Would you cancel? Important family event including many over 80s. Host has woken up with Covid

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Just that really - my partner, the host, has Covid.

We have 30 people coming to our house for an important family event today. All cooking and prep done. My partner central to it - big speech planned etc. (Not a birthday)

I am so out of the loop on how people are around Covid now

Two options
YABU - My partner - the host - isolates self having finished final prep
YANBU - Postpone event until Sept. Not worth risking over 80s getting Covid. Host is integral to event. Everyone more relaxed and just a shame this is how it is

Good idea to postpone I think. A colleague of mine went ahead with his wedding in similar circumstances last year and very unfortunately a whole pile of the elderly guests, including the brides grandmother and the grooms great aunt died from it a few weeks later. So sad, even made their local (overseas) news at the time.

Yes, it has mutated.

It hasn't changed in the sense that it is still making people extremely unwell, particularly those in the 80+ age category.

The fact that it has mutated is even more reason to be careful. Vaccines that people may have had a couple of years ago may now be less effective against new strains.

People are also not getting vaccinated as often, it's fallen off people's radars.

My very fit husband has just had it, as have two friends.
They were all surprisingly miserable and feeling very rough for 5 days.
Very sore throat, headache, bit of a cough, chills. Felt pretty crappy and wiped out.
I didn't get it, my daughter got a mild dose.
I wouldn't risk it with that demographic.
Could you hzve it and he absences himself if all the food is prepared?

Postpone.

I’ve just had it again and lost income as self employed. If someone had turned up to my work knowingly having it I’d be furious.

yes rules have gone but respect others health, families and income

Why are people testing?! Use common sense! If you feel poorly enough to know you’d not want someone else to catch it you cancel.

I would tell the guests, same as if he had anything potentially contagious. People who are vulnerable can then choose to stay away.

This happened to us in 2021 when people were still testing as a rule - all the oldies still came!

Does this really need explaining having had Covid around for four years?

OK: the DH had a sore throat, but did not feel poorly. Knowing that a sore throat might be a symptom of a virus that may be mild in one person but severe in others, particularly elderly people, it was wise to check whether it was in fact that severe virus before mixing with elderly people.

It absolutely depresses me that so many people have not been able to work out the very basics of risk reduction for themselves.

People are also not getting vaccinated as often, it's fallen off people's radars.

Access to vaccines is increasingly restricted to the elderly and CEV too. I'd have a seasonal vaccine but I'm not eligible.

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Why are people testing?! Use common sense! If you feel poorly enough to know you’d not want someone else to catch it you cancel*

I wish the fucker who’d sat next to me at the Pulp concert last year had tested. 11 months of long COVID and still too exhausted to leave the house.

How would you know you got it from person at convert? Could've got on the journey at a shop/ bar etc At work. You cannot be 100% sure where you catch anything if you are out in public

The OP has postponed. It was in her last post.

There seems to be a lot of people who are scornful of those who test because they are concerned about others.
All the no testers- what if you had D&V? Or a temperature? Would you still go ahead? Norovirus or flu can be extremely serious in the frail and elderly.

Do you still not understand that a virus can be mild in one person and very severe in another? You need to use some common sense!
So a few months ago my son's voice went a bit husky. No other symptoms. He was full of energy. That week I went away to visit my parents, felling fine. The night I arrived I started feeling very ill. Within a few days my parents and I were all very ill with Covid. We were all recently vaccinated. My mum collapsed. She was hospitalised. She was delirious for days, thinking she was a little girl. When she got home she kept wetting herself. She was fit as a fiddle before. Often had colds and flu but bounced back. It took her months to recover.
So all those saying "Don't bother testing. Just don't see people if you feel awful" - that's bad advice.
My son had a husky voice with Covid, my mum ended up hospitalised. That's how differently covid affects people.

My DH died of Covid, last year, despite being fully vaccinated. So, I think the host should let people know.

Because l hadn’t been anywhere indoors for 2 weeks. Dont work, been out and about outdoors but nowhere indoors, or in contact with anyone really except family. None of whom caught it.

How did you get to the concert? You didn't pop into a single shop for a pint of milk? And you can still get covid outside you know. Else there wouldn't have been the fuss about the Cheltenham races taking place in 2020

Some people ARE still dying from it though. Even those who've been vaccinated can still get it and vaccinations aren't 100% guaranteed. One of our neighbours has just died of it despite being fully vaccinated and avoiding crowded places as much as possible - she caught it from a crowded hospital out-patient waiting room - it was the only place she'd been in the days leading up to her becoming ill!

Vulnerable people still need to be careful if they want to avoid catching it, vaccinated or not.

l didn’t pop to the shop for anything as l’d hurt my foot.

When l went out ( in the car driven by someone else) we just stopped at outdoor cafes. Dh would go and get stuff and bring it to the car. I had no real contact with anybody apart from Dh.

He tests frequently as one of our family are vulnurable.

So l didn’t catch it outside much as you would have liked me too to prove your point.

I caught it from the twat at the gig who was coughing next to me.

Drove in our car to the gig

We have a critically vulnerable person in the household.

We know we might encounter covid anywhere, and act accordingly (which means that we think about the risk/benefit of being indoors with strangers, mask everywhere indoors etc) and would be beyond furious if someone who knows us decided knowingly to expect us to enter a household where there was a +ve person.

And even if not in our circumstances, I don't want to keep getting covid - I don't fancy long covid at all. And we cannot keep affording the disruption/loss of income of repeated sick leave.