Changing the bed linen in between guests staying over

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I am going to try and write this as factually as possible. We have a lot of people staying over for various reasons. Partner A thinks the bed linen needs to be washed in between every guest, even if they've just slept in the bed for one night/a few hours. Partner B thinks that is unnecessary and doesn't have to be done every time.

Partner A also feels the house should be generally tidied before guests come over - stuff put away, surfaces wiped, plates/cups etc in the dishwasher instead of piled high next to the sink. Again, Partner B disagrees.

Partner A thinks 99% of people think like they do. Partner B says their parents and sister agree with them so Partner A is the weird one and has issues surrounding guests visiting.

So - who is being unreasonable?

Poll: YANBU - if you agree with Partner A
YABU - if you agree with Partner B

Partner B has hygiene issues. Get the linen changed, don’t be a cheap lazy tramp. Shouldn’t be a debate even.

Same. No problem for me to sleep in a bed that one of my adult daughters had slept in for one night - and my girls would sleep in sheets that the other had slept one night in. But that’s the limit of it.

Sleeping in ‘worn’ sheets would feel all wrong. Like wearing someone else’s knickers.

You’re all 100% nuts.

Presumably it’s your own home, and they’re friends or family, so they won’t a) notice or b) care. They really won’t. And if they do? Why make life so difficult. Just roll with it.

(If you’re running an AirBnB then sure, knock yourself out, because the guests are paying for that to be done.)

But honestly, nobody who is important to you thinks this is worthwhile use of your time or resources.

Feel free to disagree, but I’ll be the one sipping a chilled Chablis, whilst watching you hang the sheets out.

Again.

I'm guessing partner A is a woman and partner B is a man?! 😬

I always change bedding in between guests. If the same guests come back but only after 2 months or so I also take down the bedding, put freshly washed on the bed shortly before guests arrive (and same with towels in the guestroom). For my young grandsons (cousins) I change the fitted sheet and the pillow cases if one has only slept in the bed one or two nights. After a longer stayover I change the bedding completely.

Ask partner B. If he'd be ok when he goes to a hotel and only one guest stayed the night before so they didn't change the bed. How gross is that. Even one night can mean sweat, sex juices, drool on the pillow...

Bed linen definitely needs to be changed in between guests .

If it were me, I’d be changing the bed linen and doing a quick tidy round. Quite simply because I wouldn’t like to be getting into a bed that hadn’t been changed, so wouldn’t expect anyone else to have to.

Yeah because washing one set of bed linen is just so time consuming that the rest of us never get to sit down or drink wine...

Partner A is 100% right

bangs gavel

YABU
I'm with partner B all the way
Can't believe some posters reaction to this

Partner B has low standards.

Home is different to a hotel.. no guests are going to have sex when staying with friends/family

Wow.. I'm one of those yuck people who doesn't change thier own bedding more than once a month but even I agree with partner A!!
I would NEVER leave bedding on a bed that had been used by a previous person for a new guest. That is grim. No one wants to sleep on some random other petsons used bedding.

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Riiiiight.
Course not
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Riiiiight.
Course not

Yeah right
Not my guests

Why do you think that?

They might not have loud sex, maybe. Or try not to.

I think it’s just respectful towards your guests to ensure a fresh bed and at least a run around with the vac and fresh towels/soap.

if ‘you’ are unable to provide this, don’t invite people around!

I hit the wrong button. Partner A is correct.

@Okaygoahead you can change your vote

B is a lazy slob

Loads of things done once are not time-consuming. You can still choose whether to do them or not. And you do, and that’s fine, but it’s not the law.

Turns out, people are also quite happy to bring their own top sheet & pillowcase and take them home to wash (older generation mainly).

¯\(ツ)/¯!

Hi - op here. I'm actually away this weekend so haven't shown this thread to DH yet but I'm reassured that so many people agree with me (partner A)!

Someone mentioned if it's his guests leave him to it and I have done that when it's his male friends staying over on their own - but I still worry that it's me being judged when they don't have clean bedding! If it's a family/females staying I make sure sheets are changed.

I wonder if you asked your male partners whether the responses would be different and they really don't mind? Would be interesting to get their views too! I really hope on the back of this DH and I can stop arguing over whether it needs doing or not and just do it (or the ideal scenario stop inviting so many people to stay over as it's bloody hassle!)

Partner A all the way with the bed linen with the general tidiness that would depend on who was coming some people I would just do a quick swizz round and there would still be toys etc lying around wouldn't hide the overflowing washing basket etc but some would be a deep thorough clean and hide all the cluttery stuff I wouldn't have time to sort

We use the spare room a lot ourselves when one of us needs to sleep in peace. If we had a guest staying for one night only we might not always change the bed linen afterwards just for ourselves. But we would always put clean bed linen on for a guest. Anything else is just gross.