Would you cancel? Important family event including many over 80s. Host has woken up with Covid

[loveyouradvice]

Just that really - my partner, the host, has Covid.

We have 30 people coming to our house for an important family event today. All cooking and prep done. My partner central to it - big speech planned etc. (Not a birthday)

I am so out of the loop on how people are around Covid now

Two options
YABU - My partner - the host - isolates self having finished final prep
YANBU - Postpone event until Sept. Not worth risking over 80s getting Covid. Host is integral to event. Everyone more relaxed and just a shame this is how it is

I think you need to tell people and let them decide. I'm immunosuppressed and I wouldn't be attending. Id be unhappy to turn up and be told that the host had COVID and hadn't let me know

I'm still testing when I feel ill because my 80 year old mum almost died the last time she got it and it has left her almost blind and with diabetes.

@LizzieBennett73 flu is incredibly disabling .Plus it's been around in various mutations for a lot longer than covid which has a wider range of symptoms,varying in severity and some with long lasting effect.
Its not the same as flu.

Let everyone know - their choice to come or not.

Host stays out of the way and wears a mask.

I wouldn’t but then we’be had one elderly family member die of covid (pre vaccines) and another hospitalised on cpap with complications ongoing two years later (fully and recently vaccinated).

Lots of people I know are testing

I’m not overly cautious. I’m not one of those people still wearing masks and isolating like it’s 2020. But i definitely wouldn’t go ahead.

This

People who have a modicum of responsibility and giving a shit about loved one's health are definitely testing.

What an odd thing to say.

Postpone OP - it's gutting but it's the sensible option. Long covid is definitely still a serious thing.

If you had flu would you continue to host a party with a load of 80 Yr olds?

Cancelling an event because you have a virus is not hysteria. It's normal behaviour

I don't even own any covid tests. My previous work told us not to test unless a HCP told us to. Current job says you can come into work with covid but have to wear a mask. These are both jobs dealing with the public.

However, now you have tested and dp has it, I'd probably cancel. Even if they know and choose to come, you'll feel silly if they all get ill. Last time I had it, I felt horrible and was only 39.

I'd postpone. SIL did the same when she got COVID 2 days before her 50th birthday party and it wasn't even there were vulnerable people - she had a lovely party a couple of months later.

I would postpone. Even if your partner kept his distance, you possibly are brewing it as we speak. I just wouldn't want to risk other people getting ill for a party.

I know it's disappointing but I really wouldn't bother with a half arsed attempt at carrying on.

Absolutely postpone. Even with vaccination getting Covid in your 80s could easily be fatal or cause a hospital admission. If you continue and someone catches it and is seriously ill it is your fault.

I wouldn't host or go to a party with flu either. Would you?

I'd give people the choice. People tend to carry on as normal. Due to where I work we do have to inform them if we have Covid but still expected to work. People go shopping,, to the gym, most people don't even test now.
So give your guests the choice and if too many say no the leave it until September.

I'd cancel.

Frail family member, late 70s, died this week after catching Covid. Far too risky.

This 100%

Postpone and set a new date.

Really? I still test every day I am going to visit one of my vulnerable patients at home which is approx three days a week.

I guess if you know you are hosting for many older, potentially more vulnerable people, and wake feeling a bit off it makes sense to test- and at least give those people a chance to not attend.

Whilst we don't need to anymore it's always useful to let other people, especially vulnerable ones, know if you aren't 100% well.

I'd postpone. Me and parents had Covid in the autumn. We'd all be vaccinated about a month before (I'm high risk). We all got very ill. My mum in her early 80s was hospitalised and delerious for days. It was very scary. No way I'd risk it with over 80s, vaccinated or not.

He did a test as wanted to know and assume take precautions, so why would you not postpone??