The neighbours at my holiday let are giving me the rage.

[thorneyislanddoris]

I've recently lost my parents and wanted to get away for some peace and quiet.

I've booked a self catering cottage deliberately chosen because it's right in the countryside. Lovely and quiet.

It's one of two. The neighbours are a group of 4 adults and 4 small kids.

I've been trying to relax in the garden and for the last 5 hours they've been shouting, laughing and being extremely noisy.

It's noisier than my neighbours at home.

AIBU to be irritated?

Yes you are unreasonable

When we lived in a pokey terrace with no natural light and no gardens we'd rent a cottage with a garden and take a paddling pool and spend the whole time playing in the garden. Maybe this is the only time they get to play out in a private space and make noise etc. Try and be tolerant

I'm sorry, OP, it's clearly not what you wanted or needed. But they're not behaving unreasonably. Just bad luck, I guess.

Some primaries have 2 weeks...just to warn OP

In my experience isolated cottages are cheaper. But are you sure your children would want that?

YANBU to be irritated, I would be too. Other people’s noise really irritates me. Of course they are just enjoying their holiday and it sounds like they aren’t making unreasonable noise. Do you have noise cancelling ear phones? I find they work well for me. Otherwise I would head out for a long walk.

Are you sure it's a holiday cottage not their home? If it's their home YABU they have as much right to be there as you.

Totally unreasonable. If you crave peace and quiet, don’t go away in school holidays and don’t book an attached property. Sorry, but you need to do more research in the future

You are not being unreasonable. Are there times set about making noise? Or guidelines about noise at the cottages? There should be something said in the use of the cottage instructions. If not have a word and ask them when they’ll be out for the day so you can plan to enjoy the silence.

I feel for you but you can't expect to stay next to a holiday home for families and it be quiet.

I get it’s annoying. But probably BU. We went to a popular walking spot today, at the insistence of relatives so we could picnic where there are nice views. Absolutely rammed with people. We live on a long distance footpath on the edge of a village and in an AONB. Our views are as good / better because you don’t have to look across a carpark. And unlike the picnic spot, which is next to a busy road, our home is quiet. Holidays are rarely peaceful, I don’t think that’s the point of them though.

I think when you are grieving it’s hard to accept that the world keeps going and that other people are enjoying themselves, whilst your life seems to have has stopped.

YABU as you know, but it’s not surprising. Grieving people are often unreasonable.

Sorry for your loss @thorneyislanddoris

er no, this is insane. It's daytime, it's sunny, they are on holiday and are enjoying themselves. What possible rules do you think there'd be stopping this?

We did book a Highland bothy... Unfortunately the owner and her fucking barky ddog lived next door....

Sympathies OP - I'd feel the same. My neighbours' kids have been screeching all afternoon so loudly. It's irritating but I just shut my windows or if outside play music loudly on a Bluetooth speaker. Back to school they go tomorrow.

Sod's Law that this is the time you have noisy neighbours.

Slightly different issue but, years ago, we booked a cottage through "dog-friendly cottages." We took our 'just beyond puppy-stage' dog. The people in the next barn conversion to us said their child was scared of dogs and could we please keep the ours tied up.
Er, no, sorry.
We noticed they didn't ask the on-site owners to do the same for their free-roaming labradors.

There might be no noise from 10pm to 7am in the cottage holiday conditions. Nothing wrong with asking the family if they’re going out for the day so that you don’t go out on the same day. Instead you can enjoy the quiet and go out at another time.

I'm so sorry for your loss x

Could you play some music in your garden which you find relaxing? Then at least you can’t hear next door so clearly and the noise is of your choice.
Not much else you can do I think.

Given the weather YABU

Nice that people have sympathy for the recently-bereaved.

OP has acknowledged they aren’t doing anything wrong, but surely you can understand why she’d hoped for some peace and quiet.

We once rented a very expensive villa on Majorca.
The neighbouring villa also was a holiday let, as soon as their children were in bed they all got in the hot tub, got pissed and stayed there until 2/3 am shouting.
Our SIL was with us he’s 6 8” and not tolerant, he saw them at the front on day 3 and asked them if they were having a nice holiday, they said they were having an amazing time.
He then calmly said well if you could keep the noise down so we can enjoy our holiday we would be grateful.
Not a peep after that!

Condolences on the loss of your parents.
Unfortunately you can't do or say anything about daytime noise from next door.
Sorry you haven't had the peace and quiet you wanted.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP.

Could you wear earplugs or noise cancelling headphones?