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Things you're supposed to give a shit about, but you don't.

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BrickTraybake · 31/05/2024 22:49

You know those little things in life that people like to morally police and make you feel guilty about but you just can't muster up the shit to give?

This is a confession thread. I'll start.

I don't give a shit that you supposedly shouldn't feed bread to ducks. I don't care. Don't eat it then. People have been feeding them bread for decades and now we're supposed to bring them organic bloody walnuts or something? Or some other crap they don't want that doesn't float?
They can have my slightly mouldy bread and be grateful.

Over to you.

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5128gap · 01/06/2024 10:44

RaverQuavers · 01/06/2024 09:30

classic, can’t answer so try and pivot back.

A minority of women feeling unsafe doesn’t trump trans women and trans men feeling unsafe.

Again, where does it stop when trying to make everyone feel safe within public policy. As I mentioned earlier we regularly see posts on here of women asking if they’re unreasonable for getting annoyed about a mum bringing her under 5 year old boy into female toilets or changing rooms. They’re told they’re BU but if you want them to feel safe then where does it end? Why do you get to decide the level of safety women are able to feel when using the toilet. And that line is trans women

This is also why it’s good to look outside of the MN echo chamber at times. The policies around men on delivery wards is a key example. So many on here froth about it, but overwhelmingly young women are ok with men on the wards and want their partners there. So much so NHS policies are changing to accommodate.

Our local hospital did this last year, had a no men policy after what turns out was 6 complaints in total (found out after a FOI request) and after polling patients 98% were in favour of having men on the wards. Yet if you based your view on just what you see on here you’d assume the opposite was true.

So you can't answer my question then? Which if you recall is: Why is it a useful and positive thing for society that men be allowed in women's toilets? Because insulting women with silly words to describe their concerns like 'froth' and talking about other issues isn't doing a thing to convince me to support your cause over that of the women who oppose you.
You will no doubt say you don't care to convince me. But I'm a member of the public, with a vote and a voice, as are the countless other people who use this site. You have a platform, why not use it to convince people that what you want for a minority of men is in the interests of us all?

Livingtothefull · 01/06/2024 10:47

RaverQuavers · 31/05/2024 23:13

Ah I forget this place is brimming with toilet warriors.

A bit sad

You have probably had the good fortune never to have been the victim of male violence. Otherwise I can't understand why you & other posters would be so complacent about anything which potentially enables predatory men.

heathspeedwell · 01/06/2024 10:48

Women and girls are at 9 times more risk of sexual assault in mixed sex toilets and changing rooms. It could affect any of us, or our daughters, if it is made easier for any man to claim to be a woman and barge into our spaces.

Unisex changing rooms put women at danger of sexual assault, data reveals | The Independent | The Independent

If you didn't care about this before, maybe now it the time to start. It's basic logic, like wearing a seatbelt.

Unisex changing rooms put women at danger of sexual assault, data reveals

The vast majority of reported sexual assaults at public swimming pools in the UK take place in unisex changing rooms, new statistics reveal.

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women/sexual-assault-unisex-changing-rooms-sunday-times-women-risk-a8519086.html

Garlicker · 01/06/2024 10:48

Purplebunnie · 01/06/2024 10:09

The bread the Victorians fed to ducks wasn't full of bloody preservatives and all the other shit they put in our supermarket loaf

Victorian bread contained chalk, plaster of Paris, bone meal and aluminium!

Btw, I don't give a shit about the additives in my food. I even add them to my home cooking 🤷🏻‍♀️

The Dangerous Ingredient Victorian Bakers Sometimes Added To Bread - Tasting Table

The Victorian era was a time of growth -- economically and socially. However, this growth also led Victorian bakers to add this dangerous ingredient to bread.

https://www.tastingtable.com/1080592/the-dangerous-ingredient-victorian-bakers-sometimes-added-to-bread

jeaux90 · 01/06/2024 10:49

Football
Trans rights (the male fetish ones)
#Be Kind (middle class for STFU)

CantBelieveNaive · 01/06/2024 10:50

Cabinet1278 · 31/05/2024 23:04

At our local duck pond I once saw a whole colander worth of spaghetti just tipped for them. It still was in the circular shape (you know when you’ve left it a bit and it congeals)…

Urgh more like a health hazard than a help! X

Whatineed · 01/06/2024 10:51

What you do to your muff. I can't believe the amount of people that stride in with their opinion that a womans DH (before they even know they have one) is OBVIOUSLY A PEDO AND TOTALLY OBSESSED WITH PORN!!!!!!! Because a woman has asked if bikini waxing/sugaring/lasering is painful.

Go have your hairy mufty, live your best life and leave others the f*ck alone

JudgeJ · 01/06/2024 10:51

Immemorialelms · 01/06/2024 09:21

they are grown ducks, they can make their own choices

This is peak Tory mumsnet

Where's the Bollocks button when one needs it???

KarenOH · 01/06/2024 10:52

Ok stretches fingers

I don’t care about your adult ADHD diagnosis. I especially dont care now you’ve made it your entire personality.

I try and recycle until it’s an inconvenience and then I don’t care because it’s not me that’s wrecking the planet it’s the huge corporate entities.

I don’t like your dog.

MeinKraft · 01/06/2024 10:53

ssd · 01/06/2024 09:28

I can't be bothered with mn posters who obviously hate men. I always imagine the posters have put up with years of shit they shouldn't have put up with and rather than taking responsibility and actually dealing with it all they've ended up alone and bitter and totally hate all men. Different if its something like domestic abuse which wears you right down, im not talking about that situation but loads of women take shit from a man so they aren't alone/poorer, then when he fecks off and leaves them they go to mn to slate all men everywhere like they are all obviously bastards.
And when you point out NAMALT jesus they squash you down asap.

