Neighbour flirting with my boyfriend

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I’ve lived with my boyfriend for 4 months and it’s his house which he’s probably owned for 5/6 years.

Next door is a single woman (assume she’s single, she lives alone and I’ve never seen a man come over). The day I moved in she pulled up on the shared driveway and gave me the dirtiest look.

I also had a parcel she took in and she didn’t bring it over for a week and her smile literally dropped when it was me opening the door and not my boyfriend.

She’s now just come over to ask if boyfriend minds using her drive whilst she’d away on holiday. Literally any excuse to talk to him.

It’s starting to annoy me so much

Agreed. Two facial expressions and a request about drive usage? It’s hardly frolicking in a negligee in the front garden and suggesting he come around to examine her etchings.

The protocol for parcels is that the person whose parcel ur is makes the effort to go and collect it, thanking the person who was kind enough to take it in for them.

My mum's neighbour George (retired headmaster with heart problem) used to ask my mum to park on his front when he went away. I doubt they were shagging on the shagpile in the meantime.

You sound very insecure, tbh.

Maybe the neighbour does fancy him. Maybe they've been fucking for years. But she's not moved in with him, has she?

Think we need more info to establish if she is flirting

1. You should have collected your own package rather than expecting her to bring it
2. My parents’ neighbour often asks them to park on their drive when he’s away. I’m pretty sure 70 year old Allan isn’t flirting when he does that

Doesn't sound like flirting, is there more instances you haven't told us?

I'd be a bit grouchy if someone I didn't know pulled into my driveway TBH. And if the neighbours take on a parcel for me, I go and collect it ASAP, I don't wait for them to carry my parcel across, seeing as I've already disturbed them by the courier going to them anyway.

Either tell us the back story or relax a little (a lot).

It sounds like you have issues. The neighbour seems entirely normal.

People CHEAT= FACT.
People flirt, which leads to CHEATING.
Sometimes its close to home,
Sometimes its right under our Nose.
In plain sight.
Set them up so you can ' Walk in on them'
Make it be known that you are going on a trip ( pretend)... Then WALK IN ON THEM. Its the only way to be sure theyre having it off.
Unless youve been living under a rock , Im afraid its all too common.
Everyone shouting ITS A FREE COUNTRY. I was in a relationship years ago and spent most of it at the pox clinic because of CHEATING.. I didnt realise WHY at the time but since Im SINGLE for years , now I know!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe take a breath.

You ok?

Not anywhere in this post has anyone said it's a free country. A look at OP, a parcel she didn't have to deliver and a heads up she's away are not flirting. It's pretty standard neighbour behaviour, except a dirty look which may not have been real.

Don't project your past onto someone else's present.

No I really don't want whatever you have having

I don't think she likes you, but none of your examples are what I would think of as flirting...
Also YABU not to have claimed the parcel sooner. The onus was on you for that, not her.

You sound super insecure.

Of course she wanted to see your bf when you answered the door. She doesnt know you !

Shes been aroynd to maje a perfectly normal request regarding her house security

If i was your bf i would run for the hills

Kill her with kindness

But neither the boyfriend or the neighbour have done anything to indicate there might be cheating going on. Literally nothing.

If OP starts with this mad shit testing him and trying to "catch him at it" she's just going to sabotage her own relationship.

With all due respect get some help with your own paranoia and mistrust before giving advice to other people.

Thats what i was thinking i dont read any flirting.

You expect neighbours who have taken in a parcel for you to deliver it to you, not go and collect it yourself?

None of what you have said sounds like flirting to me.. just normal neighbourly conduct. She may not have known who you were when you parked on the drive, not known your name when she had the parcel. Have you said hi? Or is she reading off your vibe as well.

Have I missed the part where she's flirting with your boyfriend?

I shag every fanciable male neighbour 🥴😂(Heavy sarcasm).

Ooh me too 😆

Ignoring the flirting issue, it is generally good form to go and collect any parcels that your neighbours have taken in on your behalf. Using them as a personal delivery service is somewhat entitled and lazy.

So sick of everyone thinking single women just wanna shag everyone's mouldy ass husbands and boyfriends. People who are single are not desperate (I'm not single but I also don't think every single woman is out to get 'my man')

Dad bod Nige in his Sports Direct knock off trackie and sliders while washing his Ford Focus is a bit phoaaaar though. How is a woman to resist.

yep the neighbour definitely flirting. I mean she is single, and all single women think about all day every day is how to get their next man.

you should tell your bf to move... to a monastery...

Agree with this. I'm married, I fancy DH and so obviously think he's pretty fanciable. But, in the same way as I don't fancy every other woman's man, it's safe to assume that every female that sees him isn't desperate to get in his pants.

Some, sure. But not every single one in his vicinity.