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The neighbours at my holiday let are giving me the rage.

79 replies

thorneyislanddoris · 02/06/2024 14:35

I've recently lost my parents and wanted to get away for some peace and quiet.

I've booked a self catering cottage deliberately chosen because it's right in the countryside. Lovely and quiet.

It's one of two. The neighbours are a group of 4 adults and 4 small kids.

I've been trying to relax in the garden and for the last 5 hours they've been shouting, laughing and being extremely noisy.

It's noisier than my neighbours at home.

AIBU to be irritated?

OP posts:
TheDuck2018 · 02/06/2024 19:57

AlltheFs · 02/06/2024 17:52

I think when you are grieving it’s hard to accept that the world keeps going and that other people are enjoying themselves, whilst your life seems to have has stopped.

YABU as you know, but it’s not surprising. Grieving people are often unreasonable.

Sorry for your loss @thorneyislanddoris

This xx

Sending deepest sympathy, op 💐

midlifeattheoasis · 02/06/2024 20:01

YABU. People are allowed to enjoy themselves too, you know

LizzieBennett73 · 02/06/2024 20:02

We went and stayed in a holiday let a few months after my Dad had died, OP, and I had the worst time. It was a lovely cottage, on a very quiet site with the most beautiful sea view.... and I was miserable. Everything annoyed me from the plates to the dishwasher. And there was nothing wrong with any of it.

I think you'd be feeling like this wherever you are. Hold in there, it gets better Flowers

INeedAPensieve · 02/06/2024 20:10

Deepest sympathies for your losses, it is very hard and yep, when you are grieving it is hard not to get irritated by life going on for other people.

goneaway2 · 02/06/2024 20:15

My youngest has an inset day tomorrow, it might be the same for them.

Silvers11 · 02/06/2024 20:30

@thorneyislanddoris YANBU to be irritated when you wanted peace and quite and I am so sorry about your loss. I don't know why so many people are saying YABU to you being irritated. It would irritate a lot of people

You Would be Unreasonable if you said anything to them, because they are on their holidays, but you know that and haven't said you intend to do anything about it. Unfortunately, that is always the risk when booking holiday accommodation near other holiday accommodation

JaneAustensHeroine · 02/06/2024 20:37

I can empathise OP. So sorry for your loss and understand all too well the peace you crave. 💐

landofgiants · 02/06/2024 20:47

I’m at home, but the holiday let neighbours are also giving me the rage. 😤

(For context, I’m in a popular holiday area but not in a village that I would not consider ‘touristy’. There are 3 houses on my estate:- ours, a second home and what is now a holiday rental.)

I didn’t realise that children could be that noisy, or for that long!!! It’s winding my pets up too! I know that I’m being somewhat unreasonable, but still. The problem with living next to a holiday let, is that it is one slightly annoying event after another. Grrrr.

Kickstartplease · 02/06/2024 22:37

Sorry for your loss, but I hate to break it to you but it's still half term for primary children for another week depending on where in the country they have come from

JohnSt1 · 02/06/2024 22:53

You are not being unreasonable.

You haven't confronted them and demanded they be quiet. That would be unreasonable. You're not unreasonable to feel the way you feel.

parttimeweddingplanner · 02/06/2024 22:57

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope they leave soon.

Flatulence · 02/06/2024 22:58

Sorry, bur you're being extremely unreasonable.

So long as the noise isn't super early/late and isn't them screaming blue murder at each other then they've every right to enjoy their holiday by laughing, playing, chatting etc. in the garden.

If you wanted silence then unfortunately you do need to book somewhere more isolated or somewhere not next to another holiday let.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 02/06/2024 23:00

Our school has 2 weeks off for this half term, as does one of the schools my neighbour's children go to.

other schools around here, including the most local have 2 weeks off for the Oct half term

LightandAiry · 02/06/2024 23:08

I'm sorry for your loss. I've lost my parents too, I completely understand 💐

I don't have anything to add to the replies here, it's usual for me to feel irritated by less than this!

LightandAiry · 02/06/2024 23:11

No empathy from some posters on here....

ManchesterLu · 02/06/2024 23:17

Sorry for your loss. In the future you'd be better booking a hotel room/B&B as it's less likely that guests will want to be there during the day, so you can have the space and peace you need, and get out and about whenever you want to.

PorridgeEater · 03/06/2024 01:28

Sorry OP but they are not to know you are feeling fragile are they? And it's not their fault. Can you find somewhere nearbye that is quieter?

MarkWithaC · 03/06/2024 09:26

ButterCrackers · 02/06/2024 18:25

There might be no noise from 10pm to 7am in the cottage holiday conditions. Nothing wrong with asking the family if they’re going out for the day so that you don’t go out on the same day. Instead you can enjoy the quiet and go out at another time.

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It's daytime noise that's bothering the OP, not night-time.

Original poster
thorneyislanddoris · 03/06/2024 11:27

Update

They've gone home!

And holiday cottage owner told me nobody else is coming in this week.

And she apologised that they were so noisy.

Anyway. I can now relax on my own in the peace and quiet

OP posts:
ButterCrackers · 03/06/2024 11:54

thorneyislanddoris · 03/06/2024 11:27

Update

They've gone home!

And holiday cottage owner told me nobody else is coming in this week.

And she apologised that they were so noisy.

Anyway. I can now relax on my own in the peace and quiet

Perfect. Enjoy the peace and quiet.

Silvers11 · 03/06/2024 12:05

That's good to see your update @thorneyislanddoris Enjoy the peace and quiet now. Take care

sprigatito · 03/06/2024 12:12

I'm so sorry about your parents Flowers. It's rotten luck that your quiet getaway is being spoilt, I would be gutted too. You're extra sensitive to the noise because you're grieving and because you specifically wanted peace and quiet. I agree with others that there probably isn't much you can do about it, but you're not unreasonable to be upset. Hopefully they bugger off home soon and you can get a bit of tranquility.

sprigatito · 03/06/2024 12:18

Oh brilliant, they've gone! Great news.

mitogoshi · 03/06/2024 13:07

That's good news op.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 03/06/2024 13:19

I’m sorry for your loss OP.

What about some head phones? Or go for a walk. Not ideal I know but there’s not much you can do about the noise in this case.