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175k salary and all gone

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175allgone · 26/05/2024 02:02

This will ruffle some feathers, but after tax, mortgage , childcare, living expenses….there doesn’t seem much left. SE London, commuting, wrap around care. Whilst I appreciate I’m not having to watch my bills I’m hardly living an extravagant lifestyle.

OP posts:
Grinchinlaws · 26/05/2024 17:37

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:35

@Grinchinlaws I don’t even know where to start with this. I think you need to start by googling things like “how is the state pension funded” and “why is the UK’s declining birth rate a problem”.

Your children will look after you first and foremost. They will do nothing for me apart from paying taxes, a very tiny fraction of which will benefit me. I can fund my own pension by saving, and it will be easier for me to save if I stop funding your children and let you fund them instead.

Aside from that, speaking personally, last year I paid over £100kin tax. I also paid my nanny’s salary, including taxes, out of mypost taxincome.

Yes, when you buy stuff, you do so using your post tax income because income tax is paid first. That's how tax works.

Unless you are in the tiny minority of people who earns more than me, you are a directly benefitting from the fact that I have childcare which enables me to work.

I am not benefitting from your grotesque salary in any way, and I will politely ask you to show more consideration towards people who earn normal salaries and lead normal lives.

Where do you think my taxes are going? What do you think they are paying for?

wintersgold · 26/05/2024 17:38

This sounds about right. In London a salary of £175k is hardly extravagant and no, won't get you a luxurious lifestyle.

rzb · 26/05/2024 17:39

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:04

Incorrect. Childcare enables you to work so you can save money to buy a new car or go on a holiday in a different country, while no such luxuries are granted to the rest of us. It's MY taxes that are being used to fund other people's children, so it's not benefitting me.

Do you have your own children who are fully intending and signed up to wipe your bottom when you're too frail to do so yourself, or are you intending to rely on other people's children to do this for you?

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:42

@Grinchinlaws Where do you think my taxes are going? What do you think they are paying for?

If you didn't have your salary, then people on normal salaries could benefit from an increased salary.

Corally · 26/05/2024 17:42

£175k income. Thoughts and prayers.

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:43

rzb · 26/05/2024 17:39

Do you have your own children who are fully intending and signed up to wipe your bottom when you're too frail to do so yourself, or are you intending to rely on other people's children to do this for you?

I seriously doubt anyone else's children are going to wipe my arse. Have you asked yours, and what did they say?

DodoTired · 26/05/2024 17:43

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:35

@Grinchinlaws I don’t even know where to start with this. I think you need to start by googling things like “how is the state pension funded” and “why is the UK’s declining birth rate a problem”.

Your children will look after you first and foremost. They will do nothing for me apart from paying taxes, a very tiny fraction of which will benefit me. I can fund my own pension by saving, and it will be easier for me to save if I stop funding your children and let you fund them instead.

Aside from that, speaking personally, last year I paid over £100kin tax. I also paid my nanny’s salary, including taxes, out of mypost taxincome.

Yes, when you buy stuff, you do so using your post tax income because income tax is paid first. That's how tax works.

Unless you are in the tiny minority of people who earns more than me, you are a directly benefitting from the fact that I have childcare which enables me to work.

I am not benefitting from your grotesque salary in any way, and I will politely ask you to show more consideration towards people who earn normal salaries and lead normal lives.

How ironic 🤣 you are demanding consideration while showing zero consideration and even disdain towards people who subsidise you and others on ‘normal salaries’ so they can lead normal lives. Show some consideration yourself

DodoTired · 26/05/2024 17:44

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:42

@Grinchinlaws Where do you think my taxes are going? What do you think they are paying for?

If you didn't have your salary, then people on normal salaries could benefit from an increased salary.

Are you on crack 🤣

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:45

DodoTired · 26/05/2024 17:43

How ironic 🤣 you are demanding consideration while showing zero consideration and even disdain towards people who subsidise you and others on ‘normal salaries’ so they can lead normal lives. Show some consideration yourself

Now, people who suck freakish levels of wealth from the system are "benefitting" me in some way.

We have truly reached peak clown planet.

EasternStandard · 26/05/2024 17:45

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:42

@Grinchinlaws Where do you think my taxes are going? What do you think they are paying for?

If you didn't have your salary, then people on normal salaries could benefit from an increased salary.

Can you say more on this

Who and how?

wombat15 · 26/05/2024 17:48

I find the assumption that everyone on MN is being subsidised by high earners quite obnoxious although in some ways quite funny. I wonder if the posters saying this think they are achieving.

DodoTired · 26/05/2024 17:48

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:45

Now, people who suck freakish levels of wealth from the system are "benefitting" me in some way.

We have truly reached peak clown planet.

yes, because- newsflash - all public services are paid from tax revenue, and majority of tax revenue comes from small number of high earners, so please learn to be grateful to those who pay for police, prisons, civil service, NHS, schools, roads etc

tigesa · 26/05/2024 17:49

Grinchinlaws · 26/05/2024 17:37

Where do you think my taxes are going? What do you think they are paying for?

