What's your cautionary tale?

[BrightInMyNorthernSky]

Having just got through the most stressful week ever due to a nightmare situation of my own making, I thought I would share a previous and current cautionary tale.

1. Always remember to change the address on your V5 and not just your license. I didn't. DH got caught speeding twice on the same day on the same stretch of road (33 in a 30) in my car. Both fines went to old address. Didn't answer them, obvs. The whole sorry mess played out without me being aware and by the time it all caught up with me it was had been banned from driving for six months and fined £2k - five months earlier! So had been driving while banned for five months!!!

Imagine coming towards the end of your life looking back. What would you be wishing you should’ve changed about your life? Then change it now.

If your very overweight and someone close says to you we both need to lose weight before we end up with health issues listen to them. My friend went on to lose 4 stone and still watches their weight. Meanwhile the other person now has type 2 diabetes, sleep apnea, high blood pressure and painful joints. It's having a major impact on their quality of life now.

If your very overweight and someone close says to you we both need to lose weight before we end up with health issues listen to them. My friend went on to lose 4 stone and still watches their weight. Meanwhile the other person now has type 2 diabetes, sleep apnea, high blood pressure and painful joints. It's having a major impact on their quality of life now.

Never, ever put mashed banana in your hair.

Ditto egg and lemon juice - it was a recipe for a hair mask in a magazine and I ended up washing scrambled egg out of my hair.

please tell me what anti fungal treatment used ? going through similar past 5 years

We did almost the exact same thing- forgot to pay Merseyflow charge within 24 hours, and 6 months later got a very aggressive call from a debt collection agency telling us if we didn't immediately hand over £700, they'd come and clamp our car. We put in an appeal directly to the traffic violation people, and in the end just had to pay the £4 fare we should have paid to begin with.

My advice:

• Think really, really carefully before having children with someone. That person is going to be in your life for the rest of your life, one way or another. Make sure you agree on:
• Parenting styles
• Money management
• How you would deal with the situation if you were to ever split up
• If you meet someone with children, particularly if the other parent is very much still in the picture, do not expect that you will have a parent/child relationship with them and do not take on the responsibilities of a parent. It will backfire and you will be disappointed.
• Before you have children, do your research. Learn about breastfeeding and formula feeding and decide what's right for you. Read about safe sleep, car seat safety, child psychology, toilet training, weaning. Not just the leaflets you get at the GP surgery or the latest baby book from a self-proclaimed parenting expert, but go to the scientific sources and look at the research and the evidence. We are so lucky to have that at our fingertips. Generations of parents who lost babies to avoidable causes or damaged their children due to lack of knowledge would be so grateful to have that. You will not necessarily make the same decisions as someone else based on the same information, but at least you are informed and know the risks you are taking.

@Wexone Nizoral shampoo. I had tried everything. Even private general anaesthetic and botox injected under it.

Knowledge is power. When hiring anyone for anything, even a supposed expert in their field, never blindly trust their advice and what they tell you. From lawyers to tradesmen, they're ultimately acting in their own interests, not yours. This happens to women especially I think. Man does a substandard job then mansplains why it's right (or worse, why it's 'fine'). There's been more than one occasion when I've surprised and angered them by counteracting their excuses with hard facts.

I had a colleague whose uncle (who was like a father to him) died, then his actual dad died, then another uncle (who was also like a father to him) died, all in the space of 7 weeks. Poor man, so many tragedies.

None of them had died.

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This is so true. My ex husband went straight from me (and our baby) to live with the woman he had been cheating on me with. A few years (and 3 kids later) he cheated on her, she left him and the kids. That old thing of if you give it out, you get it back threefold came true for him. As for me, it was three years before I was in any way ready for a relationship again, there was so much hurt and upset to process plus I was a new mum and did not have the emotional energy for another man

thanks I was actually going to get botext done privately. it's such a bloody pain and affect everything. my gp doesn't believe me and says I a m just an itchy person 🙈🤷‍♀️

Oh, it was supposed to be funny?

We got caught by this but not a ban, just two speeding fines. We only knew when a letter from a bailiff debt collection agency came to our new address! We'd been so careful about changing all our addresses and somehow missed this one.

If there's an insurmountable barrier to your relationship progressing, for example it's long distance and neither of you wants to move, or one of you wants kids and the other doesn't, don't bury your head in the sand. Have the conversation sooner rather than later and cut your losses.

Yeah. Was it Just Seventeen? Told you to use egg to make your hair shine, didn't tell you to use cold water? I bet they did that on purpose!

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A few people seem to have missed the joke

Don’t go on holiday with people you don’t know that well just because they have kids who are friends with your kids
Never ask a small child what they want to eat/ wear/ do
Check your driving licence is up to date

Oh! We are going to have to check our Dads are still coming out!

@Wexone Don't spend the 2k on the botox. It made me faecally incontinent for two years and did bugger all for the fissure.

I was treating a cat in my practice that had a non healing wound so I sent away a swab for culture and it had a fungal infection. It was that that made me try an anti fungal prep on my AF and it stopped hurting the same day and was back together after two weeks.

I have twice booked the right flights on the wrong days (one a day early and one a day late), and turned up at the airport both times.

Early wasn't so bad as I got to hole up in a hotel for a day by myself eating and watching TV; late cost me a fortune as I needed to get back and had to rebook not just another flight but another train ticket and then a taxi because the only timely flight I could get went to a different airport.

None of it was as bad as doing the walk of shame back down the check in queue after insisting that I had a reservation and waving a printed out email confirmation to back it up, only to be told that one went yesterday 😁😖

@FarmerJilly
While DP may come across as refreshingly free-thinking and possessing of the kind of irreverence which has made him particularly suitable to a career in his field, with an exquisite attention to detail and out-of-the-box creative flair, it is now clear that these are manifesting in DC1 but with less refinement, and assigned the diagnostic label of pathological demand avoidance. The quality of these traits in both DP and DC1 is the same, but, lacking patriarchal scaffolds and the confidence of a middle-aged man, my teen DD is finding it much harder to navigate the world she inhabits.

I did see the flip-side of how these things manifested in DP early on; free-thinking also meant holding some really strange views, at odds with most; professional irreverence also meant social clumsiness and inability to take instruction or recognise authority or expertise, attention to detail occasionally manifesting as perfectionism, intrusive thoughts, compulsive patterns and anxiety; creative flair often marred by seemingly insurmountable blocks. But, being naive and in love, I thought it might be fixable. Now we have made peace with the fact that it's most likely hard-wired. If I'd followed the old adage "When someone first tells you who they are, believe them," I would have been better prepared or made better informed choices.

Don’t take things too seriously. Enjoy a laugh from time to time. That’s my advice.

Good to hear.i have cats too 🙈 just ordered fingers crossed it works. find summer time gets worse with heat