To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

[Maythefoursbewithyou]

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

I hope you aren’t leaving your children who are in their 30’s on their own ever @Kjpt140v goodness knows what could happen, they could end up apple bobbing unsupervised and drown in the sink.

Imagine coming into a thread and thinking “How can I be as unkind and judgmental as possible? I know! I’ll pretend I am the parent of small children even though I’m not”

A chip pan in the shed! 😱 All that wood! 😱😱

I know, imagine if nanna started a thread on MN she’d have been crucified 🤣🤣apparently she didn’t want a smelly kitchen

@YaMuvva 😂

My son is an early riser, 5 am starts which I can't function on so he gets up, gets his breakfast and sits watching rubbish till we get up at 7. Neglectful no, independent yes. He is 7, goes to our local shop for me too. Children are too wrapped in cotton wool these days. They turn into 11 year old still needing their mummy to be driving them to school when they should be catching the bus. He sounds lovely OP, feel free to appreciate and crack on. He is modelling the love and kindness you've shown him when he is feeling rubbish.

But @Samthedog71717 what if on the way to the shop he trips on a paving slab, falls into a black hole that happens to have opened nearby and is followed by an XL Bully? Let me tell you about an urban myth from a little boy I heard of who maybe or maybe didn’t fall down a black hole whilst fetching a curly wurly for his mum

Your 7 year old can carry a pint of orange squash?

Yeah, right! 😂

I thought she said she had young children to care for? So could be supervising grandkids?

Don't think I said that, I have grandchildren that I care for most days. You are not very nice are you.

Yrh, the kids are experts, and when faced with burning oil they know exactly what to do.

I’m lovely and I don’t overreact to other people’s perfectly fine parenting

I hope you never ever ever leave their side.

I’ve never heard a grandparent describe their grandkids this way. You don’t “have” them at all. You babysit, inbetween making nasty drama llama comments to strangers

You would be hard pushed to fund carers for £108.55 per week that are going to then come in and get you the disabled parent ready, plus then dress your children, feed them and do the school run.

Plus repeat for evening meal, return from school, bedtime, your own needs as a disabled person.

Plus a lot of people who do get high rate care can't work, and possibly did before so really the disability benefit ends up being spent on bills and mortgage payments and family including children end up having to be carers for free. Well they get fed and have a roof over their head and in my house a whole lot of love.

Your son sounds lovely OP, as a one off he is just being very sweet to mummy.

£108.55 and the rest

You really don't read what is written. I have to say, you sound a bit thick.

Have you fallen in love with me? You seem to be obsessed.

@LeopardsRockingham

If a person is longterm disabled and needs help with personal care, meals and so on there is an assessment made and they will receive care in the community based on their needs, whether it is chargeable depends on level of income/savings and which U.K. region you live in.

Relative to children, there are supports that can be put in place as well but there does come a point where - if there is no husband or other family support - they may recommend foster care or similar depending on the age of child, their needs and the extent of disability in the parent.

People can worry a lot about being able to fund personal care and about being separated from their children. But things are set up to keep families together and provide as much support as possible where it is required and there is no adult carer available. This support doesn’t come out of PIP payments.

@Kjpt140v thank you for this comment! I'm saving it for the next time I'm jumped on by an obsessive mn person who becomes over invested & won't shut up until they've had the last word! (Looking at you @sarahandquack ) 🤣🤣 wish I'd thought of it myself!

Not all disabled people get any benefits

As a homeowner and struggling to pay for it.

PIP high rate care is £108.55 per week
You may also get the motability element but lots nees to use it for an adapted vehicle, but ok say you use the money thats £75.75

If you are on a legacy benefit of contributions based ESA you get max £138.20, if you weren't on it before and are now assessed by UC and your partner earns over the threshold you get a reduced amount or none at all

As always its explained here repeatedly being disabled is expensive.

I have a disabled child and I'm a disabled parent.

In an assessment for carers I can have them come and give assistance to me, but they cannot touch my child. My needs mean I would get food prepared ie heated up meals, but only for me.

The carers can also come in for my child but they cannot touch me. This wouldn't work for him. His needs mean he doesn't need feeding.

We live too close to the school for school transport.

The system in place here doesn't do joined up thinking.

He did have funded childcare when he was younger as I couldn't safely look after him (I became disabled after he was born) but I also couldn't get care that would get both of us ready to get him to the childcare, so DH had to cut his hours to get DS ready reducing our household income even more.

People seriously need to unclench.
If you can't enjoy your life because an Eagle might fly through the window and steal your 13 year old while you're sleeping/weeing/looking out the other window.
You aren't really living
Lighten up ffs

I think he sounds delightful and I hope you enjoyed the snuggles.
He probably won’t remember bringing you squash, biscuits and your favourite programme. But you will remember it forever.
My 3 years old knows I’ve got to have an operation after being in hospital with gallstones and pancreatitis and will regularly ask me if I’m better and then give me cuddles (snuggles only happen in a morning for us), but I sincerely hope my little boy does lovely things like that for as long as possible! Xx

@YaMuvva paving slabs and out of control xl bully's are an issue but he is training with a sumo wrestling team so he'll be grand 😉

Coming from someone who claims a woman having a lie in has “abandoned her children all day”, that does it insult me