@shuggles of course you are benefiting if you earn less than @Grinchinlaws . Do you understand how the tax system works?!

tigesa · 26/05/2024 17:50

DodoTired · 26/05/2024 17:48

yes, because- newsflash - all public services are paid from tax revenue, and majority of tax revenue comes from small number of high earners, so please learn to be grateful to those who pay for police, prisons, civil service, NHS, schools, roads etc

@shuggles nobody is ‘sucking’ wealth.

Its called working for it?

SwingingPonytail · 26/05/2024 17:51

shuggles · 26/05/2024 17:45

Now, people who suck freakish levels of wealth from the system are "benefitting" me in some way.

We have truly reached peak clown planet.

@shuggles I'm sorry but you seem quite ignorant of basic economics and how tax is taken from those earning the most and distributed to those earning less, either as benefits, NHS care, state schooling, etc etc.

Without the tax from high earners, the Treasury would be stuffed.

I don't understand 'sucking freakish levels of wealth from the system'.

Does this mean they are high earners? Is that what you're saying?

It's called 'work' if you didn't know.

Lavender14 · 26/05/2024 17:51

GogAndMagog · 26/05/2024 02:44

How much is your house worth with that mortgage??

We live on 55k between us, no childcare now. Small house, 2 kids, 1 old car. In London.

Tiny house and mortgage not so big.

You chose to live in Islington and have two kids. You could have lived somewhere not so expensive where childcare is cheaper. These were your choices, Hard to summon much care to be frank.

@GogAndMagog I think this is somewhat unfair. It's not unreasonable for someone on such a high income to have 2 children, the ever spiralling costs of childcare and col isn't ops fault. And people need to be able to live within a reasonable commuting distance of their job. A few years ago people would have been able to easily have bigger families and still afford what they needed to. This is the fault of the gov, greedy landlords, people who own multiple homes not ops fault.

eurochick · 26/05/2024 17:54

"Aside from that, speaking personally, last year I paid over £100kin tax. I also paid my nanny’s salary, including taxes, out of mypost taxincome.

Yes, when you buy stuff, you do so using your post tax income because income tax is paid first. That's how tax works. "

@shuggles that is not how tax usually works when employing someone. When a business employs someone, that is a cost and (in general terms) business taxes are assessed on profits, ie revenue minus costs, including employment costs. Nanny employers are usual in having to pay a salary out of already taxed income.

tattygrl · 26/05/2024 17:55

I'm staggered that for many people, 1k DI a month isn't a lot. Absolutely mind blown. That's less than I live on a month. How do we manage? No holidays, no new clothes (secondhand), lots of walking and public transport, batch cooking, and so on. This kind of post ruffles feathers because of the "Ooh, how do people cope?" schtick when the answer to that is, by not doing 90% of the enjoyable life enhancing things you do. Holidays, new clothing regularly, buying ingredients every week for whatever meal you fancy rather than strict meal planning, hair cuts, other beauty treatments, etc. It doesn't take a lot of thinking.

wombat15 · 26/05/2024 17:55

upthehills1 · 26/05/2024 17:06

Where did I say they are 'worth' more than anyone else? It's pretty simple economics and we do not live in a communist society where everyone earns the same take home pay. Or is that what you think we should do?

Those on higher salaries have more money, it's simple. If they end up paying so much in tax that they do not have more money, they will simply not work to achieve that high salary as they would not see any benefit from it. Equally, if those on lower salaries are 'topped up' by benefits and tax relief so that they basically net the equivalent take home cash, those on high salaries feel it is pointless trying to succeed further in their career and earning potential. Then what do we do?

If those on high salaries decide they don't want to get promoted and earn more, I am sure some of those on lower salaries will be happy to take the job instead.

SwingingPonytail · 26/05/2024 17:57

What is a bit of an eye opener here considering there's an election coming is how some posters don't even understand the tax system and basic economics.

It's become clear that some posters prefer to insult people who are high earners rather than asking themselves why they are NOT a high earner (because they are clearly envious of those who are.)

Education? Ambition? Don't like hard work?

SwingingPonytail · 26/05/2024 17:59

wombat15 · 26/05/2024 17:55

If those on high salaries decide they don't want to get promoted and earn more, I am sure some of those on lower salaries will be happy to take the job instead.

Only if they are capable.

You don't get promoted just by wanting it.

It often takes years of study, long hours and dedication.

DownWithThisKindOfThing · 26/05/2024 17:59

YABU

yout kids won’t be in childcare forever so that’ll free up a chunk. Unless you then stick them in a private school of course.

PrinnyPree · 26/05/2024 18:01

Actually at £8500 take home a month you're numbers aren't adding up. You said "we" which I'm assuming you have 2 take home pays and since you have a childcare bill of £4k I'm assuming you both work full time. I would have thought your take home is closer to £10k or £11k a month?

shuggles · 26/05/2024 18:03

tigesa · 26/05/2024 17:50

@shuggles nobody is ‘sucking’ wealth.

Its called working for it?

If you say so, dear. People who are rich all worked for it, and the rest of us are just lazy (even though there was a high earner who claimed to be "shattered" after working only 50 hours a week).

Given the volume of outrageous replies there have been to this thread. I will be reporting this to clown planet.

upthehills1 · 26/05/2024 18:06

wombat15 · 26/05/2024 17:55

If those on high salaries decide they don't want to get promoted and earn more, I am sure some of those on lower salaries will be happy to take the job instead.

Would they if it meant they don’t see any net income increase?

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