Changing the bed linen in between guests staying over

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I am going to try and write this as factually as possible. We have a lot of people staying over for various reasons. Partner A thinks the bed linen needs to be washed in between every guest, even if they've just slept in the bed for one night/a few hours. Partner B thinks that is unnecessary and doesn't have to be done every time.

Partner A also feels the house should be generally tidied before guests come over - stuff put away, surfaces wiped, plates/cups etc in the dishwasher instead of piled high next to the sink. Again, Partner B disagrees.

Partner A thinks 99% of people think like they do. Partner B says their parents and sister agree with them so Partner A is the weird one and has issues surrounding guests visiting.

So - who is being unreasonable?

Poll: YANBU - if you agree with Partner A
YABU - if you agree with Partner B

No, different guests should not be given the same bed linen. Gross, gross, gross.
My Mum has a few fairly regular family visitors, if say her sister comes for a night or two, she'll take off that bed linen after she's gone and and store in a plastic bag in a cupboard - if another relative were coming to stay subsequently. So different family members have different sets. She's pretty organised and makes sure she washes the linen after 7 nights of use or fewer if necessary.
Personally I'd just wash it straightaway anyway (if I had room for guests!) but I am less organised and have a tumble dryer!
And yes, tidying should be done before INVITED guests come over. It never fails to amaze me how many people will invite guests over but the basins and loos are filthy. Urgh.

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Team A ofc

100% Agree with Partner A - clean sheet between guests, and general tidy up before they arrive.

Not saying house has to be deep cleaned top to bottom, but if you've got people staying over, the house should be roughly clean and tidy when they arrive.

Sounds like way too much work for me. I would suggest strongly that you say no go future guests. You are not a hotel….

I'm split... yes definitely change the sheets but:

Partner A also feels the house should be generally tidied before guests come over - stuff put away, surfaces wiped, plates/cups etc in the dishwasher instead of piled high next to the sink. Again, Partner B disagrees.

this depends who it is... 1) an elderly judgey aunt/infrequent visitor /not close friend/friend of friend - yes,

a young nephew who stays over frequently/lives in a student flat is a bit of a slobmore, my sister who live the same way as I do etc -no

I say to my family - if you drop by without giving 48 hours notice you can't comment in the state of my house (family all live over 2h away so wouldn't happen) So along with dirtly dishes and crumbs from breakfast/lunch...there is washing out drying, piles of laundry waiting to go in the machine on the floor, kitchen table cover in latest craft obsession, lots of 'to do' piles around the house.. at the moment the tent is in the sitting room drying after a weekend camping... OK that would get tidy for (2) but only so we can sit down

I'm pretty relaxed about housework and sheets, but not if they are guests! Person A is correct ( only exception is if the 'guests' are family members. For example if my son stayed over then his sister stayed in the bed the next night).

Partner A is right. I'd hate to be sleeping in someone else dirty sheets.

Partner B is the reason I hate staying over other people’s homes. They are disgusting.

If I stayed at my mother’s and learned my sister had slept in the bed linen the evening prior, I would be disgusted and I certainly wouldn’t go back. Fresh sheets regardless, if the person changes, the sheets do too.

Of course partner A is correct. Partner b is

Person B is disgusting. Imagine going to stay at someone's house and the sheets weren't clean. I could definitely smell the difference.

And let me guess, since Person B doesn't think it's important, he doesn't think it's incumbent on him to contribute and so if it happens, Person A is left to do it.

I think if they guest knew they were not going to be getting clean bedding then they would not go.
Yuk.

I am now yucked out, in case I've slept in someone's house and they haven't changed the bedding since the last guest 🤢

I would always change the sheets because I wouldn’t want to inflict dirty sheets on guests.

But I have to say if I was sleeping in sheets after a woman had slept in them I wouldn’t be overly anxious. A bloke on the other hand, I would go to a hotel. Men are just filthy.

Imagine if hotels thought oh they only stayed one night and it was just one person in a double bed, we'll not bother changing the bedding - utterly disgusting

The bedding change - absolutely. Quick tidy and clean of the guest room and bathroom. Rest of the house would just be the normal cleaning.

Not changing the bed sheets is totally grim. My house is definitely not the tidiest when we have visitors over, but I would never not bother to change the bed sheets

A friend of mine started doing this (per person B), booking lots of guests back to back, then saying when you arrived - oh so and so stayed last night - i hope you don't mind but I didn't think it was worth changing the bedding. My face! It is very difficult in that situation to avoid causing offence back. I used to swap the pillows around and sleep on the top of the duvet. I don't visit very often now.

How long does it take to wipe the worktops and load the dishwasher? Sounds like your partner is a lazy so-and-so,

I wash my linen between guests every time. Even if the bed linen is clean and a cat has slept on it I will change it.

It says it's fine because he doesn't want to do it. Lazy twit.

This^^

My dh used to say (when I was madly cleaning before guests arrived) it’s our home they’ll have to take us as they find us. He just didn’t want to muck in.

He's retired now and fussier than me. If he complains about any mess I pipe up ‘it’s our home, people can take us as they find us.’

I’m not bothered if a friend’s house is untidy. But I would hate to sleep in sheets that haven’t been washed!

Has partner B never stayed in a hotel? Do they think hotels leave the sheets and towels untouched if a guest has only slept there for one night? Would partner B be happy to sleep in the same sheets as a previous nights hotel guest?