I went to give blood one day and I was mind blown when I saw how many men were there. I couldn't fathom how these blokes had intentionally gone out of their way to do something selfless when as we know all men only care about themselves. Then I realised I'd been spending too much time on MN Confused

Whatineed · 01/06/2024 10:53

TakeThePain · 31/05/2024 23:51

Space. I'm never gonna go there, nobody I know is ever gonna go there. I just do not care what goes on out there.

I'm just out of space fucks.

😂😂😂

cerisepanther73 · 01/06/2024 10:55

@WhatNoRaisins

Hear Hear totally wholeheartedly agree on your ubove post on taking on people's ugliness and misery ect,

I find in my case it can seriously back fire on you and bite you in the back side, and you can massively get taken advantage of,
Royally taking the piss out off,
by certain so called friends USers and personality disorders abusers types,

Who can mess your head up if you are too kind giving and caring
they see it as a weakness,

Charity begins at home first of all,
as far as i am concerned

I will be only supportive to genuine people to an certain extent,
It's not healthy to have toxic Co dependency type of so called friendships

I can do better whithout them kind of types,

Thank you

TheGoldSnake · 01/06/2024 10:55

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This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines - previously banned poster.

Vopik · 01/06/2024 10:56

Designer clothes. It’s all such a con. I definitely can afford the odd splurge here and there but I don’t want to give my hard earned cashed to these grifter companies. There’s buying quality items that last and then there is daylight robbery.

And just stuff in general. Of course companies have convinced the masses Easter baskets filled with plastic trash is the norm.

Very shocking how anti-consumerism I am given I lived in H and M as a teen.

JudgeJ · 01/06/2024 10:57

D3LAN3Y · 01/06/2024 01:08

1 in 4 women were sexually assaulted or raped in 2022 - Like I said I don't think men being in female toilets is a problem. I think the problem is just MEN being everywhere....

Daryl Huff's The Use and Abuse of Statistics should be your bedtime reading. Where does this 1 in 4 come from?

LittleRedHen77 · 01/06/2024 10:58

KarenOH · 01/06/2024 10:52

Ok stretches fingers

I don’t care about your adult ADHD diagnosis. I especially dont care now you’ve made it your entire personality.

I try and recycle until it’s an inconvenience and then I don’t care because it’s not me that’s wrecking the planet it’s the huge corporate entities.

I don’t like your dog.

Are you me 🤔😂

Justcats · 01/06/2024 10:59

I don't give a shit if skinny jeans are not in fashion any more. I look like an even bigger twat in wide legged jeans.

cravingdales · 01/06/2024 11:02

Trishna99 · 01/06/2024 08:15

This thread has made me realise I've never actually seen a dead duck. Where do they go? 🤔

Into an oven covered in a l’orange sauce

Justcats · 01/06/2024 11:04

Perhaps dead ducks sink and the bottom of duck ponds are covered in dead bread poisoned ducks.

Cuppachino · 01/06/2024 11:05

Weddings. I don't give a shit about them. When I hear about a wedding I know I'm getting an invite to, I shudder at the cost to me. Hen do, stag do for DH, hotels, outfits and money in a card. A few years ago, we had a wedding abroad. 5,000 it cost us to go to a place that we would never have chosen to go to. We couldn't say no, it would have caused carnage in the family.

ChesterDraws4Sale · 01/06/2024 11:06

Strictly. Britain’s Got Talent. X Factor. Love Island. Ant & Dec. Royal Variety Show. Comic Relief.

Watching other people play games (football etc.). What’s the purpose?

Buses. Driving is usually faster and cheaper.

Hot desks so businesses can take up less office space. I don’t want to have to lug everything I own to and from the office every day. I’d just like to have a drawer to leave things in.

Gin. Expensive cheese (mild cheddar is lovely). Sourdough. Cupcakes. ‘Good quality’ chocolate (not as nice as bog standard chocolate). Olives.

Photos of other people’s house redecoration, pets, children (but I like holiday photos).

Keeping the heating turned off to save the environment. If it’s cold I warm my house up.

Plastic bottles. They’re more portable and reusable than glass ones and I always recycle them.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 01/06/2024 11:07

KarenOH · 01/06/2024 10:52

Ok stretches fingers

I don’t care about your adult ADHD diagnosis. I especially dont care now you’ve made it your entire personality.

I try and recycle until it’s an inconvenience and then I don’t care because it’s not me that’s wrecking the planet it’s the huge corporate entities.

I don’t like your dog.

The corporate entities providing you with cheap goods Confused

cravingdales · 01/06/2024 11:07

ByPeachSeal · 01/06/2024 07:57

The environment. I don’t give a single shit.

I refuse to recycle; I’m not sorting my rubbish - everything just goes in one bin.

I will travel as much as I like by my preferred method at the time. I let the water run while I brush my teeth, have long showers and use the hose all summer.

I will not inconvenience my life on other people’s hysterias.

Yes to all this and I’ll add eating meat. Mmm a thick juicy steak

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 01/06/2024 11:08

But I agree with the rest @MeinKraft

So many ‘what my ADHD brain is doing today’ posts, I don’t care

Redpaisley · 01/06/2024 11:08

BrickTraybake · 31/05/2024 22:56

Get over yourself

So she has to agree with you that you should feed bread to ducks.

Don't feed anything to them, noone is forcing you to. Why are you feeding them bread? For their benefit or to get their attention?

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