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Neighbour flirting with my boyfriend

102 replies

bigsaladorlittlesalad · 30/05/2024 21:20

I’ve lived with my boyfriend for 4 months and it’s his house which he’s probably owned for 5/6 years.

Next door is a single woman (assume she’s single, she lives alone and I’ve never seen a man come over). The day I moved in she pulled up on the shared driveway and gave me the dirtiest look.

I also had a parcel she took in and she didn’t bring it over for a week and her smile literally dropped when it was me opening the door and not my boyfriend.

She’s now just come over to ask if boyfriend minds using her drive whilst she’d away on holiday. Literally any excuse to talk to him.

It’s starting to annoy me so much

OP posts:
Hugosmaid · 30/05/2024 21:21

He was totally shagging her

Cookiecrumblepie · 30/05/2024 21:22

You can’t stop people flirting with him, only he can do that. But you could say something to make her feel uncomfortable. Probably won’t stop her though.

Everythingiscalmfornow · 30/05/2024 21:24

What has your boyfriend said about her?

RampantIvy · 30/05/2024 21:26

If you knew she had your parcel why didn't you go and get it? Isn't it a little self entitled to wait for someone who has done you the favour of taking it in to expect them to deliver it to you as well?

MissUltraViolet · 30/05/2024 21:26

Her asking him if he'd park on her drive while she's away (presumably to offer some security to her house to make it look like someone is home) is flirting?

Surely there is more to this?

Also, why didn't you go and pick your parcel up instead of leaving it sat in her house for a week waiting for her to deliver it?

PurpleBugz · 30/05/2024 21:28

Are you sure it's flirting?

Did she know you were the gf I'd give a dirty look to someone I don't know parking on my shared drive. Or she may just have resting bitch face. Or she may have picked up your feelings to her and be reacting to that.

If someone takes your parcel in you should go collect it yourself not expect them to bring it over?

I've told my male neighbour he can park on my drive while I'm away. He lives with his gf. They don't have a drive and I do and the parking here is bad and it's a bad area i don't want to announce the house is empty. It's just neighbourly interactions?

ManilowBarry · 30/05/2024 21:48

None of what you describe comes anywhere close to flirting.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 30/05/2024 21:51

They’re neighbours for Gods sake. So over the top.

SpringerFall · 30/05/2024 22:01

Do you have jealousy issues? Maybe work on those first, to someone their partner being served by a woman in a shop makes them jealous it is not good

MasterBeth · 30/05/2024 22:03

She sounds insufferable.

ilovesooty · 30/05/2024 22:10

I don't see how this is flirting. And if you know someone has been good enough to take in a parcel for you you go and collect it. Basic manners.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 30/05/2024 22:10

MasterBeth · 30/05/2024 22:03

She sounds insufferable.

You mean the OP right? Neighbour has done nothing wrong

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 30/05/2024 22:17

Non of what you describe is flirting. You construed that she gave you a dirty look but maybe she just looked in your general direction and looked away. No reason for her to have to bring you your parcel is there? If you knew she had it then fetch it yourself.
You're seeing things that aren't there, are you very young?

Lucyccfc68 · 30/05/2024 22:20

Are you usually this insecure and jealous when you are in a relationship? Sure fire way to lose him.

Livelovebehappy · 30/05/2024 22:22

I honestly feel sorry for single women in these situations. If she.was married and doing the same things you've described you'd probably think nothing of it. But because she's single you're making things up in your head. Just because she's single doesnt mean every interaction she has with someone of the opposite sex is motivated by a need to get him into her bed.

BobbyBiscuits · 30/05/2024 22:23

Not acting as a courier by delivering a parcel to you? It's your responsibility to collect it and she did you a favour.
The examples you've given don't scream flirting from the neighbour. It sounds like you're a bit paranoid. Is your partner prone to flirting with women, has he cheated?

poetryandwine · 30/05/2024 22:27

I would collect my parcels from anyone kind enough to take them in.

We also value the security of our neighbourhood. If we had a shared drive we would be glad to honour the request you describe.

Correct me if I am wrong, but context suggests that your partner was the logical person to ask about the parking?

TwattyMcFuckFace · 30/05/2024 22:31

Is "Can you stick it up my drive" a euphemism? 🤔

PashaMinaMio · 30/05/2024 22:33

RampantIvy · 30/05/2024 21:26

If you knew she had your parcel why didn't you go and get it? Isn't it a little self entitled to wait for someone who has done you the favour of taking it in to expect them to deliver it to you as well?

This ^^
Next time go fetch the parcel yourself. She’s not an extension of the courier service.

Meanwhile you have walked into established territory. Let your BF deal with the neighbour.

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/05/2024 22:34

So you don’t trust him?

CantBelieveNaive · 30/05/2024 22:39

It does sound like she fancies him tbh but the question is, does he fancy her or you?! You've obviously put her nose out of joint!
Good luck 😜

NewName24 · 30/05/2024 22:43

I'm not sure you understand the meaning of the word 'flirting'

Underestimated4 · 03/06/2024 09:33

I wouldn’t be bothered by it, she fancies him. I’d see it as a compliment that he choose you; if he wanted her probably could have had her. New boyfriend don’t start showing your jealousy it might just give him the ick.

DottyLottieLou · 03/06/2024 09:46

Why dont you just befriend her.

Aprilrosesews · 03/06/2024 09:50

PurpleBugz · 30/05/2024 21:28

Are you sure it's flirting?

Did she know you were the gf I'd give a dirty look to someone I don't know parking on my shared drive. Or she may just have resting bitch face. Or she may have picked up your feelings to her and be reacting to that.

If someone takes your parcel in you should go collect it yourself not expect them to bring it over?

I've told my male neighbour he can park on my drive while I'm away. He lives with his gf. They don't have a drive and I do and the parking here is bad and it's a bad area i don't want to announce the house is empty. It's just neighbourly interactions?

I think you might be the neighbour 😂