Neighbour flirting with my boyfriend

[bigsaladorlittlesalad]

I’ve lived with my boyfriend for 4 months and it’s his house which he’s probably owned for 5/6 years.

Next door is a single woman (assume she’s single, she lives alone and I’ve never seen a man come over). The day I moved in she pulled up on the shared driveway and gave me the dirtiest look.

I also had a parcel she took in and she didn’t bring it over for a week and her smile literally dropped when it was me opening the door and not my boyfriend.

She’s now just come over to ask if boyfriend minds using her drive whilst she’d away on holiday. Literally any excuse to talk to him.

It’s starting to annoy me so much

My neighbours (married couple in their fifties) always tell us to use their drive when they’re away but now I know they’re trying to shag us I’ll have to warn my husband not to make eye contact next time

Nightmare. My neighbour (late 40s I'd guess - single Mum with a teenage son) asked me if we wanted to park on their drive when they were away last Summer. I hadn't realised it was a secretly coded message for the fact she fancied me. there was me just thinking it was a security thing whilst the house was empty.

As for taking a neighbour's parcel round that had been clogging up my hall for a week because they cba to fetch it I hadn't realised the signals I was sending out when doing that. Mind, I'm not sure Jim's heart would be up for such an offer from me, even had I realised I was inadvertently making it.

do they have pampas grass?

I can believe this woman fancies your boyfriend if that's what your gut is telling you. Gut instinct and women's intuition is real when it comes to this sort of thing. However the important thing is if you trust your boyfriend, as long as you do there should be nothing to worry about.

Also it is etiquette for you to go and get your own parcel.

Sorry, you’ve been with your boyfriend only 4 months and have already moved in? What batshittery is this?

A single woman, living next door to you, who takes in your parcel, and you have a man in the home! Oh my days, you must alert the church elders!

She didn’t say they’ve only been together for 4 months.

They’ve lived together for 4 months.

Am I missing a post?
I cannot see anything that suggests flirting. She asked your BF to park on her drive whilst she’s away. There are some crazy people on here.
Oh, and go and pick up your own parcel. She’s not a bloody delivery service.

@PeonyAndBlushSuede I clearly need my eyes checked!

Ignore me OP, reading comprehension failure on my part, sorry.

What in the fresh hell is this, I take my neighbour's parcels in sometimes. So you're telling me it's not enough I'm saving them a trip to collect it/to arrange re-delivery, but I also have to hand-deliver their shit to them afterwards? What am I, a postman? Like hell. Thankfully my neighbours are not as entitled.

U ok hun?

don't think the church elders would take too kindly to OP "living in sin" with her boyfriend

I suggest the only way for women's wanton urges to be controlled is to form the state of gilead where we are kept indoors at all times and not allowed to even look at men

It’s unusual to wait on a neighbour to bring you your parcel , you would surely have a delivery note or online notification to day it’s been left with neighbour so why wouldn’t you get it yourself? Her face probably was annoyed at having it in her house for a week! You should go and get that next time as your neighbour could easily have said no so it’s decent of them to take it in for you. Also if it was your bfs name and you’re saying she wants any excuse to talk to him then that would mean she would have brought it a lot sooner and made it that he was the one to get it not you. Next issue is you’ve said it’s a shared driveway, so surely she’s going you ask your bf who she already knows as her neighbour to use the drive way that’s quite a common thing as most people don’t like to leave their house empty. You sounds quite young which is totally fine we all live and learn but maybe that’s why you don’t get why she’s asked if your bf can use her driveway I don’t think it sounds like there is anything deeper than that. Alternatively you might be right and she is flirting even though absolutely none of this sounds suspicious to me but I’d try and maybe forget about it because it does seem based on nothing at this point.

If it is actually flirting... if you trust him I personally wouldn't be bothered. I'd enjoy watching her try it. I'd also be a bit flattered that someone's possibly after my bf.

I’m not sure this is the best place for this kind of message the girls obviously worried herself she doesn’t need this - sorry this was in response to someone going a bit mental about cheating and it’s not letting me delete

LOL

This sounds very primary school and not like flirting?

Haha none of that is flirting

Honestly no, doesn't sound like flirting. She doesn't not seem to be flirting with him and more importantly he isn't flirting with her. They seem neighbourly.
Relax and enjoy this new chapter with your boyfriend

Darling, put the wine down. Its not helping matters.

If that's all that's happened in four months, I think you're overreacting. The dirty look could have been misinterpreted. You should have gone to retrieve your parcel rather than waiting for her. The drive thing is not remotely flirtatious, on the surface of it. It's entirely possible that she likes him or dislikes you for some reason, but it's not like she's constantly asking him to come over and help with things or keeping him talking outside every evening after work.

For heaven's sake. The OP has posted about a situation which has annoyed them and you all sound so nasty and judgemental, I am thoroughly reminded why I left MN for so long!

@bigsaladorlittlesalad if we're all honest, most of us have been on this situation on your side or the other, or know someone who has.

Instinct (or gut feeling) is a great indicator of when someone (in this case, the neighbour) likes or dislikes us. This neighbour sounds like she very much dislikes you.

Have you spoken with DP about what's happened?

No @GrannyNannyMagratandGreebo
The OP has asked people if she is being unreasonable or not.

On the evidence she has provided, everyone has been explaining to her why she IBU.

If we are seeking out people who are being 'nasty or judgemental' , then perhaps you could look at the OP, who is throwing accusations about without any reason, about a normal neighbour.
Perhaps you could judge her rather than everyone replying.

😂😂

She’s asked him to park on her drive. Nothing suggestive about that. Now if she’d asked him to take her up the OXO Tower you could be on to something.