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To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

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Maythefoursbewithyou · 26/05/2024 11:20

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

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Jc2001 · 27/05/2024 15:21

ExhaustedHousewife · 26/05/2024 14:40

A pool and a gardener,anything else you want to stealth boast about.

Maybe if worked a bit harder you could enjoy the nice things in life too. Stop whining.

Robinni · 27/05/2024 15:24

Crazedndazed · 27/05/2024 15:15

So you’ve never not once done something to deviate from this, say a trip to a show, fireworks, a holiday? Sounds like borstal

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@Crazedndazed

You’re seriously saying I treat my kids like they’re in a detention centre because they have a bedtime routine?!

Of course there are times when we are travelling or whatever that later nights are unavoidable.

But they end up waking at the same time anyway and then are tired and grumpy all day, what’s the point in that.

Away to rest properly. Take care all.

Beezknees · 27/05/2024 15:24

Jc2001 · 27/05/2024 15:21

Maybe if worked a bit harder you could enjoy the nice things in life too. Stop whining.

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This comment is just as stupid as the one you quoted. "Work harder" what a novel idea. 🙄

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 15:24

Robinni · 27/05/2024 15:02

@stealthlentil

because I have flu/vomiting and my DH has kids 😊

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That’s no excuse for you not to get up and spend the day with them

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 15:26

Beezknees · 27/05/2024 15:24

This comment is just as stupid as the one you quoted. "Work harder" what a novel idea. 🙄

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I think that poster is taking the piss to the “just hire a carer!” Posts to the disabled mum who has posted about her kids helping out

Beezknees · 27/05/2024 15:28

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 15:26

I think that poster is taking the piss to the “just hire a carer!” Posts to the disabled mum who has posted about her kids helping out

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Doesn't really make much sense to be honest, why quote someone else's post to make that point?

Crazedndazed · 27/05/2024 15:31

Robinni · 27/05/2024 15:24

@Crazedndazed

You’re seriously saying I treat my kids like they’re in a detention centre because they have a bedtime routine?!

Of course there are times when we are travelling or whatever that later nights are unavoidable.

But they end up waking at the same time anyway and then are tired and grumpy all day, what’s the point in that.

Away to rest properly. Take care all.

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Are you seriously treating the OP like a negligent hot mess of a mother because she relaxed the routine on the weekend?

TheCoolOliveBalonz · 27/05/2024 16:16

What are all these parents of 7 year olds doing with them before 10am on a Sunday which is so vital? My kids are younger but they just get up, play, watch TV, get themselves breakfast. What is it I'm meant to be doing with them that that has to happen at that time?! My parents left me alone until about 11am. After which, I was allowed to go play out. No idea why they had to be up for me to go play out but there we are. I don't remember feeling neglected ffs. I had to empty the dishwasher in the morning! Is that parentification? I remember enjoying having free rein of the TV and living room tbh. Not sure when I started making them tea but certainly at primary level. This helicoptoring sounds horribly oppressive imo.

Jc2001 · 27/05/2024 16:20

Beezknees · 27/05/2024 15:24

This comment is just as stupid as the one you quoted. "Work harder" what a novel idea. 🙄

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To be honest it was just a flippant comment. I just sick of people derailing conversations by having a 'stealth' pop at someone because they've done alright for themselves as if it's something to be ashamed of.

Cattery · 27/05/2024 16:26

Crazedndazed · 27/05/2024 15:15

So you’ve never not once done something to deviate from this, say a trip to a show, fireworks, a holiday? Sounds like borstal

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Sounds like the army tbh

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:02

You don't deserve him, he doesn't deserve parents who are so irresponsible. You abandoned him that day.

TheShellBeach · 27/05/2024 19:03

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:02

You don't deserve him, he doesn't deserve parents who are so irresponsible. You abandoned him that day.

What?

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:08

Maythefoursbewithyou · 26/05/2024 11:49

Oh I see this has been misinterpreted, my little one I think/hope has no idea what a hangover is, he just responded to a mummy who was tired/ despondant and not really giving the usual enthusiastic energy he knows and loves and biscuits and squash were a pretty intuitive move for him. To be fair, that's kinda what we do when we're sad, feeling crap anyway. Furthermore, he is at this funny age where he is always trying to be this independent and aloof character but deep down enjoys cuddles and watching emotive nonsense on TV in my bed and I'm just enjoying him because every day I see him getting more independent and less cuddly so I just cherish him really. He was in the pool till about 9:30 pm so has only just woken up himself, his father should be left to sleep though, he's been on a six day back to back shift and is so so tired. I've literally closed the door to his dad's bedroom and said we must leave him until he comes out. Meanwhile I'm chuffed to have my son in the bed and a tin of biscuits, what's not to like?

