Things you're supposed to give a shit about, but you don't.

[BrickTraybake]

You know those little things in life that people like to morally police and make you feel guilty about but you just can't muster up the shit to give?

This is a confession thread. I'll start.

I don't give a shit that you supposedly shouldn't feed bread to ducks. I don't care. Don't eat it then. People have been feeding them bread for decades and now we're supposed to bring them organic bloody walnuts or something? Or some other crap they don't want that doesn't float?
They can have my slightly mouldy bread and be grateful.

Over to you.

Good for you. Although, shame that people like you tend to impose this on other women.

Yep. Patriotism. Wtf 😂

The ducks on Grange prom used to turn their nose up at bread and birdseed. Then we discovered some floating duck pellets at the side of the lake with an honesty box. You put £1 and get a big bag of floating duck food pellets. They have all the nutrients in them they need. They absolutely demolish them. So I bought a load online to take out with us.

And no they shouldn't be fed mouldy bread can make them really poorly.

I'm not sure that it would go down too well if we started saying that Steve in the realistic wig who's gone to a lot of trouble with his make up and has a nice dress on is welcome, but Bernard in the cheap nylon wig who looks like a sack of spuds tied in the middle has to use the mens. Along with Dave who's dressed like a lumberjack and kept his beard, because 'gender' is how you feel not how you look. Probably easy to keep it simple with one rule for all.

Same.

On a “me” level I hate

• sponsorship especially when it’s a nursery/preschool/primary school asking parents to get her sponsorship for their kids to do something. I don’t have anyone to ask so have previously written down a dozen names and stuck the money in myself. This year I was brave enough to say thanks but no thanks when I was handed the sponsorship form at collection time - told them I don’t have anyone to ask so not a lot of point (and my kids don’t even go on the day that they’re doing the event!
• make up - don’t wear it, hate the feel of it on my face so want to take it off as soon as it’s applied; never worn it as a day to day thing; didn’t even wear it the day I got married - twice!!
• fashion and style - heard someone on the radio the other week say fashion is for kids, style is for those who care! I don’t care about how I look, I care about feeling comfy so that usually means long t-shirts/jumpers and legs covered.
• skincare regime; soap and water was good enough for generations of women so is good enough for me; never used a
• cleanser, toner or moisturiser on my face and reached my 50’s without it looking too awful!! Suncream is for days on the beach or holidays abroad not every day when I’m only going from the house to shops/school/town.

On a ‘bigger’ view,

• I can’t get wound up by who is in power - they’re all as bad as each other; every party has its shining stars and it’s complete knobs. The sleaze is just different!!
• the country being expected to apologise for things that happened 2-300 years ago; pulling down statues, renaming streets/buildings/colleges etc because they were named after someone who died centuries before anyone still alive was born.
• people frothing at the mouth because someone like Sharon Davis or JK Rowling says that trans athletes competing in women’s sport is wrong. Fine if someone wants to identify as a different gender to the one they are genetically and wants to compete in sport - but it should be in a separate category/classification than those who compete based on the chromosomes they were born with. Plus, while I’m on the subject, how come you never hear of trans men competing in, let alone excelling in, male sports categories? Is it because they don’t have any advantage?

I don't care about people who apply for jobs that are completely unsuitable for them and then demand total job description change as reasonable adjustment.
You just cannot do this jib and you are not passing probation (or getting employed).

Examples:
Social anxiety and going for events officer.
Suspected adhd and cannot focus, applied for data analyst.
Cannot speak over the phone and applied for front marketing role.
Any kind of unresolved issue with time management and applying for senior role where you should work independantly and/or lead a team.
I could make 50 points list tbh.

Other people's dreams (the kind you have when sleeping)
*except my children's, because those are fascinating 😂

Wine. Like to drink it. Listening to people talk about it makes me want to slip into a coma.

Attention seekers at work. I don't care about their drama or nonsense. I don't give a shit what my managers think about anything either. Happy to dot the is and cross the ts but not interested in any other expectations and I don't massively respect them. Work generally. I like the kids I teach and want to do the best I can for them but I couldn't give a fuck about anything else relating to work, especially 'new ways of doing x' blah blah blah. It's all the same shit I've seen before.

Hear Hear

Dont give a shit about about toilets either. Happened to me once, dude (cis) appeared over the side of a toilet stall in a nightclub. I said ‘what the fuck are you doing’ and he, wasted, turned bright red, said ‘I dunno’ and disappeared.

also don’t give a shit about trans in sports. Make em all mixed sex, it’s segregated now cos we know women would lose in most of em anyway so that’s not going to be a surprise, we’ll still know who the best woman is and we can have weight divisions for safety where needed. Plus holy shit it would be satisfying watching the men who do get beat by women lose to them.

I don't care about ducks at all since I started living by a river and have had to witness the brutal rape of female ducks regularly! It's shocking!
I also don't care about recycling. Completely pointless.

Posh wine - I like my 4 quid Aldi Pinot thanks, why spend twice as much to just get pissed all the same?
The pointless guff talked about on the class WhatsApp - I don't care what the teacher said your kid or need 15m replies about who doesn't have your missing lunchbox
Menopause - it's gonna happen at some point, why is everything all about it now? Can't move for someone (Davina) banging on about it
My daughter leaving primary this summer - thank god, gets me away from a load of awful parents and their awful kids
Influencers - who fucking cares about your beige house and your beige wearing kids??

Amen. Nicely put.

No, it was way, way worse and full of chalk and all other kinds of crap

Watch Victorian Bakers. It's excellent.

Weddings. They go on too long, are very boring and cost a fortune.

Happened to me once, dude (cis) appeared over the side of a toilet stall in a nightclub. I said ‘what the fuck are you doing’ and he, wasted, turned bright red, said ‘I dunno’ and disappeared

Stop trying to act cool by pretending this is ok

I dont care about voting for small scale local politics, like councillors elections. Whatever happens, countryside is going to be built on, tesco metros are going to be built on, streetlights are going to break periodically, dog poo is going to be on the floor, there will always be broken glass out and about, and darren and his mates will break a swing every year. No-one is ever going to get enough power locally to change these things, so stop pretending you're 'working hard for change' and use your boring day to just put on some nice fairs or something positive instead.

@Clarabell77

lol. Ok Hun.

@DecafCanEffOff tbh I'm a bit of a mixture. I have mild rosacea but at 61 have no lines or wrinkles and am told I look at least 10 years younger. Looking youthful is the only good thing my old bag of a mother passed on to me.
I think the point I was making was that back in thd day there wasn't the obsession with skincare and most people looked fine.

Can't be bothered with other people's anxiety about every little thing. I have some anxieties but I keep them to myself.

Pronouns - OH nd colleagues were asked for their preferred pronouns fod work badges. They all refused so just got badges with their names on. Nobody in our small town gives a shit

How very modern and liberal 🙄

Happened to me once, dude (cis) appeared over the side of a toilet stall in a nightclub. I said ‘what the fuck are you doing’ and he, wasted, turned bright red, said ‘I dunno’ and disappeared

And they all lived happily ever after ...

Except in cases where dude (cis) assaults you.

Then they don't.

But that's exactly my point. It's impossible to police, as how would you know if you have a very well passing trans woman in your toilet? You wouldn't. You can only really take umbrage at those who look like men. regardless of anyone's motives for being in a woman's space.

Other people's children. Yes babies are cute and children can be sweet, but mine are adults now so other people's make me turn in the other direction. I manage children in the family by now seeing them very often. Just don't have the patience.

Presumably because it helps them to talk about them? I don't see why this bothers you. I find it very nice.