Changing the bed linen in between guests staying over

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I am going to try and write this as factually as possible. We have a lot of people staying over for various reasons. Partner A thinks the bed linen needs to be washed in between every guest, even if they've just slept in the bed for one night/a few hours. Partner B thinks that is unnecessary and doesn't have to be done every time.

Partner A also feels the house should be generally tidied before guests come over - stuff put away, surfaces wiped, plates/cups etc in the dishwasher instead of piled high next to the sink. Again, Partner B disagrees.

Partner A thinks 99% of people think like they do. Partner B says their parents and sister agree with them so Partner A is the weird one and has issues surrounding guests visiting.

So - who is being unreasonable?

Poll: YANBU - if you agree with Partner A
YABU - if you agree with Partner B

The only time I have ever NOT washed sheets between guests was when we had one son of a family friend one week, and another son of the same family the next week.

Otherwise, always clean sheets. And house generally tidied up.

I always wash linen between guests even if has been just one night. Dishes less of an issue.

I would never expect guests to sleep on used bedding even if it seemed clean, that's really grim.

@userloadsofnumbers that is disgusting, expecting a guest to sleep in a dirty bed!!! makes me wonder how clean his parents house is???????

Agree with partner a.

However if partner b invites people over and can't be arsed to do the work involved, that's on him. I wouldn't be doing it for him.

I would tell him that you won't be washing them and that you feel obliged to tell the guests that the sheets haven't been washed because your DH said they wouldn't mind.

I am a skanky housewife/slattern. MY personal sheets and towels are not cleaned as often as they should be. And I wouldn't be too fussed about washing up IF it was that days stuff.

But yeah change the sheets between guests. And give them clean towels.

This.

Yes

If I stay then sister stays the bedding doesn't get changed. If either brings a partner then it would.

Mum and I could also share sheets. If either of us felt we had made sheets dirty (a hot flush?) then we'd strip bed anyway.

Would he be happy staying in a hotel on the bedding from the previous guests?

Generally, lazy and revolting not to change the bed.

I think it's only acceptable (if really impossible time-wise) to not change it if the second person would be okay sharing a bed with the first. Eg, I've a group of friends and we've been away and shared beds a number of times, I wouldn't mind their bedding if my host was struggling. Likewise probably after my sister. I'm pretty sure I got someone's unchanged grandchildren's bed once from the remnants of glitter in it, but I don't mind the idea of 2 little girls.

So to some extent it depends who they are.

Yes please show him!!! My husband sleeps naked. Would your husband be happy to sleep in the exact same place that another naked man has slept in the night before?!?!

And no way after a couple!

I have had to sleep in a bed one time where others had slept before. I was a guest and didn’t realise until I got into the bed and could smell perfume, aftershave and bodily aroma on the covers.

I hardly slept!

Would one expect an hotel bed to be stale from the previous occupants? Of course not! Out of respect I always change bedding between guests. It’s minging not to.

Ensuring everything is tidied away - debatable. If they're true friends / family, they won't mind if sides have stuff on.

Clean bedding between guests - non-negotiable personally.

So if the guests slept in your bed then DH would quite happily sleep in there between guests? And rub his naked body with towels that have been on someone else’s naked body? The tidying and dishes I could maybe understand he personally might not care about at someone else’s house, but surely he realises it’s nicer for a guest to not be hit by the smell of old food when they walk in the kitchen. No matter how I choose to live my life when alone, I don’t want everyone else to think I have a gross kitchen/house

partner A - also do not sleep over at his mum or sisters house

Partner B is a minger.

Changing bedding between guests is a must. I do it even if it's only a day between them. But when my sister comes over for a day or two I don't change it if her kids have slept on it, or if she's come over first and then kids get the parents bed after. So only families with young kids.

Make that a lazy minger.

What the hell is up with the 93% who don't change the sheets between guests?!

I can't be arsed myself. Especially when there's millions of the fuckers coming round one after another, staying just one night. I do wash them but not ever fucking day.

So basically he's too lazy to meet the needs of HIS guests?

If that's how he wants to play, I'd be refusing to have any guests. Not. A. One.

Partner B, if you are reading this - if you stayed in a hotel would you be happy to sleep in the sheets of the previous guest who maybe stayed there only one night? The hotel just ran the hoover round and decided 'that'll do' instead?

93% do. It's the 7% who don't feel the need.

You wash the bedding between guests!

How long does it realistically take to wash one load of bedding anyway!

I wash the pillows/duvet too so they smell nice, but I wouldn't really expect that, unlike the sheets.

Partner B can't be arsed to do any of that so is staring the other one down so they are the one who does it all and they get out of it.

It's a tactical move and shows them to be the dickhead they are in general.