The neighbours at my holiday let are giving me the rage.

[thorneyislanddoris]

I've recently lost my parents and wanted to get away for some peace and quiet.

I've booked a self catering cottage deliberately chosen because it's right in the countryside. Lovely and quiet.

It's one of two. The neighbours are a group of 4 adults and 4 small kids.

I've been trying to relax in the garden and for the last 5 hours they've been shouting, laughing and being extremely noisy.

It's noisier than my neighbours at home.

AIBU to be irritated?

Yabu. You should have booked somewhere on its own. People laughing and enjoying their holiday? Outrageous!

It’s hard. Yes you should be able to enjoy the cottage but so should they. Hopefully they will do days out and you will get some peace. Could you go out for a bit?

If it is daytime and they got up or went outside at 930am, seems reasonable. Assuming you are not on holiday with school age children, you could have chosen next week or a couple of weeks ago.

I think the school half term has been the same week at the end of May for at least 40 years, it's not a surprise.

Are there nice country walks that you can access? Unfortunately it's your neighbours' holiday too, so they don't seem to be doing anything unusual or wrong.

Can you chat to them and find out if they have any plans to go out?

That ain’t how it works lovely, shouda got a cabin deep in the forest somewhere if you want guaranteed quite and private.

They aren't doing anything wrong, just enjoying their holiday. It does sound annoying for you, OP, but unless you book a completely secluded cottage there's always a risk you'll have "exuberant" neighbours!

I'm sorry your parents have died and you're not getting the peace you hoped for, but the family are entitled to use the facilities they've booked. It sounds as though they're just enjoying themselves.

You are being unreasonable but I can understand why you are angry and upset all the same. But it isn’t really fair, they are just trying to enjoy a holiday.

Wait. You booked a holiday cottage? And they are also a holiday cottage?

Surely you knew this when you did the booking? There was always a high chance the other cottage would be booked and occupied - and it's June so the chances of kids being there are high?

Sorry for your loss, OP, but unless you booked an isolated cottage with no neighbours YABU to expect people on holiday to be quiet.

They are on holiday too, it's a sunny day, they are allowed to go out. Take yourself off for a nice long walk, maybe book somewhere smaller and more isolated like a Highland bothy next time.

I can appreciate that's irritating for you, especially as you're grieving. But it's half term so probably a bad week in general for peace and quiet. Could you book another one before the summer holidays, and make it a detached property on its own somewhere?

Sorry for your loss op.

Booking any holiday let in the half term holiday means you’re highly likely to find a family with young kids in one too. It’s their holiday too, so whilst it may be noisy , they’re not doing anything wrong.

Sigh

Yes you're all right.

But I couldn't afford anywhere completed isolated.

I'm aware it's school holidays that's why I arrived yesterday. Was hoping they would all go home today. Sadly not.

I don't know why they haven't gone out. I went out early. Got back a while ago. Still out there.

I know they're allowed to enjoy their holiday.

I'm just so sad.

And sad I'm not getting the peace I crave. 😞

We often book holidays in cottages. Always in school holidays as I have a school age DC

Never had neighbours as noisy before.

Typical!

Sadly yabu. But I hate other people and their noise, so I have the utmost sympathy.

YABU
It's a family on holiday, during the school holidays, on a Sunday, having fun together during the day

You wanted quiet then book somewhere isolated without neighbours

Whilst my county didn't do it, maybe they have tomorrow as an inset day due to the BH at the start of half-term. Fingers crossed they check out tomorrow.

Can you go online and check availability for the cottage next door to see if it gives you a clue when they're leaving?

YABU but I also hate noise.

Hopefully they will have some days out and you can enjoy some peace and quiet.

All your feelings are valid I think

I'm sorry about your parents and understand your desire to get away. But you are unreasonable to expect complete peace and quiet in a holiday let. I assume the people next door are also on holiday and people on holiday with children will make noise.
If you want complete peace and quiet you need a different type of holiday

YABVU

YABU. This was always a possibility where your envisioned quiet/peaceful holiday would clash with a family with young children’s fun/loud holiday. The countryside is for everyone, not just adults.

YABU. This was always a possibility where your envisioned quiet/peaceful holiday would clash with a family with young children’s fun/loud holiday. The countryside is for everyone, not just adults.

Your feelings are understandable. I'm sorry that several people responding to you haven't taken your bereavement into account or even acknowledged it.

I think the sound of happy families enjoying themselves perhaps is triggering your loss ? Of course you are sad about this. Maybe try and think of some happy holiday memories you had with your parents and remember that these people are only doing the same.