Eamonn Holmes -reap what you sow

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Just want to say that I love Eamonn Holmes so it's not a bashing thread. Just an observation.

I was thinking about his ex wife and children. He left his young family as his career was more important.
He met (allegedly after they split) this beautiful younger attractive exciting Ruth. Got with her.
But now what does he have? He has ailing health and no wife to be with him in sickness and in health?
Who knows if he had made an effort and put his first family first rather than his career he could have been with someone who would have loved and cared for him in his old age.

It's quite sad.

She’s the same age, wouldn’t meet the defintiin of beautiful by most folks standards, or exciting, and they started dating two years after he separated. No idea why you said allegedly, or that he was reaping what he sowed, he sowed nothing.

him and Ruth had a long and happy marriage, it is not related to his first marriage, it has now sadly ended, as many marriages do. Nothing to see here or attack over.

Really? Just about sums him up. This with the second wife abandoning him is karma in action. As for her…

@Myblindsaredown bitter and bazaar?
Not at all.
The situation is sad. But I look at lots of men who grow apart from their wives and leave young families because ambition/career is more important.

It's sad because now he has ill health the first wife would would have probably been there for him and looked after him.
It's just life I guess.

This is just ridiculous. I’m cringing for you. The first wife and him grew apart as it was effectively long distance.

im sorry for whatever has happened in your life, but stop projecting into random celebs marriages.

He seems such a grumpy sod. I don't blame Ruth for cutting him loose.

I dread to think what you'd say about those you don't like.

It's not allegedly. They did meet after he split from his wife. The wife who didn't want to move the UK.

No-one knows what goes on in a relationship behind closed doors. Who knows why his first marriage failed, there were probably many factors. Perhaps Ruth has decided she isn't up for 'in sickness and in health', or perhaps there were already issues in the relationship before he became unwell. They aren't going to share the gritty details with the general public, particularly anything which would paint either of them in a bad light.

'In sickness and in health' assumes the relationship is otherwise happy and healthy. If there were already cracks in their relationship, I don't think she should have to stay just because he has health issues. We see plenty of women on here trapped in unhappy relationships who feel unable to leave because they are carers for their partner. They are always told that they should leave, that they can't give up their lives to stay in a miserable situation for a partner just because he is ill. I'm not saying that is the case here, but that's the point, none of us, unless you know Ruth and Eamonn personally (and perhaps not even then), know the ins and outs of their relationship, and everyone knows the tabloids will write any old nonsense if it gets them clicks. No-one knows what either of them are like in real life - TV presenting is a type of acting, they put on a persona. Speculating is pointless.

Would she? They divorced almost 20 years ago. He could have resented her for not moving and him staying. She could have felt he was never really there. One of them could have battled with addiction or mental health problems. One of them could have the not-completely unusual mid-forties slump and have an affair. They could have stayed until the kids were grown and realised they had nothing in common any more. One of them could have realised in their fifties that they were gay.

There’s a whole host of reasons why couples divorce and absolutely no guarantee that they would have not encountered any of those reasons. It’s utterly bizarre you’ve concocted this fantasy that he’d still be being taken off by his first wife if he hadn’t been ambitious.

It's a load of nonsense this carer crap. They can well afford whatever care is needed. Thousands of couples pay for care and just carry on being a couple!

They are both 64 so if she is younger it is only by months.

What are you talking about?

He met his first wife when they were only 17 ffs so it’s hardly surprising they grew apart. Also why are assuming he left her? According to his book, it was actually his first wife who became indifferent to him due to the long distance relationship. There’s also nothing to suggest that she wasn’t supportive of him pursuing his career either as the breadwinner. Sometimes no one does anything wrong & everyone has good intentions but then life takes its toll.

He was with his first wife for 18 years & then with Ruth - who is the same age as him - for 27 years so he hardly has a scandalous relationship history.

He also seems to have always had a very good relationship with all three of his children from his first marriage & they also had a very good relationship with Ruth as well.

Your comments are particularly disgusting as you seem to be overlooking the fact that he has a son with Ruth; do you think he’d rather his son didn’t exist?

Also, he’d been separated from his first wife for 2 years before he got together with Ruth so your notion that they’d still be together now & she would “probably” nurse him in his ill health now is laughable.

Yes the wife who didn't want to move to the uk because their life was in Ireland. His career was more important to him so they drifted apart.

@QueenOfTheLabyrinth what are you on about saying he would prefer his son with Ruth to not exist. That's a disgusting thing to suggest and you are the only one who has said it.

If speculating is 'pointless' why are you doing exactly that? Hmmmm

No that’s what you’re implying by saying it’s sad he’s not still with his first wife & as she “probably” would have looked after him.

I very much doubt he’s “sad” about it as if they had stayed together, he wouldn’t have Jack. I’m sure he’d rather be alone now & have Jack than to have a carer & not have Jack.

You seem more bitter about a stranger’s marriage ending than I am about my own 🤣
You have no idea what went on.

Exactly

@QueenOfTheLabyrinth no I didn't in anyway imply that. Only you did and obviously that is your chain of thought not mine.

Not at all. Sorry you feel that way.

I don't like him as a presenter, he is also a glory seeking Man United supporter.

His private life is not our business though. It would only possibly be if he was a violent or abusive man, and no suggestion of that has ever been made.

You might not have intentionally meant to imply that but take what you’re saying to its logical conclusion.

Or that's where he needed to be to earn enough to support his wife and three children..

Seriously. What do you say about people you don't "love"?

No opinion on EH personally and whether he falls into this bracket, but I think older women are increasingly unwilling to grow into old age with grumpy, lazy and entitled men with whom they can't have a meaningful conversation anymore and in marriages where they shoulder most of the domestic drudgery. I imagine ill health and/or the approach of retirement really brings the issue into focus for many women.

I can't imagine being this gleeful about any couple splitting up after 27 years, let alone a couple I don't even know.

Have a long hard look at yourself OP.

Firstly, there's no such thing as karma.

Secondly, a relationship ending after almost three decades is hardly 'reaping what you sow'. Get over yourself.