Changing the bed linen in between guests staying over

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I am going to try and write this as factually as possible. We have a lot of people staying over for various reasons. Partner A thinks the bed linen needs to be washed in between every guest, even if they've just slept in the bed for one night/a few hours. Partner B thinks that is unnecessary and doesn't have to be done every time.

Partner A also feels the house should be generally tidied before guests come over - stuff put away, surfaces wiped, plates/cups etc in the dishwasher instead of piled high next to the sink. Again, Partner B disagrees.

Partner A thinks 99% of people think like they do. Partner B says their parents and sister agree with them so Partner A is the weird one and has issues surrounding guests visiting.

So - who is being unreasonable?

Poll: YANBU - if you agree with Partner A
YABU - if you agree with Partner B

I strip and wash bed linen immediately after guests go. Often, it is ages until the next guest, so the fresh smell has worn off. So I launder everything again to have it all smelling fresh.

I didn’t have much say in the matter and being 3 years apart, that womb was stripped at least 36 times.

I love my sister to bits, but I wouldn’t eat off her plate, drink from her cup or sleep in her bedsheets, which she’s probably sweated in, dribbled on and farted in. I feel queasy even thinking about it.

Me too. Awful to make people share linen.

I would definitely put fresh bed linen on because it’s the basic expectation and just not that much bother…

But OMG the overreacting on this thread! People ‘shuddering’, feeling ‘queasy’, being ‘unable to imagine’ not changing the sheets. What sheltered lives some MNetters must lead! One poster is ‘disgusted’ to sleep in the bed her own sister might have occupied. Just how revolting is your sister? Are you able to sit on the same sofa she’s used or does that disgust you too? I think there was one poster suggesting a trip to DFS if someone farts on your sofa (though their post didn’t make much sense) so perhaps that is the case?

As I’ve said, I would change the bedding, but I can’t get on board with all this performative outrage and fits of the vapours. Makes women look idiotic tbh.

Really? You fart on other people's sofas? That's gross. I'm also not in the habit of spending ten hours sitting on a sofa that's just been continually guffed on - I'd be opening that window. It's still not as bad as sleeping in a bed where there's less layers between arse and bed linen and a higher liklihood of faecal matter being trapped. But knock yourself out! Perhaps literally if you like being in someone's farty bedsheets.

Is partner A a woman, and partner B a man by any chance 🤨

I do this but the opposite. If someone has stayed just 1-2 nights I won't wash it immediately. I will always take it off and wash it just before someone comes so I have a freshly laundered smell. As we have lots of repeat guests this has saved me a wash on a few occasions a the same person stayed a week or so apart

I would still have freshly washed sheets each time, even if guests stayed again soon. Just because I love getting into a freshly laundered bed, so I do it for all guests every time.

We do not have that many guests though, so it is manageable!

I would think that providing clean sheets for a guest is the least one can do. Not doing so is disrespectful & demeaning.

Don't worry - my grandad died in bed and they didn't change the linen or tell me he died in the bed until AFTER I slept in it a few days later...

If they are his guests then leave him to to tidy and change the sheets and tell the guests that he hasn’t but you can give them clean sheets if they want.

if your guests then you do the right thing and get him to help or stop helping him.

Definitely change the bed linen. Awful to sleep on some other persons sheets - no excuses for this ever!

Fresh bedlinen for each guest.

Invest in a 2nd set of bedlinen to take the pressure off a quick laundry turn around. Supermarkets sell bedlinen at a reasonable price tag.

Keep your kitchen clean and tidy.

No offence, but I’m surprised you are asking.
(and who are Partner A and Partner B? - do you have 2 partners? A ménage à trois?)

I consider myself to be quite the slattern, but I'm Team Partner A.

We have regular visitors, often in quick succession and we change the bed for every guest.

Husband and I always do it together as soon as the most recent guests have f*cked off, and it takes about 5 minutes to strip the linen and put fresh on, so hardly a chore.

It has almost become a fun ritual, we whizz in, reset, and whip the sheets out of each other's hands while working out who is visiting next.

We also spritz everything with lavender mist, hoover up and flick a duster round the bedroom, while either saying how much we will miss the departing guests, or enjoying slagging them off if they have been awful. 😏

It takes no time at all.

We have three sets of linen for each of the 2 spare beds so at any given time one set is on the bed, one in the wash, and one on the airer.

I wouldn't lose sleep over excessive housework though. You get a clean bed, but apart from that, take us as you find us.

Omg!!!¡ of course you wash and change the sheets

Couldn’t care less if you house is “tidy” if I came to stay but if I was made to sleep in a bed someone had previously slept in I would leave.

Clearly you are A

B has a grim way of thinking

When my daughter stays she has my bed and I use the spare room. I change the bedding when she arrives so she has fresh sheets etc but don't bother to change it all after she's gone

Partner A is the grown up
Partner B is a lazy pig

B is one lazy human.

of course you change beds after each guest think about guest houses hotels etc; you would not expect someone to sleep in the previous guests bedding

You don’t necessarily have to tidy up for your friends to come round, but you absolutely have to change the guest bedding from the previous guest.

How many partners do you have?

@userloadsofnumbers so what did your DH think to the overwhelming response to this thread?