyway and I never wear make up or jewellery, getting dressed and ready for the day literally takes me 5-10 minutes maximum even on days where I have unlimited time so I don’t generally need a lot of notice to get ready to go out. I can see that if people want or feel they need to spend a lot of time doing make-up, sorting their hair etc and wouldn’t like to go out without having done those things then maybe that’s why the idea of not being up and dressed is harder to understand.

If it's something like Ringworm, the spores can stay on the skin for many weeks even after treatment, before they're eliminated, and can be spread to others, so she's doing the right thing.

I can't stand to be in pajamas to eat lunch. That's our house rule. Sunday mornings in pajamas, no problem. But we get dressed for lunch.

It's just another week of dressing your piss poor parenting up as a considered choice. Last week everyone was saving the planet by bathing their kids once a week, now they are letting their kids 'chill out' by letting them mooch around the house all day in their night clothes.

OK Karen.

You know, that Karen shit just doesn't work here. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Seems it did. 🤣

I love pyjama days!,but ..a shower and change into clean pj's is a must for a pyjama day,I couldn't function feeling minging without a wash or shower and clean pj's on.Even if I'm ill in bed on death's door,I have to wash/shower and put clean pjyamas on.

Are you always so judgemental and unpleasant about other peoples choices?

I don’t think it’s disgusting but it not something I did when I was a sahm. Mainly because I don’t like walking around in clothes I sleep in (even if it’s just at home) and I feel more productive when I’m dressed

No, I don't think so. But, I think children deserve better than building a jolly narrative about lower standards of care.

And I don't mean, a Sunday morning here, a sick day there or you've just got back from holiday, if this is part and parcel of your week, week in week out, then it's lacking.

You wash bedding every day?

I honestly can't imagine being so invested in other people's habits and lifestyles. What possible difference does it make to you how people dress in their own homes? Are you that bored that you'd waste headspace judging this?
We all bath daily. And I do get the point about feeling mentally ready for the day when you've had a wash and got dressed. But we are often in our pjs until lunch at the weekend. It's relaxing and it doesn't make us minging or bad people.
The other day I took my toddler swimming in her pjs because they're easier to get on and off and she was due a nap after swimming. I just put her puddle suit over the top. No regrets.

I do get dressed by my cut off time of 10am if I am going to pop out, or feeling a little chilly as I don't have the heating come on between 10am and 3pm. Or if its a lazy day and not expecting any deliveries, work men or going out, I'll just put on a pair of leggings and a dressing gown. But as soon as I have had a shower (afternoon usually) I don't get dressed again unless I'm going out.

I get dressed every day unless ill. But in the evenings I put my pyjamas on to watch tv or for hobbies, but I use them as loungewear so clean to wear downstairs and different things in bed.

pyjama days usually mean you put clean pj’s on.

I get dressed because people often call round during the day so I wear a tracksuit. Just as comfy but clean, fresh clothes.

Depends really. If I had a PJ day I’d shower and change into clean nighty before bed still.
mits a bit minging if they wear all day and then sleep in it again too.. but then I’m someone who has to shower and wash daily including hair, otherwise I feel dirty.
I’ve recently had major surgery and spent a couple of days in nighties because the looseness of them was more comfortable. But I was showering and changing them daily. Along with the lovely surgical stockings ! 😂

I have to say personally it makes me feel a bit 'ick' for myself, but each to their own. I always get dressed, even if I'm feeling ill, as I feel kind of lethargic and not together in PJs - the day kind of begins when I get dressed.

I'm never dressed when I'm at home. I'm always in my nightshirt as being a larger lady, comfort trumps all and that's what I find most comfortable. I live alone, so no one ever sees me and I don't have a washing machine l, have to go to the launderette, so I'm not going to dirty more clothes unnecessarily.

I do however cringe when I see people (adults) out in public in their pj’s. That IS vile

It's not for us as a family. At least one would be having a shower in the morning and just feels nice to have something clean against my skin. If bed clothes are to be used next night, I like to leave them to air a bit as well. Mind you, it's rare DD and myself would have been in all day - as a family we've always gone out every day if only for a walk, taking DD to park.

Lacking according to who, exactly?

I don't care what others do and I wouldn't describe it as minging, but I would feel uncomfortable without a morning bath or shower and clean clothes. I don't like the feeling of sticky armpits and down below. Occasionally my kids will stay in pjs if we're not going out and they will have their evening bath a bit earlier than usual. Even when I'm ill I find I feel a bit better after getting showered and dressed.

No no no not normally. I'm sleeping downstairs at present in a sleeping bag on a sofa so I'm close to kettle for hot water bottle, access to loo and the heater.

Sleeping bag is washed first thing in case I've touched something and accidentally transferred the disease to it. It's very easy to wash and then have it dry by evening.

Normally I'm once a week for bedding!

This won't be for much longer, only a week. Just spoke to GP and apparently I'm still contagious, boo. The frequent washing is only illness related and I can stop it soon. Wasn't expecting to be grilled on this!

Please continue with daytime pj discussions

So you think if someone stays home.say a Tuesday with their toddler is lacking In what exactly?