My God this gets worse.

LuckySantangelo35 · 27/05/2024 19:18

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:02

You don't deserve him, he doesn't deserve parents who are so irresponsible. You abandoned him that day.

@Kjpt140v

lol you been drinking??

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:23

Maythefoursbewithyou · 26/05/2024 12:30

Wow, I didn't mean this to turn into anything quite so serious and aggressive 😂 like there are people actually condemning our parenting and suggesting my son's neglected 😂 he's an absolutely smashing kid, gentle, caring, affectionate and sweet natured. The other day he spent about 2 hrs just lugging bits of tree about for our gardener because he wanted to help him. He's also a pretty amazing little chef too, but I suppose there'll be people panicking in here saying that he's too young to boil pasta or chop onions. I don't know, I think he's amazing and very sweet and he's also very well provided for too. Perhaps I am a terrible parent for waking up a bit rough after a night out, most people in my profession do it a lot and are often out late, for me it's a couple of times a year and usually involves ordering a huge takeaway and watching a lot of movies and shite on TV. He'll live I'm sure.

Would you like me tell you about a fire I attended whilst I was in the fire service?

Mom was in bed having been hit by a migrane. She'd phoned her mother to come and look after her so who was 10 at the time. Whilst waiting, son thought he'd cook chips for mom's tea. He put the oil on heat, and went to watch TV, whilst waiting for oil to "boil". Eventually, he went to check and found the oil in flames. He quickly filled a jug with water and threw the water over the burning oil. Would you like me to describe the state of his face and arms when we arrived, the scrams of pain, and the guilt feelings (unjustified) his mother was feeling? There is always a danger when a child is left at home alone, even teenagers can find themselves in difficulty.

Vistada · 27/05/2024 19:26

My god the arseholes just keep coming!

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:28

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:02

You don't deserve him, he doesn't deserve parents who are so irresponsible. You abandoned him that day.

😂😂😂😂😂

Who SPEAKS like this in real life

Crazedndazed · 27/05/2024 19:29

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:02

You don't deserve him, he doesn't deserve parents who are so irresponsible. You abandoned him that day.

You been in the sauce too? That’s the only explanation for such a stupid comment

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:29

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:08

My God this gets worse.

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How?

Was it because the OP had Bacardi? I agree it’s a gross drink, the heathen she is

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:31

Kjpt140v · 27/05/2024 19:23

Would you like me tell you about a fire I attended whilst I was in the fire service?

Mom was in bed having been hit by a migrane. She'd phoned her mother to come and look after her so who was 10 at the time. Whilst waiting, son thought he'd cook chips for mom's tea. He put the oil on heat, and went to watch TV, whilst waiting for oil to "boil". Eventually, he went to check and found the oil in flames. He quickly filled a jug with water and threw the water over the burning oil. Would you like me to describe the state of his face and arms when we arrived, the scrams of pain, and the guilt feelings (unjustified) his mother was feeling? There is always a danger when a child is left at home alone, even teenagers can find themselves in difficulty.

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Alright Keith Lard calm down

Firstly 10 isn’t a teenager.
Secondly he wasn’t alone, neither was the OP’s so
Thirdly do you follow your children round like a weirdo 100% of the time? What happens when you have a wee?

Cattery · 27/05/2024 19:32

Bacardi? Oooo. My drink of choice is lager. Never did my kids any harm.

Cattery · 27/05/2024 19:33

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:31

Alright Keith Lard calm down

Firstly 10 isn’t a teenager.
Secondly he wasn’t alone, neither was the OP’s so
Thirdly do you follow your children round like a weirdo 100% of the time? What happens when you have a wee?

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“Burn baby burn, disco inferno, burn that mother down”

Crazedndazed · 27/05/2024 19:33

Cattery · 27/05/2024 19:32

Bacardi? Oooo. My drink of choice is lager. Never did my kids any harm.

off with your head!

you’ve had a single sip of alcohol since you had the little darlings! How negligent!

Cattery · 27/05/2024 19:34

@Crazedndazed The amount of times I was pissed I should be burned at the stake

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:34

Cattery · 27/05/2024 19:33

“Burn baby burn, disco inferno, burn that mother down”

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It’s like when you go Ona fire training course for work and some sanctimonious ex firefighter who loses their shit because you once smoked a fag in a club 🤣