What's your cautionary tale?

[BrightInMyNorthernSky]

Having just got through the most stressful week ever due to a nightmare situation of my own making, I thought I would share a previous and current cautionary tale.

1. Always remember to change the address on your V5 and not just your license. I didn't. DH got caught speeding twice on the same day on the same stretch of road (33 in a 30) in my car. Both fines went to old address. Didn't answer them, obvs. The whole sorry mess played out without me being aware and by the time it all caught up with me it was had been banned from driving for six months and fined £2k - five months earlier! So had been driving while banned for five months!!!

If a new man tells you ALL his ex's were pyscho and ripped him off/stopped him seeing children etc this says more about him than them. Run.
If you want a paper trail email if you don't phone. Learnt this the hard way with DSS sen school. Everything agreed with the head by phone never happened and we'd no proof it was ever agreed.
Don't trust work colleagues with too much personal info.

My mam used to manage a large enough team within an office function of the NHS - 15+yrs ago so things might have changed - she told one colleague IDK how many times that absolutely everything she emailed was CC'd to her. Colleague would kept emailing inappropriate things, including giving out about being told to stop!

Don't make the mistake of believing that your parents love you as much as your siblings. There will be preferential treatment.

Because they're honest, not stupid.

Don't put anything in your work email that a malicious manager can use against you. I learned this lesson the hard way, but in a subsequent job I was very glad I had. By anything I mean:

• anything personal and not work-related, whether it's to someone outside the organisation that employs you or to one of your current colleagues
• anything criticising another colleague at all, in any way
• anything to HR.

Oh yes. Don’t decant eye makeup remover into a bottle previously used for mouthwash.

Yes and if you do follow the instructions for the morning after pill as if you don't you can (and in my case did) get pregnant

Re your last point, don't pull the ill granny card as you got a last minute ticket to day 5 of the 2005 ashes test match, in row 2. Your colleagues will see you on the coverage they were watching in the office. Luckily it was only a temp job, so I got another one the next week.

Oh, don't moralise over it. It was a joke but not an immediately obvious one, that's all.

Teenage relative, just passed her test, new car, insured and taxed. Drove alone to a quiet location away from home. Alerted when her car was seen being dragged on to a lowloader with the handbrake on - due to an error on DVLA records - showing as untaxed (it was taxed, she had email confirmation). She would have been left isolated and alone. I now pay car tax monthly for this reason and ease of showing proof.

Do get a mitt, even for applying the self tanning moisturiser. That streaky shit that seemed to be rubbed in properly takes a lot of scrubbing to get off.

And another vote for lovingly curated chicken stock down the sink.

When eating chicken- if you think it doesn't taste right, it seems a bit slimy in texture, if it was cooked by a person who can barely manage to boil pasta... put the chicken down. Do not continue eating to spare their feelings.

Don’t think that just because a counsellor has the best qualifications money can buy that they’re great at what they do because a small minority of counsellors in private practice are working unethically - their first and only priority is money. There’s no therapy going on, they just want to keep you coming back week after week so they ‘earn’ their £240 (or so) every month from you. Likewise with a minority of trainee counsellors, they only care about getting their placement hours.

Oooops forgot to tell my employer that the day I was born I only had two living grandparents and my daughter is 5 and only has one. We are very careless with our grandparents it seems :-))))

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Ahh I see, poor daughter. I had a colleague whose father died twice. I think she thought we wouldn´t remember.

Remember that the trait you are most attracted to in a new partner is often the trait that drives you away in the end.

Of course it was, but the post I replied to was dickish

I remember the footballer Stephen Ireland claiming a dead granny to get out of a couple of matches. She was most peeved when she read about it in the papers, and went to them herself to refute the exaggerated rumours of her death.

Do not think that 'removes all limescale toilet cleaner' will work on taps. It discolours them forever.

People can and will take massive advantage of you for being kind.

Also (and I can't bring myself to be "that person" sadly) the complainer/pusher will end up with a better service/product than the polite one.

Don't follow a Facebook link to a 'sale' on a website.

@CoffeeLover90 Thoughts and prayers, hope you have recovered.

This applies to many areas in life. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve given more of myself to people that I should have.
However, I do not believe I need to change. Just need better boundaries.

Beware though! 30 miles into a 400 drive I got a phone call from my insurers that they had not been able to take payment from my card, it too was on auto-renewal! He was lovely on the phone and asked if I'd had a replacement card during the year, that was usually the problem, it was and he took the payment there and then. We weren't uninsured even though it was a couple of days after it officially expired as they allow for this to happen but it didn't stop my heart thumping.

When you're hiring a car on line make sure you don't accidentally scroll on to another totally unknown place. Again it was resolved by phoning Herz direct, it often happens apparently, at least I noticed before arriving to find no car reserved.