To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

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I find it annoying. Why can’t they use their own men’s websites? Of which there are many!

*Note I put a thread up like this last night. Then went to bed. When I woke up this morning, it had been deleted by MN. Not sure what went on there..

I've always assumed that much like many of us have found Mumsnet they Google advice on...(Sleep/behaviour etc) .then get a list of sites and have a read add a thread etc. I certainly never searched for a site for women only man hating mothers. For a long time I stuck to childcare threads. It's only recently I've read others and realised lots of women hate men ....and I know there are a lot of arse holes (had my share) but I hope we're doing our bit as mothers to change the future. Speaking out not putting up with it etc.

I just had a look on the sex board (never have before in twenty plus years). Started with nappy cream and the mummy mafia, now at adult children back home.

First thread, 90% male responders. Female poster. I don't think I'd ask a question there.

@Howbizarre22 but you said it’s “by mums for mums”.

Yes it is. But I don’t object to childless women using it for the reasons I described.

For years mumsnet refused to have a sex board, as they said they thought it would attract trolls and pervs. They weren’t wrong.

@MakeTheRumourTrue

Facinanting that the thread about the size of penises was answered by women.

The one about a 'porn type' sex act by men and within a minute so there are people waiting to pounce.
First and last time on there for me. 😁

Also women posting "I asked my husband and he says..." fine if its e.g. pluming/history question and he's a plumber/historian. Or if its about some specific male issue. Completely random most of the time. Often implies the husbands opinion holds more weight purely based on him being The Husband.

Noooooo, I think the sex topic is the unofficial containment zone for all the grimness. If you banned them from there they would spread out.

Off topic but we have a fathers centre near us. Its a really good idea because it does fill a gap. But a lot of the outreach work they do seems to involve fixing children's bicycles and putting on a massive barbecue each year, So it doesn't really smash the gender stereotypes (not that that's its intention). I am good at bike repair but I wouldn't insist on being included since part of the point is a space for just dads to talk about dadly matters.

But you can exclude people in the real world. You can't online. What IS a problem is when men ask questions in AIBU/relationships but are then very dismissive "of course women would think that", "women always give men a hard time", "you don't understand men's perspective." Why post on MUMsnet and then complain the majority of answers are from a female perspective.

Agreed. I don't like terms such as dick panderer either.

I acknowledge of course that others might feel differently.

New mumsnet drinking game? You would get pissed pretty quickly.

I would prefer MN to be a female only space. There's a couple of persistent trolls on here who are definitely male. So they tend to colour my opinion of why men post on MN.

I tend to just skim over any obvious male comments,

The sex board seems to be what attracts a lot of the problem men here in the first place and then they move to other boards. Maybe we’d see a lot less of the sort of men we don’t want here without the sex board.

This isn't a "safe space for women" it's a public messaging forum

‘unofficial containment zone’ 😂😂😂

A father's centre sounds good. As for the rest of your post, that makes perfect sense to me.

What a nasty thread. Imagine wanting to exclude a whole group of people just because you want to be amongst your own kind.

Women actually need safe spaces from men both physically and IMO virtually.

Virtually isn't possible though unless you do what Sal Grover did and include face verification. You wouldn't have men announcing themselves but you would have men just ticking the "are you a woman" check box. So you would filter out the self policers who are basically fine anyway and just have the trouble causers.
I don't have a car but their is nothing to stop me signing up on Pistonheads and posting there. What would be odd is if I then started moaning on the forums about how everyone there that drives cars is clearly biased and are pro-petrol radicals. And then if I got push back used this as evidence that everyone on piston heads hates cyclists like me :( :( :(

Also I don't think "safety" online from opinions (even cruel/stupid ones) is the same thing as physical safety offline.

That’s a bit worrying @Mrsredlipstick no-one should have to be scared to post because of weirdos doing that. Whoever they are, whatever their sex. Hope they were banned.

I always just assume everyone that disagrees with me is a Russian Bot anyway. Saves time.

It can't be policed though. There's no way of determining who is a man and who isn't.

thank you!

It's frightening how many people see internet forum or facebook groups as "safe space".

Doesnt bothar me, it’s nice to hear how blokes think sometimes, like straight from the horses mouth.

Tbf, there are quite a lot of places on the internet to hear what men think. 😅Although it wouldn’t be possible to make mumsnet a place for only women, it is a place for women to be heard, as Justine herself has said.